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17 Habits of Highly Effective Teens The Ultimate Teenage Success Guide
2Activity Re-read the poem and determine what it is. Do NOT call out or share your answer.Write your answer and show only your teacher.
3Who am I? I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.I will push you onward or drag you downto failure. I am completely at your command.Half the things I do you might just as wellturn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
4I am easily managed – you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how youwant something done and after a fewlessons I will do it automatically. I am theservant of all great individuals and, alas, ofall failures, as well. Those who are great, Ihave made great. Those who are failures,I have made failures.
5I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plusthe intelligence of a human. You may runme for a profit or run me for ruin – itmakes no difference to me.
6Who am I? Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Beeasy with me and I will destroy you.Who am I?Click here to replay the poem
7LifeLife is a jungle for everyone out of kindergarten and it helps to have a compass, or tool, that helps move us in the right direction.
8Emotional Roller Coaster What are some of the situations that you have to deal with in real life?[Somebody, please take notes!]
9Life is going to happen.Would it help to have a set of tools for you to deal with these types of issues?Would it hurt?
10Re-look at the class list of situations and next to each one write one or two words that describe what you could do to deal with the problem.Example:“There’s too much to do and not enough time.” -- prioritize
11-- So --What do all of the things that you have identified have in common?Most of them are probably habits.
12What is a habit? Habits are things we do repeatedly. Most of the time we are hardly aware that we have them.They’re on autopilot.
13Good Habits What are some good habits? [Make a list] Did you include: exercising regularlyplanning aheadshowing respect for others
14Bad Habits Now, list some of the not so good habits. [You have to write these too!]Did you include:thinking negativelyfeeling inferiorblaming others
15Not Good – Not BadSome habits don’t go on either list. They are just things that we do that don’t have a positive or a negative impact.Example:taking showers every nighteating yogurt with a forkreading magazines from back to front
16Let’s see if our class list matches The 7 Habitsof Highly EffectiveTEENS
177 Effective Habits Begin with the End in Mind (mission/goals) Be Proactive (be responsible for your life)Sharpen the Saw (renew yourself)Put First Things First (Prioritize)Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood (listen to people)Think Win-Win (everyone can win attitude)Synergize (work together to achieve more)
18ORDER ? Let’s classify the 7 Habits and give them some order. There are three (3) that are “private.” They require self-mastery. Self is always first.Then there are three (3) that are “public.” These require you to work with someone else – teamwork. After self, then you can work with others.
19Wait! There are seven (7). What about the last one. Where does it go? The last habit is one that feeds the other six habits.So, put them in order and let’s see how you do.
20Private Victory Habits These habits deal withself-mastery.
35Feeds the Others #7: Sharpen the Saw Renew yourself regularly.
36Habits They can make or break you. Luckily, you are stronger than your habits.You can change them.Want to see? Stand up and fold your arms.
37What can the 7 Habits help with? Get control of your lifeGet more done in less timeMake smarter decisionsBe happyGet along with your parentsFind balance between school, work, friendsDefine your values and what matters most to youOvercome addiction
39Top 10 All-Time Stupid Quotes You are going to hear a list of statements made many years ago by experts.At the time, they sounded intelligent.How do they sound to you today?
40WOW!Your turn.Write three statements that you feel are valid in your life.Volunteers to read a few?
41Let’s seeNow you will hear some statements that real teens just like you have made.They are just as ridiculous as the list above.What will happen to your list in ten years?
42What do they have in common? First – perceptions about the way things are.Second – all inaccurate or incomplete, even though the people were convinced they were true
43[pronoun: pair-a-dimes] Another word for perceptions isparadigms[pronoun: pair-a-dimes]It is the way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief.
44Like glassesWhen you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription.They affect everything in your life.
45We have paradigms about ourselves, other people, and life in general.
46SELF Are your paradigms helping or hindering you? Negative self-paradigms can put limitations on you.Positive self-paradigms can bring out the best in you.
47OthersSeeing from different point of view can help us understand why other people act they way they do.How do you react to class mates that are moody or difficult?Why? And why do they act like that?
48LifeYou can usually tell what your paradigm is by asking yourself the following questions.“What is the driving force of my life?”“What do I spend my time thinking about?”“Who or what is my obsession?”
49Whatever is important to you will become your paradigm, or your > > > > > > life-centerSome are:friends, stuff, boyfriend/girlfriend, school, parents, sports/hobbies, heroes, enemies, self, and work
50Friend-Centered It’s great to belong to a group! Friends can be fickle, fake, talk behind your back, find new friends, forget about you.They can cause you to compromise your standards to accommodate them.
51Life HappensPeople changePeople movePeople get married, have childrenParadigms Change“Make as many friends as you can, but don’t build your life on them. It’s an unstable foundation.”
52Stuff We live in a material world. We want to have the shiniest, fastest, nicest “things” possible.Nothing wrong with accomplishing and enjoying our “stuff.”But, never center your life on things.
54If you center your life on your bf/gf what would happen if….. They make a rude comment about you?They flirt with your (bff) best friend?They say, “I think we should date other people.”
55IronyThe more you center your life on someone, the more unattractive you become to that person.1-If you are centered on that other person, you are no longer hard to get.2 – It’s irritating when someone builds their entire emotional life around you.
56Independence is more attractive than dependence. Centering your life on another does not show that you love them, only that you are dependent on them.
57School-Centered Education is vital to your future. But don’t let it be your only priority. Don’t let dean’s list, GPAs, and AP classes take over your life.You can do well in school and maintain a healthy balance in life.
58Parent-Centered They are your greatest source of love and guidance. If you center your whole life on them, or them on you, it can end up to be a real nightmare.
59Other CentersDon’t build everything around being the “greatest” athlete.Don’t live around a movie or rock star – they will disappoint you in some way.If you hate a group, person, or idea – you are warping your center of existance.Workaholism is a compulsion to have more “stuff.”
60Principle-Centered Principles aren’t religious. They are not American or Chinese.They are not mine or yours.They are not up for discussion.They apply equaly to everyone – rich or poor – king or peasant – male, or femaleThey can not be bought or sold.
61Principle-Centered If you live by them – you will excel. If you break them –you will fail.
62Principle-Centered Here are some: Honesty Service Hard work Respect Gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty, responsibility
63Principles Never Fail It takes faith to live by principles What does a lier get?What does a disloyal friend get?To grasp why principles always work, imagine living a life based on their opposites. What would you be like?
64Baby Steps Small, powerful tools to help you ahieve your larger goals.