1. POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
WHAT IS DISCIPLINE?

2. VALUE LINE ACTIVITY: *__________________________________*
Spanking is effective I don’t believe in spanking
Mark where you stand on this line on a piece of paper and list reasons for your stance on this issue.

3. Methods of Discipline Get into groups of 6
Brainstorm all of the kinds of discipline you have heard of
Arrange them on a long sheet of construction paper from least acceptable to most acceptable
Circle all of the methods that an adult should not do to another adult
Put a square around any that an adult would be arrested for if done to an other adult

4. DISCIPLINE “OK, here are your options: jump and discover the joy
of flight, or don’t jump and I
kick your butt out of the tree.
What kind of parenting is this?

5. WHAT ABOUT SPANKING? Concerns: Is it a physical assault on a child?
Does it teach children to deal with problems in a physical way?
Does it lead to child abuse?
Does it teach only outer control that stops the behavior for a short time?
Does it create feelings of hatred and revenge?

6. Other Methods of Discipline
Redirection
Reasoning
Time out
Setting Rules/limits
Modeling
Listening
Reinforcement
Offering choices
Acceptable outlets
Avoid overstimulation
Positive guidance
Natural & logical consequences
Age appropriate activities
Avoid unrealistic expectations

7. TYPES OF PARENTING: AUTHORITARIAN:
External Control
Punishment
Order without freedom
Drawback – can create rebellion or submission/ dependence

8. 3 R’s of punishment:
RESENTMENT
REVENGE
RETREAT
Low self esteem
Sneaky
Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make a child do better, first we have to make them feel worse?
Children do better when they feel better!

9. TYPES OF PARENTING: PERMISSIVE:
Freedom without order
No restriction, rules,
No consequences
Drawback – Can create a manipulative personality, aggression, and independence.

10. TYPES OF PARENTING: AUTHORITATIVE (Democratic):
Mutual Respect
Cooperation
Freedom with Order
Creates a self disciplined child who is responsible for own actions.

11. WHY DO CHILDREN MISBEHAVE?
A misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Why?

12. MISBEHAVIOR:
Is based on a child’s mistaken interpretation of how to find BELONGING & SIGNIFICANCE!

13. 4 GOALS OF MISTAKEN BEHAVIOR:
1. Getting attention 2. Seeking power 3. Getting revenge 4. Giving up

14. Solution to Attention Problems:
Ignore if possible
Give attention when good
Redirect
Logical consequences
Choices

15. Solution to Power Problems:
Withdraw
Cool off
Problem solve together
Win cooperation
Act

16. Solution to Revenge Problems:
Withdraw from revenge cycle
Win child over
Solve the problem
Take away items they could destroy
Apologize if needed

17. Solution to Inadequacy Problems:
Avoid pity
Encourage & train
Create small successes
Don’t give up

18. General Tips for Guidance:
Before giving directions, make sure you have the child’s attention
Use positive statements to give directions
Begin directions with an action word that tells the child what to do
Give only one direction at a time
Whenever possible, give simple reasons for your directions
Make sure the message of LOVE always gets through
Timing: It is impossible to solve problems at the time of the conflict
Children will listen to you if they feel listened to

19. NATURAL & LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
NATURAL: Simply happen naturally
No coat = cold
LOGICAL: Are decided upon and imposed by parents or teachers
One needs to be:
Firm
Calm
Positive toward child

20. 3 R’S OF LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
                                                     
RELATED
RESPECTFUL
RESONABLE

21. TIME OUT: An alternative to spanking.
Gives child time to calm down & time to think about the correct way to act.
Child is moved away from others – an effective consequence.

22. TIME OUT GUIDELINES:
Choose a location that is dull and away from others.
Use time out immediately after misbehavior occurs.
Length of time = 1 minute for each year of age.
Don’t’ talk to child until afterwards (Make sure they understand the “WHY”).
Reward good behavior after time out, as soon as they do something positive.

23. DISCIPLINE STEPS: Redirect Check it out
Speak to the child about the problem
Give choices
Use logical or natural consequences
Use time out if still out of control

24. CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE:
                                                                                            
Have rules and remind them often
Read:
“Children want fences

25. KEEP RULES SHORT & SIMPLE
Be nice to teacher and classmates
Raise hand to speak
Walk in halls

26. CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE for Teachers
Be silent or whisper
Resist giving attention to the disruptor
“Someone is disturbing the class”
Move closer, place hand on shoulder
Involve them
Talk privately
“What can I do to get your help?”

27. FORBIDDEN DISCIPLINE ACTIONS:
SPANKING
SLAPPING
HITTING
SHAKING
PULLING
PINCHING
NO TEASING
NO HUMILIATION
NO INSULTS
NO THREATENING
NO FRIGHTENING
NO LAUGHING AT
Confirmed incidents will be grounds for immediate
dismissal from a childcare job.

28. ALWAYS REMEMBER: MISTAKES R WUNDERFULL OPPERTUNITEEZ 2 LERN!
Recognize your mistake
Reconcile “I’m sorry”
Resolve: Focus on solutions rather than blame.