1. Anger Management Skills

2. Does everybody experience anger?
Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re going to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to you. And that matters, because how you act leads to consequences.

3. TRIGGERS What bugs you? Something that happens that makes you angry
What triggers you does not always trigger someone else.

4. ANGER TRIGGERS If you know your anger triggers, then you can either:
1. Try to avoid them
2. Learn how to deal with them.

5. Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
ANGER CUES
Clenched fist
Loud voice
Your body sends you signals, when you’re getting angry.
Red face
Racing & pounding heartbeat
Upset stomach
Sweat

6. ANGER CUES
What are your anger cues?

7. What’s your anger style?
When your anger is triggered, you’re going to react in some way. The way you react is called your ANGER STYLE.
Dumping
Acting Out
Burying

8. ACTING OUT Easiest to recognize
It’s when you strike out at the person you are mad at: physically or verbally.
YOU’RE OUT OF CONTROL!!!!

9. DUMPING DISPLACED ANGER
Shifting your feelings to someone you feel it’s safe to be mad at.
Ex. Guy gets mad at his boss, comes home & yells at his wife, who yells at the kids, who kick the dog!!

10. BURYING
When you hold your anger down inside yourself because you think it isn’t nice to have those feelings.
Denying you’re angry isn’t dealing with it.
It can come out in other ways: headaches, stomachaches, anxious, depressed
One day you might explode!!

11. DEALING WITH ANGER
When you find yourself angry, REMEMBER the only behavior you can manage is YOUR own!!!
So, pay attention to your anger cues.
And, if you feel like you’re going to lose it…

12. Imagine you are in a peaceful place.
Get a grip!!!
1. Cool off, stay calm.
Walk away
Count to 10
Take deep breaths
Use calming self-talk: “I can handle this. Chill. It’s not as bad as it seems.”
Imagine you are in a peaceful place.

13. 2. Give yourself some time to sort things out.
Write the problem down on paper.
Think it through. Ask yourself: What really happened? How was I triggered? What were my cues?
Talk it over with a friend or adult you trust.
Tell how you feel to the person making you angry.

14. 3. Turn your angry energy into a change for the better.
Channel your angry energy into a physical activity
HOW???

15. The difference comes in what you do about it.
EVERYBODY GETS ANGRY
That’s just how it is.
The difference comes in what you do about it.
SO:
GET A GRIP!!!