by Gerald Corey & Marianne Schneider Corey with Michelle Muratori Brooks/ Cole, Cengage Learning, Inc. 1

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 The Serenity Prayer “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”  What are your personal reactions to the Serenity Prayer? 3 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 We are social beings and many of our relationships are affected by relationships with others  Self-esteem and other-esteem should not be thought of as polar opposites  Other-esteem involves respect, acceptance, caring, valuing, and promoting of others  Strive to see the world anew by reexamining your present beliefs and values 4 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Precontemplation stage : one has no intention of changing a behavior pattern in the near future  Contemplation stage: one is aware of a problem and is considering overcoming it, but has not yet made a commitment to take action  Preparation stage: one intends to take action immediately and reports small behavioral changes 5 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Action stage: one is taking steps to modify his or her behavior to solve a problem  Maintenance stage: one works to consolidate the gains made and to prevent relapse 6 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 A subjective matter: Our perceptions and feelings about what we have are crucial in bringing us happiness  Ingredients considered very important for overall happiness: love and intimate relationships, work, genetics, and personality  Largely a function of the choices we make 7 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Positive psychology movement emphasizes what makes people happy and well-being  Founder: Martin Seligman  The study of positive emotions and positive character traits  Distinguishes subjective from objective well- being  Shares common principles with humanistic psychology 8 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Self-actualization is the core of a humanistic view of people  Self-actualization is a process you work toward, rather than a final destination at which you arrive  Striving for growth implies becoming all you are capable of becoming  Abraham Maslow’s model of the self-actualizing person offers a foundation for understanding growth 9 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Alfred Adler stressed self-determination and viewed people as creative, active, goal-oriented, and choice- making beings  Carl Jung believed that humans are not merely shaped by past events, but strive for growth as well  Carl Rogers stressed the importance of nonjudgmental listening and acceptance as a condition for people to feel free enough to change  Abraham Maslow emphasized joy, creativity, and self- fulfillment 10 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Natalie Rogers believed the creative arts could be used to help clients express deep emotions often inaccessible through words  Virginia Satir was highly intuitive and believed spontaneity, creativity, humor, self-disclosure, risk- taking, and personal touch were central to family therapy  Zerka Moreno believed healing could occur by exploring past, present, and future concerns through enacting or role playing dramatic scenarios from one’s life 11 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Once the lower need is satisfied, then the next higher need motivates us 5) Need for self-actualization 4) Esteem needs 3) Love needs 2) Safety needs 1) Physical and survival needs 12 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Self-awareness  Freedom  Basic honesty and caring  Trust and autonomy 13 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Choice theory posits that everything we do can be explained in terms of our attempts to satisfy our basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power or achievement, freedom or independence, and fun  Choice theory underlies the practice of reality therapy  Our “total behavior” is always our best attempt to get what we want to satisfy our needs 14 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 The key procedures used in the practice of reality therapy are captured by the acronym WDEP  W = wants and needs  D = direction and doing  E = self-evaluation  P = planning 15 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Verbal-linguistic  Musical-rhythmic  Logical-mathematical  Visual-spacial  Bodily-kinesthetic  Intrapersonal  Interpersonal  Emotional  Naturalist 16 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Your mindset can determine whether you become the person you want to be and live up to your potential  If you believe that your qualities are etched in stone (a fixed mindset ), you will have to prove yourself over and over again  By contrast, if you have a growth mindset, you can cultivate your basic qualities through your own efforts 17 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth

 Take time to prepare for class by reading and reflecting  Be willing to take risks necessary for change  Use the class to explore your beliefs about personal topics  Practice new behavior outside of the class  Keep a personal journal 18 Chapter 1: Invitation to Personal Learning and Growth