Presentation on theme: "Promoting Social Emotional Competence Promoting Children’s Success: Alternatives to Anger and Impulse."— Presentation transcript:
Promoting Social Emotional Competence Promoting Children’s Success: Alternatives to Anger and Impulse
The single best childhood predictor of adult adaptation is not school grades, and not classroom behavior, but rather, the adequacy with which the child gets along with other children. -Willard Hartup, President of International Society for the Study of Behavioral Development Remember… Social Skills are Important! 3
4 Review…When Do We Teach Social Skills?
Identifying Feelings in Self and Others Learning words for different feelings Empathy training Learning to recognize how someone else is feeling Facial cues Body language Tone of voice Situational cues Learning that all feelings are valid but should be expressed in an appropriate manner Learning how to control anger, relax, and calm down
Controlling Anger and Impulse Before children can learn to problem solve, they must learn to control anger and impulse This involves three concepts: Recognizing anger in oneself and others Knowing how to calm down Expressing anger in appropriate ways
7 Discussion: Learning to Calm Down With your co-teachers, define “calm” and “tense” in developmentally appropriate terms for your classroom. How could you teach these emotional states to children?
Take 3 deep breaths… Adapted from Incredible Years Dinosaur School 9 Relaxation Thermometer
Turtle Technique Recognize that you feel angry. “Think”Stop. Go into shell. Take 3 deep breathes. And think calm, coping thoughts. Come out of shell when calm and think of a solution. 10
11 Tucker Turtle Takes Time to Tuck and Think A scripted story to assist with teaching the “Turtle Technique” By Rochelle Lentini March 2005 Created using pictures from Microsoft Clipart® and Webster-Stratton, C. (1991). The teachers and children videotape series: Dina dinosaur school. Seattle, WA: The Incredible Years.
12 Tucker Turtle is a terrific turtle. He likes to play with his friends at Wet Lake School.
13 But sometimes things happen that can make Tucker really mad.
14 When Tucker got mad, he used to hit, kick, or yell at his friends. His friends would get mad or upset when he hit, kicked, or yelled at them.
15 Tucker now knows a new way to “think like a turtle” when he gets mad.
16 He can stop and keep his hands, body, and yelling to himself!
17 He can tuck inside his shell and take 3 deep breaths to calm down. Step 3
18 Tucker can then think of a solution or a way to make it better. Step 4
19 Tucker’s friends are happy when he plays nicely and keeps his body to himself. Friends also like it when Tucker uses nice words or has a teacher help him when he is upset.
20 The End!
21 Super Turtle Letter Dear Parent, Billy did a great job today handling frustration and not getting angry when we ran out of his favorite cookie at snack. Instead of getting upset, Billy took three deep breaths and decided he would try one of the other cookies. That was a great solution and he really liked the new cookie too! You can help Billy at home by: Asking him what he did at school today when we ran out of his favorite cookie. Ask him how he calmed down. Comment on what a great job he did. Tell him that you hope that he will do that again when he gets frustrated about something. Thank you so much! Mr. Phil
22 “Turtle” Yoga
Other Appropriate Ways to Express Feelings Exercise (taking a walk, jumping jacks) Writing or drawing feelings Listening to music Do something relaxing Read Talking it out with someone you trust Do something constructive (study, clean) Have a “Chill Out” or “Feelings Corner”
24 Activity: Anger Management Action Plan With your co-teachers, discuss how you will introduce anger management/impulse control skills to your classroom. Think about including: Turtle technique Feeling thermometer (tense/relaxed) Other ways to express feelings