2Parenting SkillsParenting skills do not always come naturally or easily.Parenting is a learning process that occurs each day.Parents have to work at it.Parents must understand and meet children’s needs
3Children’s Needs Physical- food, clothing, shelter, health and safety. Emotional and Socialfeeling safe, loved, cared forlearn how to make friends and work with othersIntellectual- stimulation, opportunity to learn, and become educated
4DeprivationA lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being.Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.
5Parenting StylesHow parents and other caregivers care for and discipline children.No one parenting style is right or wrongYou pick the style that works with your personality and for your child
6Parenting Styles Authoritarian The parent believes the child should obey them without question.The parent tells a child what to do and it’s the child’s responsibility to do it.When rules are broken, the parent responds quickly and firmly.
7Parenting Styles Assertive-Democratic Children have more input into the rules and limits of the home.Learning to take responsibility is important- children are given a certain amount of freedom and independence within the rules.When rules are broken- learn best from accepting the results of their actionsWork together to find an acceptable punishment.
8Parenting Style Permissive Parents give children a wide range of freedom.Children may set their own rulesParents ignore rule breaking
9Guide Children’s Behavior Guidance- using firmness and understanding to help children learn how to behaveOutcome of Effective GuidanceTo learn self-discipline (ability to control one’s own behavior.)Get along with others & how to deal with their feelings in acceptable ways.Promotes security and positive self-esteemThe difference between right and wrongDevelop a conscience
10Encourage Appropriate Behavior Be a Role ModelGive Effective DirectionSet Limits
11Be A Role ModelChildren learn best by being shown what to do, rather than just being told what to do.Parents need to demonstrate at all times the behavior they would like to see in their own children.
12Give Effective Direction Be sure you have the child’s attention.Be polite.Use positive statements.Use specific words that the child can understand.Begin with an action verbGive a limited number of directions at a timeBe clear.Give praise and love
13Set Limits Children need limits to grow into responsible adults. Limits should keep children from hurting themselves, other people, or property.Children will respect and follow guidelines if they are reasonable.Parents need to be consistent in enforcing limits
14Determining Limits Ask Yourself: Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, and grow?Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?Does the limit benefit the child, or is it just for the adult’s convenience?
15PARENTING REVIEW: What is deprivation? A lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being.How does deprivation affect children?Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.
16PARENTING REVIEW: What are the 3 types of Parenting Styles? AuthoritarianAssertive-DemocraticPermissive
17PARENTING REVIEW:What are the 3 ways you can encourage appropriate behavior?Be a Role ModelGive Effective DirectionsSet Limits
18Set Limits Review Limits must be stated simply, briefly, and in a calm, direct tone.Be clear.Firmly and consistently enforcedLimits may often need to be repeated or explained in another way.Redirection is important. It suggests that the child does something else
19Responding to Misbehavior Is the expected behavior appropriate, given the child’s age and development?Does the child understand that the behavior was wrong?Did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?
20Effective PunishmentCorrect behavior is important and there are consequences for poor choices.THE MESSAGE:Parents should clearly show they disapprove of the behavior but they still love the child.Warnings are okay.
21Positive Reinforcement A response that encourages a particular behavior.When children learn that an action wins attention and approval from adults, they are likely to repeat that actions.
22Positive Reinforcement Be specificComment on the behavior as soon as possible.Recognize small steps.Help children take pride in their actions.Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child.Use positive reinforcement wisely
23Negative Reinforcement A response aimed at strengthening desired behavior by removing an unpleasant trigger.
24Negative Reinforcement Natural ConsequencesChildren suffer from the actual result of their action.Parents do not lectureLogical ConsequencesConnected to the misbehaviorParents need to follow through
25Negative Reinforcement Loss of PrivilegesTake away a privilegeAppropriate for 5 or olderTime OutA short period in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity.Not their room
26Poor Disciplinary Measures BribingMaking Children to BehaveShouting or YellingShaming or belittlingThreatening to Withhold LoveExaggerating Consequences
27Consistency in Guidance Being consistent, or continually the same, is key to guiding children’s behavior.Helps children know what is expected of them and the expected discipline.Children lose trust and confidence in the caregiver who constantly change rules or fail to enforce rules in a consistent way.