1. Self Esteem, Stress, and Anger Management

2. Describing Personality Your attitudes, behaviors, feelings and ways of thinking. Psychologists use 5 central traits to describe personality: Conscientiousness Agreeableness Emotional Stability/Neuroticism Openness to Experiences Extroversion (McCrae & Costa)

3. How Does Personality Form? Write some ideas down now….

4. How Does Personality Form? Heredity Environment Family (modeling) Friends (peer group) Culture

5. Stages of Personality Stages of Personality Development (Erikson) Develop trust Learn to be independent Take initiative Develop skills Search for identity Establish intimacy Create and nurture Look back with acceptance

6. Self-Esteem What is self-esteem? How can you develop and improve your self-esteem? Write some ideas down now…..

7. Self-Esteem How much you respect yourself and like yourself How does self-esteem develop? What are the benefits of high self-esteem? What are the risks of low self-esteem? How do you boost your self esteem?

8. Improving Self-Esteem Maintain a positive attitude (“don’t be too hard on yourself!”) Focus on your strengths and build on them Identify areas of weakness but strive to improve on them Rely on your own values Learn to accept compliments Look beyond your own concerns- volunteer!

9. Improving Self-Esteem Form close relationships Set ambitious but realistic goals for yourself Avoid risky behaviors Ask for help Do not focus too much on appearance

10. Barbie: Then and Now

11. If Barbie were a real woman….

12. Twiggy and the 60’s

13. How thin is thin enough?

14. Brittany Murphy

15. Is our sense of beauty distorted? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U “DOVE Evolution” Dove Commercial

16. Self-Esteem Videos part1 - Self Esteem for Teens - La Belle Foundation/VisionEars.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Godz1G-SYLM part2 - Self Esteem for teens http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAlZIuUTrhA &feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAlZIuUTrhA &feature=related

17. Body Image and Self Esteem http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9g- 1MJdE4&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9g- 1MJdE4&feature=related

18. 11 Facts - Body Image http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31Ajvix6DXs& feature=fvwrel http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31Ajvix6DXs& feature=fvwrel You Tube: Keep Her in the Game

19. Media Effects -Body Image http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLCKJe8KEgY &feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLCKJe8KEgY &feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6XfMtaw8aU &feature=fvw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6XfMtaw8aU &feature=fvw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_aDpmfAzxI &feature=related DOVE commercial http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_aDpmfAzxI &feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3o- fEsTMlq0&feature=related Lindsay Lohan photoshop http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3o- fEsTMlq0&feature=related

20. Exploring Our Emotions Primary Emotions include: Happiness Sadness Anger Fear Secondary (Learned) Emotions include: Love Guild and Shame

21. Coping with Emotions: Defense Mechanisms Denial Compensation Rationalization Reaction formation Projection Regression

22. Helpful Ways of Coping Write some ideas down now…

23. Helpful Ways of Coping Confront the situation head-on Release build-up energy by exercising or being active in some other way Take a break: read a book, listen to music, etc. Talk through your feelings with a friend, counselor or other trusted person Avoid harmful ways of coping!

24. Why Do We Get Angry? What makes you angry? Write down some ideas here….

25. Why do we get angry? Frustration of our goals Hurt Harassment Personal attack (mental or physical) on ourselves Threat to people, things or ideas that we hold dear

26. How Do You Control Your Anger? Write down some ideas here….

27. Anger Management Step 1: Maintain a “Hostility Log” Step 2: If you do, acknowledge that you have a problem managing anger Step 3: Use your support network Step 4: Use Anger Management techniques to interrupt the anger cycle Pause Take deep breaths Tell your self you can handle the situation Stop the negative thoughts

28. Anger Management…. Step 5: Use empathy Step 6: Laugh at yourself Step 7: Relax Step 8: Build Trust Step 9: Listen

29. Anger Management… Step 10: Be Assertive Step 11: Live each day as if it is your last Step 12: Forgive

30. Stress Management Activity: On the paper provided, write something that “stresses” you. Then crinkle the sheet into a ball and throw it toward the front of the room Crinkle another piece of blank paper and throw it toward the front of the room One at a time, each student will come forward and read one of the papers “anonymously.” What do you think?