1. Building Healthy Relationships

2. WHAT IS SOCIAL HEALTH? Are able to accept differences in other people.
SOCIAL HEALTH: your ability to get along with the people around you.
Are able to accept differences in other people.
Meet people easily
Can accept other people’s ideas and suggestions when working in a group.
Are usually successful at making friends with people of both sexes.
Continue to take part in an activity even when they don’t get their way.

3. “How Rude! The Teenagers’ Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior,
Alex J. Packer:
Author of
“How Rude! The Teenagers’ Guide
to Good Manners, Proper Behavior,
and Not Grossing People Out."
10 Rude Things Students Do to Teachers
Talk while the teacher is trying to teach.
Not raise their hand.
Not say “Please,” “Thank you” and “Excuse Me.”
Talk back.
Make no attempt to hide their boredom, irritation, or anger.
Not pay attention.
Use physical or verbal aggression to get their way.
Swear.
Continue a behavior after being asked to stop.
Use disrespectful body language (rolling eyes, slouching, etc.)

4. 10 Rude Things Teachers Do to Students:
Make fun of them in front of the whole class.
Deliberately ignore them.
Give them too much work on purpose.
Punish the whole class for something one person did.
Call on them when they know they don’t know the answer.
Say sarcastic things.
Talk down to them.
Accuse them of doing things based on suspicion, not facts.
Not listen to their side of the story.
Play Favorites.

5. What makes You Upset/Angry?
People who do the following:
Interrupt/rudeness
Appear to NOT care what you’re saying/Don’t listen
Curse way too much
Never say: Please, Thank You, Your Welcome, Bless You, etc.
Give you dirty looks or attitude
Talk about you behind your back

6. 17 Images: Are you Paying Attention?

7. The connections we have with other people and groups in our lives.
RELATIONSHIP??
What is a
The connections we have with other people and groups in our lives.

8. 3 Skills that help in RELATIONSHIPS
Communication: Flows in two directions.
Cooperation: Working as a team.
Compromise: “Give and take”

9. 5 Rules For Good Relationships What We DON’T Want in Relationships
And 5 Things
What We DON’T Want in Relationships

10. Topics of Discussion
Meet someone for the first time.
(Your Choice how you start the conversation: What will you talk about?)
Who your favorite team is and why. Make sure to defend this team and why the other person is wrong.
SCHOOL (Salk, health class, teachers, School sports, etc.)

11. Possible Topics of Discussion
A recent event; something that happened that is in the news, well-known
Sporting events
Celebrity news or gossip
Weather
What’s happening in your school, town, state, country
Food, restaurants, places of interest
AVOID: Controversial Topics EXAMPLES?

12. Elements of Conversation
Shake the person’s hand, introduce yourself, and say “It’s a pleasure to meet you.” Follow up: “How are you?” “What are you up to today?”
*Always maintain eye contact and resist distractions.
Join in the conversation already at hand, or listen. While listening, think of ways to respond or follow-up questions to ask and wait to enter the conversation.
Ask questions to keep the conversation “flowing” (open-ended questions) and address the topics at hand.
(What do you think…?, How do you feel…?, Tell me more about…?)
When concluding the conversation, shake again and repeat how nice it was to meet that person, leave the door open for future conversation.

13. Be a Good LISTENER: The PASSIVE LISTENER
Make Eye contact
Nod your head
Reflect your feelings with facial expressions.
Use short, encouraging verbal responses (“mmm; ahh, yes, uh-huh”).

14. Be an Active Listener too!
Use short verbal responses (“Really?,” “I see,” “What happened next?”)
Comment directly on what is being said.
Use the “Echo Effect”: “So what you’re saying is…” (Repeat what they said)
Restate the speaker’s ideas in your own words or “CLARIFY” (“Do you mean…?”) (“Correct me if I’m wrong…”)
Encourage the person to express feelings “EMPATHY” (“I guess you must have felt…”)
Encourage more information (“Tell me more about…”).
Don’t pass judgment or criticize; just listen!

15. Assertive, Passive, or Aggressive?
Passive: Allowing things to just happen. Not taking initiative; letting things come as they may. A “don’t care” attitude.
May be taken advantage of.
Aggressive: Speaking up in an overbearing or harsh way. Can be taken as rude and confrontational.
Assertive: Speaking up/stating the truth; staying calm, yet not allowing others to take advantage. Taking initiative in a positive way.
Passive-Aggressive: the "unassertive" expression of negative sentiments, feelings of anger, and resentfulness.

16. “I”Messages I believe… I would like… I would appreciate… I feel…
I am confident…
I wish…
I’m upset because…
I want…
I think…
Avoid “you” or “you in disguise”:
Ex: I think you should…
Saying “You” sounds like you are accusing the other person & can be perceived the wrong way.

17. Rules of GOOD COMMUNICATON, so far…
Use “I” statements and not “you” statements.
Stay calm, collect thoughts, think before you speak.
Avoid “fillers” (Like, OK, Umm, ya’ know).
Try to avoid controversial topics and offensive language.
Choose the right time and place.
Watch for non-verbal messages.
Stick to the Point.
Use Active and Passive listening skills.

18. BULLYING
What is a BULLY? A bully is anyone who targets others with negative actions.
What are these NEGATIVE ACTIONS?
Hitting/physical violence
Practical jokes
Making fun of someone
Isolating/shunning others
Talking badly behind others backs
Cyber bullying
Dirty looks
Calling others names

19. Why do People BULLY? To make themselves feel better Jealousy
To show off
For popularity
For revenge
Problems with family/friends
To uphold their reputation
They’ve been bullied in the past
Other unresolved issues

20. What can happen or result from BULLYING?
Hurt others physically, mentally, emotionally.
Affect others self-esteem, confidence, self-worth.
May result in drug abuse, physical violence and/or suicide.
May result in victim’s seeking “REVENGE”.
Allows for an unsafe learning environment making it more difficult to concentrate and learn.
Results in stricter policies and rules within a school limiting freedoms for students.
Years of professional mental and social health counseling to deal with trauma of bullying.

21. How to Deal with BULLYING
It’s about ATTITUDE: Hold your head up high, show confidence, self-esteem.
IGNORE the Bully: Old advice, but the truth is, bullies love a reaction!
ADULTS HELP!: You’re not tattling, you’re just letting someone know what’s going on. Keep them informed, they can help!
SAFETY in NUMBERS: The more friends you surround yourself with, the less of a chance you’ll be bullied.

22. Dealing with BULLYING continued…
Be Assertive! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!:
First reaction is to defend yourself physically, try to use your words and personality to get out of the situation. Fighting satisfies the bully and will land you in trouble. Don’t back down, get help!
Lots of times, fighting will just breed more fights!
DON’T BE A BULLY YOURSELF!
Be aware of your actions; “do unto others” that’s the GOLDEN RULE!
It will save you time, grief, trouble, and maybe even your life!

23. Be Assertive! Speak Up!!
Act #1: “Dude, I heard that you were the worst kid at tryouts yesterday. I can’t believe you think you’re gonna make the team. You really stink!”
Act #2: “Really stylin’ there, big guy! I mean, come on, dude, nice shirt! Yo! Check out this kid’s shirt. Where do you shop your grandmother’s garbage can?”
Act #3: “ Dang yo!, them some big ol’ ears you got rockin’. Are you Dumbo’s distant relative? What radio stations you pick up with those things?”
Act #4: “Listen, no one likes you because you are such a loser. Don’t try to act cool because you are so not.”

24. Social Health Quiz Definitions for Social Health & Relationships
Communication DO’s and DON’TS
Proper introduction
Open-Ended Questions
Passive/Assertive/Aggressive
“I” statements and “You” statements
Bullying Actions
Bullying Prevention
How to deal with Bullying

25. SOCIAL MEDIA Texts on mobile devices Twitter
Facebook, Myspace, Formspring
Youtube
ANY SOCIAL MEDIA based website where people can interact with one another.

26. What are the POSITIVES and NEGATIVES with SOCIAL MEDIA?
Interact with friends/family
“Catch up” with old friends, family haven’t seen in a while.
Stay “in the loop” Know what’s going on
Easy way to communicate/convenient
Words can be “misconstrued” and taken the wrong way
Make people jealous/envy
Deliberate bullying/cyberbullying
Neglect family and other friends

28. Everyone needs: FRIENDS
Friends are people with whom we can share a common interest or hobby.
Friends provide us with companionship, and they can be a source of help when we have a problem.

29. Qualities of a GOOD FRIEND
LOYALTY: Friends are there when you need them.
CARING:Value each other’s feelings.
RELIABILITY: Able to be counted on.
SYMPATHY: Aware of how you are feeling at any given moment.

30. What is Peer Pressure?
Peer Pressure is the influence of others, usually friends or those your own age, who influence/encourage you to do something against your will.
Positive and Negative Peer Pressure?
Positive: Influences you to do something good for your health. EX: ?
Negative: Influences you to do something that may be harmful to you or to others. EX: ?
Does Peer Pressure really exist?