Principles of guidance A. Use Simple Language B. Speak in a relaxed voice C. Be positive D. Offer choices E. Encourage independence and cooperation
F. Be firm G. Be consistent H. Provide time for change I. Consider feelings J. Intervene when necessary
We can encourage cooperation and independence by… What doe sit mean to be positive? When can you offer kids a choice? Give an example. How do we provide time for change? What does it mean to intervene when necessary?
Techniques for effective guidance A. Positive reinforcement 1. What is it-rewarding and encouraging positive behavior 2. Examples... Telling a kid they are playing nicely
1. Consequences - a result that follows an action or behavior NaturalArtificial
Greg goes into a yard where there is an aggressive dog What would be an artificial consequence? What would be a natural consequence?
Warning - state the behavior and then the consequence- warn only once and then follow through If…then… Give me an example of when you would use this…
3. Time Out - don’t use as punishment - use for the child to regain control - max- 1 minute per year - do not discuss after time out
I Message - helps Children learn how others feel about their behavior - 3 parts child’s behavior your feelings the effects When you…I feel…because..
5. Effective Praise - can be verbal or nonverbal - make sure that it isn’t empty praise Good job is not effective praise I like how you held the door is effective praise
6. Suggesting Placing thoughts into consideration into kids minds Here’s a tissue 7. Prompting -stops an unwanted behavior requires a response/encourages kids to do something -What are we supposed to do right now? 8. Persuading appeal to their basic wants and needs encourages kids to act in a certain way Links behavior to feelings We are having fun, will you join us?
9. Redirecting turn attention to another activity- distraction 10. Modeling children learn through imitation
11. Listening give them your full attention - get to eye level active listening - listen and then respond by repeating
12. Ignoring don’t acknowledge the behavior 13. Encouraging you can do it recognizing their efforts and improvements