5Habits that don’t matter Takings showers at nightEating yogurt with a forkReading a magazine from back to front.
6HabitsDepending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do.
7Samuel Smiles Quote Sow a thought, and reap an act; Sow an act, and you reap a habit;Sow a habit, and reap a character;Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.What does this mean?
8HabitsYou are stronger than your habits. Therefore, you can change them.
9The 7 Habits can help you: Get control of your lifeImprove your relationships with your friendsMake smarter decisions.Get along with your parents.Overcome addiction (food, soft drinks, etc)(cont.)
10Define your values and what matters most to you. Get more done in less time.Increase your self-confidence.Be happyFind balance between, school, friends, and everything else.
11Dumb Statements made by Real Teens “No one in my family has ever gone to college. I’d be crazy to think I could make it.”“It’s no use. My stepdad and I will never get along. We’re just too different.”“My teacher is out to get me.”“She’s so pretty – I’ll bet she is a jerk“You can’t get ahead in life unless you know the right people.”“Me Thin? Are you kidding? My whole family is full of fat people.”
12Habit #1 Be Proactive Take responsibility for your life. A Defective Teen: blames all of their problems on their parents, their stupid teachers, lousy neighborhood
13Proactive People Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their choicesThink before they actBounce back when something bad happensAlways find a way to make it happenFocus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t
14We Can Control Only One Thing We cannot control everything that happens to us but we can control how we react.
15Language Reactive Language Proactive Language I’ll try I’ll do it That’s just the way I amI can do better than thatThere’s nothing I can doLet’s look at all our options.I have toI choose toI can’tThere’s gotta be a wayYou ruined my dayI’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me.
16Proactive or Reactive The Choice is Yours Reactive people make choices based on impulse. They are cans of soda pop. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode.Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act. They recognize they can’t control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it. They are calm, cool, and in control.
17Scene 1You overheard your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. She doesn’t know you overheard the conversation. Just five minutes ago, this same friend was sweet-talking you to your face. You feel hurt and betrayed.How would a reactive person handle it.How would a proactive person handle it.
18Scene TwoYou’ve been working at your job in the store for over a year now and have been extremely committed and dependable. Three months ago, a new employee joined the crew. Recently, he was given the coveted Saturday afternoon shift you were hoping for.How would a reactive person act.How would a proactive person act.
19Your Language Listen to what you say are you reactive or proactive. Do you blame circumstances for your situation?Do you make the best of your situation?
20Proactive or Reactive Reactive people Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they later regretWhine and complainWait for things to happen to themChange only when they have to.
21Defective TeenBlames all of their problems on their parents, their stupid teachers, lousy neighborhood, boy or girlfriend, or something or somebody else. They’re a victim. They take no responsibility for their life. Act like an animal. If they are hungry they eat. If they are yelled at they yell back. If they feel like doing something they know is wrong, they do it anyway.
22There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk I walk down the street,There is deep hole in the sidewalk.I fall in.I am lost… I am helpless,It isn’t my fault.It takes forever to find a way out.I walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I pretend I don’t see it.I fall in again.I can’t believe I am in the same placeBut, it isn’t my fault.It still take a long time to get out.
23I walk down the same street There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there.I still fall in. It’s a habit.My eyes are open.I know where I am.It is my fault. I get out immediately.I walk around it.I walk down another street.
42Habit #7 – Sharpen the Saw Teens should never get to busy living not to take time to renew themselves.
43Habit #7 – Sharpen the Saw When a teen “sharpens the saw” he or she is keeping their personal self sharp so that he/she can better deal with life.
44Habit #7 – Sharpen the Saw Sharpening the saw means regularly renewing and strengthen the four key dimensions of life – body, brain, heart, and soul.
457 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS A Quick Review
467 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Habit #1 – Be ProactiveHabit #2 – Begin With the End in MindHabit #3 – Put First things FirstHabit #4 – Think Win-WinHabit #5 - Seek First to Understand, Then Be UnderstoodHabit #6 – SynergizeHabit #7 – Sharpen the Saw