1. Building Strong Families
Parenting Skills
Building Strong Families

2. Parenting Skills
Parenting skills do not always come naturally or easily.
Parenting is a learning process that occurs each day.
Parents have to work at it.
Parents must understand and meet children’s needs

3. Children’s Needs Physical- food, clothing, shelter, health and safety.
Emotional and Social
feeling safe, loved, cared for
learn how to make friends and work with others
Intellectual- stimulation, opportunity to learn, and become educated

4. Deprivation
A lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being.
Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.

5. Parenting Styles
How parents and other caregivers care for and discipline children.
No one parenting style is right or wrong
You pick the style that works with your personality and for your child

6. Parenting Styles Authoritarian
The parent believes the child should obey them without question.
The parent tells a child what to do and it’s the child’s responsibility to do it.
When rules are broken, the parent responds quickly and firmly.

7. Parenting Styles Assertive-Democratic
Children have more input into the rules and limits of the home.
Learning to take responsibility is important- children are given a certain amount of freedom and independence within the rules.
When rules are broken- learn best from accepting the results of their actions
Work together to find an acceptable punishment.

8. Parenting Style Permissive
Parents give children a wide range of freedom.
Children may set their own rules
Parents ignore rule breaking

9. Guide Children’s Behavior
Guidance- using firmness and understanding to help children learn how to behave
Outcome of Effective Guidance
To learn self-discipline (ability to control one’s own behavior.)
Get along with others & how to deal with their feelings in acceptable ways.
Promotes security and positive self-esteem
The difference between right and wrong
Develop a conscience

10. Encourage Appropriate Behavior
Be a Role Model
Give Effective Direction
Set Limits

11. Be A Role Model
Children learn best by being shown what to do, rather than just being told what to do.
Parents need to demonstrate at all times the behavior they would like to see in their own children.

12. Give Effective Direction
Be sure you have the child’s attention.
Be polite.
Use positive statements.
Use specific words that the child can understand.
Begin with an action verb
Give a limited number of directions at a time
Be clear.
Give praise and love

13. Set Limits Children need limits to grow into responsible adults.
Limits should keep children from hurting themselves, other people, or property.
Children will respect and follow guidelines if they are reasonable.
Parents need to be consistent in enforcing limits

14. Determining Limits Ask Yourself:
Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore, and grow?
Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?
Does the limit benefit the child, or is it just for the adult’s convenience?

15. PARENTING REVIEW: What is deprivation?
A lack of the critical needs and encouraging environment that are essential for physical, emotional, and intellectual well-being.
How does deprivation affect children?
Children may fall behind other children their own age in their overall development.

16. PARENTING REVIEW: What are the 3 types of Parenting Styles?
Authoritarian
Assertive-Democratic
Permissive

17. PARENTING REVIEW:
What are the 3 ways you can encourage appropriate behavior?
Be a Role Model
Give Effective Directions
Set Limits

18. Set Limits Review Limits must be
stated simply, briefly, and in a calm, direct tone.
Be clear.
Firmly and consistently enforced
Limits may often need to be repeated or explained in another way.
Redirection is important. It suggests that the child does something else

19. Responding to Misbehavior
Is the expected behavior appropriate, given the child’s age and development?
Does the child understand that the behavior was wrong?
Did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately, or was it beyond the child’s control?

20. Effective Punishment
Correct behavior is important and there are consequences for poor choices.
THE MESSAGE:
Parents should clearly show they disapprove of the behavior but they still love the child.
Warnings are okay.

21. Positive Reinforcement
A response that encourages a particular behavior.
When children learn that an action wins attention and approval from adults, they are likely to repeat that actions.

22. Positive Reinforcement
Be specific
Comment on the behavior as soon as possible.
Recognize small steps.
Help children take pride in their actions.
Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child.
Use positive reinforcement wisely

23. Negative Reinforcement
A response aimed at strengthening desired behavior by removing an unpleasant trigger.

24. Negative Reinforcement
Natural Consequences
Children suffer from the actual result of their action.
Parents do not lecture
Logical Consequences
Connected to the misbehavior
Parents need to follow through

25. Negative Reinforcement
Loss of Privileges
Take away a privilege
Appropriate for 5 or older
Time Out
A short period in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity.
Not their room

26. Poor Disciplinary Measures
Bribing
Making Children to Behave
Shouting or Yelling
Shaming or belittling
Threatening to Withhold Love
Exaggerating Consequences

27. Consistency in Guidance
Being consistent, or continually the same, is key to guiding children’s behavior.
Helps children know what is expected of them and the expected discipline.
Children lose trust and confidence in the caregiver who constantly change rules or fail to enforce rules in a consistent way.