2. Seven Habits for success Seven teaches the habits that can make us more effective at whatever we choose. One of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves is, "What single thing could you do this week that would make the most difference?" It tends to bring us back to what's truly important in our lives and opens up new doors for us to step through.

3. Day 3 Quiz on School and Who’s Who at GHS Quick Write Book Distribution Work Sheets

4. Quick Write Define success. What does it mean to you to be successful? How will you know when you reach success? Who is your role model for building a successful life?

5. Success To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

6. When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world;

7. As I grew older and wiser I realized the world would not change.

8. And I decided to shorten my sights somewhat and change only my country. But it too seemed immovable.

9. As I entered my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I sought to change only my family, those closest to me, but alas they would have none of it.

10. And now here I lie on my death bed and realize (perhaps for the first time) that if only I’d changed myself first,.

11. then by example I may have influenced my family and with their encouragement and support I may have bettered my country, and who knows I may have changed the world (Anglican Bishop).

12. Opposites Love Peace Success Security Humble Kindness Honest Valuable Patient Hate War Bankruptcy Insecurity Arrogant Mean Dishonest Cheap Impatient

13. Discuss What are the differences between the two sides of the paper? How do these qualities play out in our lives? Which side of the paper are you going to choose to live?

14. The Seven Habits 1.Be Proactive 2.Begin with the end in mind 3.First things First 4.Think Win/Win 5.Seek first to understand, then to be understood 6.Synergize 7.Sharpen the SawSharpen the Saw

15. Day 4 By the end of class, the following should be in your folder ready to grade. Paradigm and Principal Worksheet “Where I’m From” poem Personal Metaphors

16. Day 5 Be Phenomenal Complete Reading of Part I Choose three quotes from the text. Incorporating all three, write about what you learned in these pages. (5-7 sentence paragraph).

17. Day 6 Paradigms and Principles pp 11-29

18. Day 7 Paradigms and Principles

19. Paradigms Perceptions about the way things are The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference or belief

20. Paradigm Shifts Read pgs 11-12 Top 10 All Time Stupid Quotes When this happens you get the “rest of the story” so ALL the information puts everything in perspective. People have paradigms about themselves, other people and about life in general

21. Paradigms of Self Does your self-paradigm help you or hurt you? – Low perception of self puts limitations on ourselves – Good self perception-helps bring out the best

22. Paradigms of Others Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do

23. Paradigms of Life Friend centered Stuff centered Boyfriend/Girlfriend centered School centered Parent centered

24. Paradigms of Life con’t Work centered Enemy centered Hero centered Self centered Sport/Hobby centered

25. Paradigms of Life con’t Friend centered-your whole life revolves around them now, but….things change Stuff centered-possessions are great to have but not a good way to judge ourselves or others based on what they have or don’t have

26. Paradigms of Life con’t School-centered-get too obsessed with grades and don’t enjoy other aspects of school Sport/hobby centered-so focused on the activity that if the activity is gone, they have nothing else

27. Paradigms of Life con’t Boyfriend/girlfriend centered- stop doing things with other friends then boy/girl is gone who is left? Work centered-workaholic might be a sign of wanting more stuff Self-centered-thinking the world revolves around you and you become oblivious of others

28. Principle-Centered The Real Thing

29. What is a principle? A basic truth or assumption A rule or standard that people live by Moral or ethical standards If you live by them, you will excel and if you break them you will fail

30. Examples of Principles Honesty Respect Love Integrity Responsibility Loyalty Moderation And many more

31. Principles Never Fail If you apply your principles to the paradigms we talked about last class, you will always have basic tools to help you with any paradigm problem Boyfriend/girlfriend paradigm – Loyalty or give example School paradigm – Moderation or give example

32. Example of Breaking Principles and Fail Calling in sick to work when not sick Breaking a traffic law and getting caught Others

33. Examples of Principles That Help You Excel You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You choose to give it to an adult and a student comes back looking for it-the teacher tells him who turned it in and he thanks you by buying you something in the snack bar

34. Examples of Principles That Help You Fail You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You decide to keep it. Finders keepers, losers weepers. Your friends ask you when you got a new IPOD and you tell them you found in the cafeteria. This info gets back to administration and you get caught.

35. Day 6 Journal #1 Read “The Personal Bank Account” pp. 31-46 Identifying roles in life (handout) Creating and mission statement (handout)

36. Day 8 The following must be in your folder Homework from Monday 1-9 only Paradigm and Principles worksheet 1 Paradigm and Principles worksheet 2 Bee Movie Worksheet

37. Money Skills Get your computer from the cart. Login using your school login. Open Internet Exlorer Go to www.moneyskill.orgwww.moneyskill.org Use your moneyskill login Complete the first 2 modules. These will count as test grades. When you finish, complete your Bee Movie packet.

38. Personal Bank Account You can make deposits and withdrawals into your account by the things you think, say and do.

39. Benefits of a full bank account Feel good about yourself Improve your self-esteem Improve your self-confidence

40. Deposits You can add to your bank account by: – Following through on a commitment made to yourself – Doing small acts of kindness – Don’t be so hard on yourself – Be honest – Renew yourself – Tap into your talents

41. Withdrawals You will make withdrawals when you – Breaking a promise to yourself – Ignoring someone who needs help – Beating yourself up – Are dishonest – Burn the candle at both ends, don’t renew – Ignore your talents

42. Negatives of an empty bank account Feel bad about yourself Don’t trust yourself Low self-esteem Low self-confidence

43. How to Build a Bank Account There are small and large deposits that you can make – List promises that people make to themselves – Do small acts of kindness – Be gentle with yourself – Be honest – Renew yourself – Tap into your talents

44. Remember it is PERSONAL Each person does not hold the same items at the same value For example, one person may hold different promises to oneself as different values. – Promise to get to bed on time vs promise to get my homework done the night before

45. Examples of Deposits Keep promise to Yourself – Promise to exercise 3x/wk for 30 minutes Do Small Acts of Kindness – Help Mom carry groceries in from car without being asked Be Nice to Yourself – Be able to laugh at yourself in an embarrassing situation

46. Examples of Deposits Be Honest – Try to tell your parents the WHOLE story without leaving parts out so that you get caught in a lie Renew Yourself – Take time each day to re-group and relax Tap into Your Talents – Use your hidden talent for good. If you love to bake, make cookies for a bake sale for charity

47. Homework Do one random act of kindness today. Random means that it can be towards anyone, but they can’t know you did it. For example: Buy someone you don’t know a treat. Take out the trash without being asked. Stop and help someone in the hallway. Anything that will make someone else smile.

48. Journal #2 Write one paragraph explaining your random act of kindness. How did it make you feel? How do you thing the other person felt?

49. Effective students Are responsible for their own learning Understand their strengths and weaknesses Organize their study tasks and materials Develop good study habits –(and minimize bad habits) Do dull tasks when you are tired Remember to DIN (do it now) Make lists of study tasks Set task limits as well as time limits Remember, life happens

50. “Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination.” -- Fitzhugh Dodson

51. http://www.youjustgetme.com/

52. Mission Statement Consider your personal mission statement as something to DISCOVER, rather than something to DEFINE. A personal mission statement is not something you write overnight. It takes thoughtful introspection, careful analysis, deep soul searching and sometimes several drafts to produce a final sense of purpose.

53. First step: Identify your roles in life. Complete the handout on roles.

54. Ask yourself a series of questions to help you gather information about your values and priorities. What are my greatest strengths? What strengths have others who know me well noticed in me? What do I deeply enjoy doing? What qualities do I most admire in others? Who has been one of the most influential people in my life? Which qualities do I most admire in that person? What have been my happiest moments in life? Why? If I had unlimited time and money, what would I do? When I look at my work life, what activities do I consider of greatest worth? When I look at my personal life, what activities do I consider of greatest worth? What are my important roles in life? What are the most important lifetime goals I want to fulfill in each role? What results am I currently getting in my life that I don’t like? What would I really like to be and to do in my life? What are the most important principles upon which my being and doing are based?

55. Day 11 Writing a mission/vision statement Finish reading “Personal Bank Account”

56. Why are we doing this? Video

57. Wealth Security Loving relationshipRecognition or fame Free time Respect to others Happiness Family Spiritual fulfillment Friendships Good health Integrity Freedom Learning/knowledge The next step is to take some time and write down your valueswrite down your values. Once you ’ ve completed your list, identify the top five. Here are some examples to get you started:

58. What is a Vision/Mission Statement A good definition for a Mission Statement is a sentence or short paragraph which is written by a person and reflects their objectives, identity, values and principle aims A good definition for Vision Statements is a sentence or short paragraph providing a broad, aspirational image of the future. A Vision is defined as 'An Image of the future we seek to create'. A Mission is defined as 'Purpose, reason for being'. Defined simply "Who we are and what we do". Many people combine both their present accomplishments, which would typically be found in a Mission statement, together with their future aspirations in just one statement. A hybrid version of both a Personal Mission and Personal Vision statement. There are no rules, the choice is down to you - decide what you are trying to achieve and who will be reading your personal vision statement.

59. Writing the Statement Personal Vision Statement

60. Day 13 Introduce Habit 1 Class Discussion Group Work Reading Assignment

61. 1. Be proactiveBe proactive Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don't blame others for their own actions or feelings.

62. “You have control over three things: what you think, what you say, and how you behave. To make a change in your life, you must recognize these gifts are the most powerful tools you possess in shaping for form of your life.” --Sonya Friedman

63. Are you proactive or reactive? There are two types of people in the world - the proactive and the reactive, those who take responsibility for their lives and those who blame; those who make it happen and those who get happened to. We can’t control everything that happens in life; we do have one thing we can control: how we respond to what happens to us.

64. Language Reactive I’ll try That’s just the way I am There’s nothing I can do I can’t You ruined my day Proactive I’ll do it I can do better than that I choose to There’s got to be a better way I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

65. Scenario #1-- How will you proactively respond to this situation? Your boss is talking to another employee when you come in to punch your time card. You have reason to believe they are talking about you. This makes you feel uncomfortable and mad.

66. Choices? 1. 2. 3.

67. Scenario #2-- How will you proactively respond to this situation? A close friend gets to go on a senior trip, all expenses paid. You are jealous they do not have to pay a dime. You do not think they deserve to have their parents pay for everything. You consider not going because you have to pay for part of your trip and do not think it is fair.

68. Choices? 1. 2. 3.

69. Scenario #3-- How will you proactively respond to this situation? At work, you developed a new way to organize the filing system that makes it easier for the office staff to find documents. Your supervisor takes all the credit.

70. Choices? 1. 2. 3.

71. Scenario #4-- How will you proactively respond to this situation? You are a nurse. The patient you are working with is ungrateful, rude, is always finding fault in everything you do, and makes your life miserable.

72. Choices? 1. 2. 3.

73. Group activity You will work with a group to answer the following questions. Read each question. Discuss it in your group. Write down your thoughts in your own words. No one should have the exact same answer for any question.

75. Day 14 Habit 1 Victimitis page 52 Circle of control

76. Habit 1 Habit 1: Be Proactive explains that while you are pausing, you can use four human tools to help you decide what to do. These tools are:  Self-awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions.  Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong.  Imagination: I can envision new possibilities.  Willpower: I have the power to choose.

77. Habit 1 Sometimes life moves so fast that you instantly react to everything out of sheer habit. If you can learn to “just push pause,” get control, and think about how you want to respond, you’ll make smarter decisions.

78. Circle of Control

79. Day 15 Complete habit #1 packet Make sure mission statement is complete and in folder. Make sure reactive/proactive quiz is in folder. Please go in and put # beside p/r statement.

80. Day 16 Guidance Presentation Quiz will follow How to get straight A’s.

81. Day 17 Login to computer Login to www.moneyskill.orgwww.moneyskill.org Complete pretest and Module 1.

82. Habit #2 Begin with the End in Mind Begin with the End in Mind Based on the work Stephen Covey

83. 2. Begin with the end in mind Control your own destiny, or someone else will.

84. Habit 2 Quotes “If you don’t know where you are going, than you probably won’t end up there.” ~Forrest Gump “No one can go back and make a brand-new start, my friend; but anyone can start from here and make a brand-new end.” ~Dan Zadra

85. Same Old... Same old… " If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten."

86. Think ahead Daily you will face question about issues that will affect your future beginning right now. Decide now how you will respond to these questions before you face them, that way you know what to do when the time arrives.

87. Habit 2 is based on the principle that all things are created twice: a mental or first creation a physical or second creation Most endeavors that fail, fail with the first creation.

88. I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to be a good citizen.

89. Journal Entry or Discussion Starter: How does saying “no” sometimes help you with “beginning with the end in mind”? What things do you have to say no to?

90. Journal Entry or Discussion Starter: What is “the end” for you? What do you hope to be doing ten years from now? Twenty? Make a list of things you want to do in your life.

91. Before you figure out the “end”, you have to take a look at who YOU are! Draw a picture of something that represents you. It could be an animal, plant, machine, a food, etc. Explain why you chose what you did.

92. Day 22 Read the information on Mission Statements on pages 81-83. 1 2 3123 If you have not completed the Pretest for MoneySkills it must be completed today. If you have, you need to begin Mission Statement Presentations. Follow the directions on the handout. This will be finished on Friday. I

93. Day 23 Journal Maslow’s Heirarcy Partner Work

94. In ten years a newspaper decides to do a story about YOU! They interview four people about you. These could be friends or family. What would you want them to say about you?

95. Maslow’s Heiracy Belonging: To be accepted by or identify with a group (formal or informal); to fit in. Esteem: To have the respect of your peers or community; to be recognized for what you have done. Safety: Having what you need to stay alive today. Security:Protecting what you need to stay alive tomorrow. Self-Actualization: Fully becoming who you really want to be; achieving the lifestyle and identity you had always envisioned.

96. Which is most important? Review the list and definitions you just made. Number them in order of importance. When a decision has been reached, place it on the pyramid.

97. Partner Work With your partner, read each scenario on the handout and determine with level of Maslow’s Hierarchy the individual is dealing with. Video

98. Day 24 Quiz Smart Goals

99. “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” --Albert Einstein

100. How good are you at beginning with the end in mind? I always keep the end in mind. I only think about today. Why did you rate yourself this way?

101. 5 Keys to Goal Setting Count the Cost Put it in Pen Just Do It Use Momentous Moments Rope Up

102. Count the Cost Set a goal. What will it require? List the steps. What are the benefits? Are they worth it? Only make a commitment you are willing to keep.

103. Put it Pen A goal not written is only a wish. Post them where you can see them often.

104. Just Do It Fully commit to your goals. When will you work on them, how, where? “There is no try, only do or do not.” --Yoda

105. Use Momentous Moments A new school year A new year A new day A new job A life changing event Stick to your goals, even when you no longer feel like it.

106. Rope Up Borrow strength from others. Tell people about your goals.

107. Don’t Be Afraid to Fall

108. What do you want?… From your career From your family life From your social life What you want to be What you want to do Values and principles which guide what you are and do

109. Goals should be “SMART”:SMART Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely

110. Secrets for Achieving Your Goals Be flexible Constantly Evaluate Your Progress –Sometimes our plans change; sometimes we get sick. Be prepared to reassess and revise your goal if necessary. Never Lose Sight of Your Goal –review your goals every morning when you get up and every night before you go to bed. Don’t Procrastinate –Procrastination is a “silent killer”. –Understand that the only way to achieve your goals is to take action!

111. Secrets for Achieving Your Goals A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.–For example, you can't buy a $750,000 house if your income goal is only $50,000 per year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well.

112. Secrets for Achieving Your Goals Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative. –Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out.

113. Secrets for Achieving Your Goals Write your goal out in complete detail. –Instead of writing "A new home," write "A 4,000 square foot contemporary with 4 bedrooms and 3 baths and a view of the mountain on 20 acres of land.

114. Secrets for Achieving Your Goals By all means, make sure your goal is high enough. –Shoot for the moon, if you miss you'll still be in the stars. Put A Date On It -Determine when you want the goal to be completed.

115. The Benefits of Goal Setting You will notice an increase in your energy level as you begin to live your life with passion – the passion that having a meaningful goal will give you. You will be in control of your life and the direction you are heading. Your life does not have to be determined by fate alone. With goals, you create your destiny. Goals give you a purpose in life. A reason to get up early and go to bed late.

116. Why? 1. You are at a critical crossroad in life---the paths you choose now can affect you forever. 2. If you don’t decide for yourself—someone will do it for you!

117. Things to watch out for: Negative Labels---Labels are an ugly form of prejudice. If you have been falsely labeled don’t start living someone else’s vision of you. “It’s all over” Syndrome—Don’t let your past mistakes take over your life. Wrong Wall---Make sure you are going in the right direction. Is the life I’m living now taking me where I want to go?

118. Journal #2 Keeping in mind what we covered today, write your goals following the SMART guidelines.

119. September 23 Cyber Center Complete Module 1 in MoneySkill Put finishing touches on Powerpoint

120. September 25-26 Complete all the following work. Place in your work folder.

121. 3.Put first things first 106-128 Define what it is that really matters in your life, then spend your time on those important things. Rather than spreading our time thinly across too many activities, concentrate on doing a few things well.”

122. Journal Think about your 8th grade year. Did you earn the grades you could have? Why/Why not? You have started over now in high school. What have you done to be successful here?

123. Will Power/Won’t Power- Will Power---the strength to say yes to your most important things Won’t Power---the strength to say now to less important things and peer pressure

124. The Time Quadrants URGENT -I Crises Pressing Problems Deadline-driven projects URGENT-III Interruptions, some calls Mail, some reports Some meetings Proximate, pressing matters Popular activities NOT URGENT -IV Trivia, busy work Some mail Some phone calls Time wasters Pleasant activities NOT URGENT -II Prevention, proactive activities Relationship building Recognizing new opportunities Planning; recreation Important Not Important

125. Take control of your day Use small bits of time you usually waste Maximize good quality time Use dead time for little tasks Don’t waste time in indecision Manage interruptions Pay attention to your work space Ensure your techniques and systems are efficient

126. Pack More into your life Know your roles in life Practice Discipline Plan Weekly/Adapt Daily

127. What are your roles? I am a: Person WifeSister (In Law) MotherAunt GrandmotherDaughter (In Law) Teacher Friend Employee

128. How to plan! Identify your big rocks. Think about what you want to accomplish for the upcoming week. What is most important? These are you big rocks. They are like mini-goals tied to your long term goals. They should cover all of your roles.

129. Identify Time Wasters Human nature –disorganization, can’t say no,procrastination, task blurring, conflicting demands, indecision Environmental factors –telephone, email, visitors, paperwork, inefficient meetings Poor management skills –inability to set priorities, set goals or delegate.

130. Block out time Learn to use a planner to stay organized. Block out time weekly for the most important things you need to do (big rocks). Let other things that aren’t as important fill in.

131. Adapt Daily Things happen that get in the way! Make time for yourself each day to exercise, read, socialize, etc.

132. Comfort Zone Things I enjoy doing. Relaxation Freedom from risks Things I’m accumstomed to Safety and Security Ease

133. Courage Zone Things I’m afraid of Things I’ve never tried Hard moments Unexplored territory Things that are difficult Opportunity Bravery

134. Fear: Your Worst Enemy It’s not the mountain we must conquer, but ourselves. Fear is the worst emotion. Fear holds you back from doing what you really want to do. Don’t let your fears make your decisions.

135. Pick yourself up Winning is nothing more than picking yourself up each time you fall. We should worry less about failing and more about the chances we miss when we don’t try.

136. Overcome Peer Pressure Any day of the week I would choose to be out With others And in touch With myself… Than to be in with others And out of touch With myself.

137. Journal What is keeping you from achieving your goals?

138. Relationship Bank Accounts Much like a traditional bank account, a relationship bank account grows with every transaction. The only difference is that a relationship bank account does not use money, but actions instead.

139. What is it? The relationship bank account (RBA )is a representation It demonstrates the amount of trust and confidence you have in your relationships Like a bank checking account – Make deposits to improve the relationship – Take withdrawals and weaken it

140. Types Relationship bank accounts are based on social interactions with people who are important to you. This includes your spouse, children, siblings, parents, friends or close business associates

141. What are its characteristics? An RBA exists with everyone you meet – Can open a positive account – Can begin with a negative balance You can never close an RBA – Pick up after a lot of time – Hold grudges An RBA requires continuous deposits to stay positive

142. Deposits Deposits are made with positive interactions that you have with people. For example, if you give your spouse a back rub or words of encouragement, it is considered a deposit into your relationship account.

143. What are deposits? Keeping promises Doing small acts of kindness Being loyal Listening Saying you’re sorry Setting clear expectations

144. Withdrawals Withdrawals are made when people act negatively towards you, like acting in a way that is irritating or rude to someone you are close to.

145. What are withdrawals? Breaking promises Keeping to yourself Gossiping and breaking confidences Not listening Being arrogant Setting false expectations

146. Decisions Making a deposit is like investing in a relationship. If there are more withdrawals than deposits, it may indicate that the relationship is not likely to continue.

147. - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. “Life’s most urgent question is: What are you doing for others?”

148. What is the most powerful deposit someone has made into your RBA?

149. What is the most hurtful withdrawal someone has taken from your RBA?

150. How are your relationships? If you had to rate how well you’re doing in your most important relationships… LousyExcellent Friends? 12345 Siblings? 12345 Parents? 12345 Teachers? 12345

151. How to have good relationships? One deposit at a time Build a rich relationship or repair a broken one There is no quick fix

152. Growth It is important to realise that everyone has relationship bank accounts, whether or not the terminology is used. You should be aware of them and think about the transactions that you make to help your relationships grow.

153. A personal challenge… Pick one important relationship in your life that is damaged; it could be with a sibling or friend. Commit yourself to repairing and rebuilding that relationship one deposit at a time. Be patient, stick with it! Could take months and the other person may be suspicious. It’ll be worth it!

154. How to begin to build? Keep promises – Tell your parents where you’ll be and be there – Before giving commitments, make sure you can follow through Do small acts of kindness – Thank someone you’ve been wanting to Be loyal – Refrain from gossip, come up with a plan – Go the whole day only saying positive things about others

155. More confidence builders… Listen – Talk less, listen more – Take the time to listen to a family member’s stories Say you’re sorry – Write a note of apology to someone you hurt Set clear expectations – Create a plan to get on the same page with someone who is expecting something else from you

156. Here are five deposits that seem to work well with parents. Of course, with every deposit, there’s an opposing withdrawal. Deposits Withdrawals Understand what’s important to them Assume you know Tell the truth Lie and cover up Sense the need and do it Wait until you’re told Remember the little things Forget the little things Open up Close yourself off Use the most important words Avoid the most important words

157. Building Relationships Today we are going to work on building the relationships within the class by developing and implementing a decorating plan for outside the classroom. The theme for Homecoming is WATCH OUT CHIEFS, TIME IS ON OUR SIDE. Begin thinking about how we could decorate. Write down your ideas in a bulleted list and be prepared to share.

158. October 11, 2013 Login to your computer as YOU. Login into money skills---your password has been changed to your computer login. If that doesn’t work, then switch user but leave your login active and login to your computer as kaperritt/Aug42012 Login to moneyskill with your login Complete Module 2 and 3 on Money Skills Go to H: drive/Assignments and work on personality profile. Print results to Room 109.

159. October 7 Make sure relationship packet is in folder. Make sure 20 questions assignment is in folder. Work on spirit wall.

160. October 8, 2013 Guest Speaker Make sure you’ve completed the following and placed in folder. Progress Reports on Friday. 20 Questions Character, Friendship, Loyalty Money Skills Module 2 Monster’s Inc. Relationship Bank Account

161. 4. Think win-winThink win-win Know that there is enough to go around. Life isn't a zero-sum game where the only way I can win is if someone else loses. Have what Covey calls an Abundance Mentality. Seek solutions that benefit all parties. If you can't find such a solution, don't make an agreement.

162. The Win/Win process has four steps. 1. See the problem from the other point of view, in terms of the needs and concerns of the other party. 2. Identify the key issues and concerns (not positions) involved. 3. Determine what results would make a fully acceptable solution. 4. Identify new options to achieve those results.

163. Win/Win - Mutually beneficial and co-operative. All parties come out on top Win/Lose - "If I win, you lose." Lose/Win - "If I lose, you win." This can lead to an eventual breakdown in relationships as resentment builds up. Lose/Lose - This happens when two Win/Lose people clash, it leads to a stubborn impasse as they try to beat each other at all costs. Win - Don't really want anyone to lose they just want everyone to come out on top. It's an "every man for himself" mentality.

164. October 15, 2013 Journal Conflict

165. Journal Describe a time in the past when you have learned a life lesson from a mistake you made. Examples may relate to friends/relationships with others, preparing/executing a school project, or others How did you feel at the time? What were the consequences of that mistake? Looking back, what lessons did you learn from that mistake? If you had the opportunity to change the situation, would you? Why or why not?

166. What's the point ? A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three traits: Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone

167. Conflict Opposition a clash of opposing ideas disagreement fight or battle contention, hostility

168. Cause of Conflict Opposing viewpoints or opinions Emotions Selfishness Miscommunication or misunderstandings Assumptions

169. Opposing Viewpoints

174. What do you see? spots or dalmatian.

176. What do you see… A man or two people kissing ?

178. What do you see…. A woman or man playing a sax?

180. What do you see…. A rabbit or a duck?

181. Strategies to Get Past Paradigms (Perceptions) Avoid Assumptions Validation Listen Problem Solving Skills Tell Your Story

182. Connect all the lines with 1 continuous line in only 4 strokes. You cannot lift your pencils the paper.

183. Strategies to Resolve Conflicts Assume you do not have all the answers. Ask questions to understand the other person(s). Be prepared to compromise or make a deal. Postpone. Enforce. Compromise. Explore.

184. Win-Lose Attitude Using other people Trying to get ahead at the expense of someone else Spreading rumors or putting someone down Always insisting on your own way Become jealous when good things happened for others

185. Lose-Win Weak Easily stepped on Give in all the time Letting people have their way all the time Setting low expectations for yourself

186. Lose-Lose Seeking revenge Obsession Co-dependence Possessiveness

187. Win-Win Win the private victory first Avoid competing and comparing Look for ways for all to win

188. October 16, 2013 Finish Handouts for Habit 4 Begin Video Answer video questions

189. October 17 Finish Movie Insure that the following are in folder. 1.Movie sheet 2.Habit 4 parts 1 and 2 3.Relationship Bank Packet from last week.

190. October 18th Login to your computer as YOU. Login into Moneyskill---with your first name. Your password on Moneyskill has been changed to your computer login. If that doesn’t work, then switch user but leave your login active and login to your computer as kaperritt/aug42012 Login to Moneyskill again with your login Complete Module 3, 4, and 5 on Money Skills

191. The Tumor Twins Competing and Comparing These two habits can slowly eat you away from the inside. It’s impossible to think Win Win with them around.

192. Competing Can be healthy when it drives us to improve, to reach, and to stretch. Healthy when you compete against yourself or when it challenges to read and stretch. Unhealthy when you tie your self worth into winning or use it to place yourself above another person.

193. Comparing We are all on different developmental timetables--- socially, mentally, and physically. Each person has his own course, separated from other courses by a tall wall. Your course has customized obstacles, just for you. Don’t build your life based on how you stack up to someone else.

194. How to deal with others Sometimes, no matter how you try, you won’t be able to find a Win-Win solution. That’s when you move to No Deal! For example, if you and friend can’t agree on where to go one night, split up and get together another night.

195. October 21 Preview Questions The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch Postview Questions

196. October 22 Today we will complete some tasks that guidance needs for your IGP. Please follow instructions carefully, and if you have any questions, ask. Get your computer and login. I will then explain the tasks.

198. October 29 Information Handout Movie

199. Facts A 2007 report by the South Carolina Council on Homelessness found that on any given night, there were 6,759 homeless people in South Carolina – nearly 20% of whom were children. Considering the fact that Georgetown has just under 7,000 residents, the enormity of the problem becomes easier to grasp. The Council also found that over the course of a year, SC has more than 17,000 documented cases of homelessness – undocumented cases may increase this number significantly.

200. Journal If you could change your relationship with one person, who would it be? What would be different?

201. Liz Murray Video 1 Video 2 Video 3

202. October 31, 2013 Group Work With your group, finish the rest of the packet: Living the Bottom Line Finding the Bottom Line Easy Pay for Two A Better Bottom Line Individual Work Summing Up

203. November 1 Money Skill module 6,7,8 Make sure the following are ready to be graded. SCOIS information/I know guidance took some. college virtual tour/Respect Responsibility packet Homeless Packet

204. 5.Seek first to understand, then to be understoodSeek first to understand, then to be understood Listen empathically (getting inside the other person's frame of reference so you listen with one purpose: understanding) until you truly understand the other person's position. Then work on ensuring that you clearly communicate your thoughts and ideas.

205. Active Listeneing Pay attention to how the father listens. Video Now, get out a sheet of paper, and prepare to take some notes: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3

206. Learn to Listen You have two ears and one mouth! You should listen twice as much as you talk.

207. Poor Listening Skills Spacing out: Pretend Listening Selective Listening Word Listening Self-Centered Listening Judging

208. Genuine Listening Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. Listen for what they are not saying. Stand in their shoes Practice Mirroring

209. Seeking to be understood Ask yourself if what you have to say will benefit the other person or yourself. Send I messages instead of you messages. Instead of “You have a bad temper” “I’m concerned that you have a temper problem.”

210. Listening and Understanding In your communications, be sure you know the other person's point of view before you start expounding your own ideas.” Use the “10 Second”rule It saves time -if you understand an other’s frame of reference, then you can more effectively communicate

211. Journal You are told that you would be doing the same job every day of the year for the rest of your life. Identify three benefits and three drawbacks to the situation. At the bottom of the page list current jobs for which you would be able to meet the minimum requirements.

212. November 8 Login to your computer. Login to Money Skill Complete Modules 9, 10, 11 before the end of class. If you were absent last Friday, complet 6, 7, and 8. You must do 9-11 at home before next Friday.

213. Bonus Activity: Holiday Cards for Soldiers on deployment Choose a Card from the selection. Write a short note to a soldier serving our country. Use: Your Name C/O Kathi Perritt’s class 2500 Anthuan Maybank Blvd. Georgetown, SC 29440

214. 6. Synergize “Alone we can do so little; Together we can do so much.” (Helen Keller)

215. CAN YOU RELATE? T/F 1.I demand perfection from myself and everyone around me. 2.I am surprised when others don’t like me or my ideas: 3.People continually make promises to me without following through 4.I don’t have many friends whom I really like or trust 5.I get tired of all this political correctness. I don’t have to like everyone 6.I don’t appreciate other people’s opinions of me 7.I don’t like change 8.I work better alone than in groups 9.I tend to be more negative than positive 10.I’m afraid people will find out that I’m not what I appear to be

216. If the majority of your answers are true, it’s time to turn off the negativity and rid yourself of your limited beliefs. In order to know yourself, you have to understand the lives and actions of others. Be a student of human nature and appreciate what everyone can bring to the party. If the majority of your answers are false, you’re comfortable with yourself and how you relate to people of all kinds. You’re a student of life and know learning from others helps you in your own life.

217. Have you ever seen a flock of geese, flying in V formation?  By flying in a V they can go 71% farther.  If the leader gets tired he can move back in the V.  Geese back in the V will honk to encourage the ones in front.  When Geese get out of the V they feel the wind, and go back into the V.

218. Synergy “The essences of synergy is to value differences—to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.” --Stephen R. Covey Everyone has something to contribute Different viewpoints can coalesce into better solutions Respect differences -“if we were all the same, then some of us would be unnecessary!”

219. Which fruit is most important?

220. Diversity!

221. What is Diversity?

222. YOU! Culture/Heritage Family Likes/Dislikes Attitude Religion Talents Beliefs FriendsChoices Experiences Knowledge

223. WHY IS DIVERSITY IMPORTANT? *3tablespoons margarine or butter *1package (10 oz.) regular marshmallows *6cups KELLOGG'S® RICE KRISPIES® cereal

224. How do you handle diversity? Shunning Tolerating Celebrating!

225. Learning from others Everything that irritates us about others can lead to an understanding of ourselves. People who upset us the most are often our best teachers! When you understand and are comfortable with yourself, it becomes easier to open yourself to the ideas of others. Always put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Many of the “truths” you cling to are simply a result of one point of view-yours.

226. GROUND RULES FOR SYNERGIZING Mental Preparation Prepare to find a solution that is better than what either person presently has in mind. Develop a win-win mentality. Believe that all parties involved will gain more insight, enthusiasm, learning, and growth by working together. Keep minds, hearts, and expressions open to new possibilities. Recognize others’ differing opinions, viewpoints, and perspectives as helpful when seeking solutions. Valuing the differences lets people discover things together that they would much less likely

228. How to Synergize : ACTION PLAN  ? DEFINE THE PROBLEM / OPPORTUNITY  ← THEIR WAY (Seek to understand others)  → YOUR WAY (Seek to share your ideas)  BRAINSTORM (Create new ideas)  ↑ HIGHWAY (Seek to understand others)

229. Synergy is Synergy is not Celebrating differences Teamwork Open-mindedness Finding new and better ways Tolerating difference Working independently Thinking you are always right Compromise

230. “Animal school” Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects. In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian. What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others? What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary? How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie)

231. December 3 Find your seat. Begin working on the crossword puzzle. I will hand out completed Chapter 6 guide, and you may use it if you turned it in. You have 15 minutes to complete the crossword puzzle. Turn it in. Following directions activity. Following directions partner activity.

232. Action Plan for Synergy Define the problem or opportunity. Their Way: Seek to understand other’s ideas. My Way: Share your ideas with others. Brainstorm: Create new options and ideas. High Way: Find the best solution.

233. Synergy You work in a bakery. A customer calls fifteen minutes before she is coming in to pick up the birthday cake she ordered that morning. The cake was to be decorated for her husband’s 40 th birthday, which is tonight. You find the cake has not been made. What options does the bakery staff have to solve this problem?

234. Teamwork: Types of members Plodders: sure and steady---stick to a job until its done Followers: supportive to leaders, if they hear a great idea they can run with it Innovators: the creative idea people, they offer sparks Show Offs: fun to work with, good presenters Harmonizers: provide unity and support, encourage cooperation

235. Synergy Team work Support

236. Tuesday-Friday You must complete the following: 1. Brochure 2. Resume 3. Cover Letter 4. Money Skills Module 9-12

237. Habit 7: Sharpen the SawSharpen the Saw

238. What are the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens? Habit 1: Be Proactive. –Take responsibility for your life. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind. –Define your mission and goals in life. Habit 3: Put First Things First. –Prioritize, and do the most important things first. Habit 4: Think Win-Win. –Have an everyone-can-win attitude. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. –Listen to people sincerely. Habit 6: Synergize. –Work together to achieve more. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw. –Renew yourself regularly.

239. Saw Away Imagine that you go for a walk in the forest and you see a guy furiously sawing away at a tree. “What are you doing?”, you ask. “I’m sawing down a tree,” comes the curt reply. “How long have you been at it?” “Four hours so far, but I am really making progress.” he says, as sweat drips off of his chin. “Your saw looks really dull.” you say. “Why don’t you take a break and sharpen it?” “I can’t, you idiot, I am too busy sawing.”

240. Four Dimensions of Renewal Physical - Body Mental - Mind Social - Heart Spiritual - Soul

241. Sharpen the Saw - Body Care for your body –You are what you eat –Use it or lose it –All about how you feel –Quit whenever you want –The refusal skill

242. Ruun Forrest Ruuuuun… Think of the movie Forrest Gump. It’s the story of a naive young man from Alabama with a good heart who keeps stumbling upon success despite himself. At one point in the movie, Forrest is frustrated and confused about his life. So what does he do? He starts running. After running back and forth from one coast to the other two and a half times, Forrest feels better and is finally able to sort his life out.

243. Use it or Lose it. We all feel confused, depressed or apathetic at times. It is at these times where perhaps the best thing we can do for ourselves is do what Forrest did: exercise ourselves better.

244. It’s About How You Feel, Not How You Look Be careful not to get too obsessed with appearances. Unfortunately, our society has become one that is hung up on “looks”.

245. Real Life or Art? Many years ago, beauty queen and actress Michelle Pfeiffer was featured on the front of Esquire Magazine with the caption “What Michelle Pfeiffer needs…is absolutely nothing.” She actually needed more help than meets they eye, as author Allen Litchfield revealed in Sharing Light in the Wilderness:

246. But another magazine, Harper’s, offered proof in it’s edition the following month that even the “beautiful people” need a little help. Harper’s had obtained the photo retoucher’s bill for Pfeiffer’s picture on the Esquire cover. They charged $1,525 to render the following services: “Clean up complexion, soften smile lines, trim chin, soften line under earlobe, add hair, add more forehead to create better line, and soften neck muscles.”

247. Drugs and Your Body Up with Hope, Down with Dope!! “I can quit whenever I want”…then why don’t you? Drugs are expensive and they ruin your mind and body and possibly your entire future.

248. Sharpen the Saw - Mind Care for your brain –Sharpen your mind –Find your niche –School in way of education –Post high school –Mental barriers –You gotta wanna

249. Socrates…(He’s great with kids) There was once a young man who came to Socrates, the wise Greek Philosopher, and said “I want to know everything you know.” “If this is your desire,” Socrates said, “then follow me to the river.” Full of curiosity, the young man followed Socrates to the nearby river. As they sat on the bank, Socrates said, “Take a close look at the river and tell me what you see.” “I don’t see anything,” said the young man. “Look closer,” replied Socrates. As the man peered over the bank and leaned closer to the water, Socrates grabbed the man’s head and shoved it under the water. The man’s arms flailed wildly as he attempted to escape, but Socrates’ strong grip kept him submerged. About the time the man was about to drown, Socrates pulled him out of the river and laid him on the bank.

250. Socrates… Coughing, the man gasped, “Are you crazy, old man? What are you trying to do, kill me?” “When I was holding you under the river, what did you want more than anything else?” asked Socrates. “I wanted to breathe! I wanted air!” he replied. “Don’t ever make the mistake of thinking wisdom comes so easily, my young friend,” said Socrates, “When you want to learn as badly as you wanted air just now, come back to me again.” SO WHAT’S THE MORAL OF THE STORY? Nothing comes in life easy. You have to pay the price! Write it down, underline it, memorize it. There is no such thing as a free lunch!

251. Be a Smarty Pants Surveys indicate that the television is on in most homes thirty- five to forty hours per week. (But I thought “Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader” was educational…) Reading good literature on a regular basis is a good way to renew your mind. Keeping a journal of our thoughts, experiences, and insights is also beneficial.

252. Sharpen the Saw – Heart Care for your heart –Relationships –Laugh or you’ll cry

253. Take Care of your “Heart” This area of our lives is primarily developed in our relationships with others. We can help script others as principle- centered, value-based, independent, worthwhile individuals.

254. Laughing and Crying (or both) Have you ever laughed so hard that you could barely breathe? How did you feel when you finally stopped laughing? Have you ever had a really bad day and you go home and just cry for a few minutes? How do you feel when you are done? Was there ever a time where you laughed so hard that you started crying?

255. Sharpen the Saw - Soul Care for your soul –Back to nature –Teen’s best friend –Spiritual diet –Disturbing my sleep –Fried frogs –Get real

256. Your Soul and Spirit The spiritual dimension is your core, your center, your commitment to your value system. Spiritual renewal is a Quadrant II investment of time that we really can't afford to neglect. A personal mission statement enables us to have an understanding of our purpose which we can review frequently.

257. Balance Know your goals for the roles that you play in life (student, daughter, son, employee, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, etc.) Be sure to take time out for yourself and do something relaxing or that you enjoy. You must take time to rejuvenate if you want to be effective in all areas of your life.

258. Keep Hope Alive

259. Hope is a thing with feathers Hope is a thing with feather That perches in the soul And sings a tune without the words And never stops at all. I’ve heard it in the strangest lands And on the strangest seas But never in extremity Its ask a crumb of me.

260. Hope So be sure when you step Step with care and great tact And remember that life’s A great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains ~Dr. Seuss

261. Self-Renewal The self-renewal process must include balanced renewal in all four dimensions of our lives.

262. Synergy in Renewal Renewal in any dimension increases our ability to live at least one of the Seven Habits. Improvement in one habit synergistically increases our ability to live the rest.

263. OBSTACLES What obstacles do you think that you will face or are facing that may hinder you from “Sharpening Your Saw?”

264. 7 Habits Review…

265. What are the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens? Habit 1: Be Proactive. –Take responsibility for your life. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind. –Define your mission and goals in life. Habit 3: Put First Things First. –Prioritize, and do the most important things first. Habit 4: Think Win-Win. –Have an everyone-can-win attitude. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. –Listen to people sincerely. Habit 6: Synergize. –Work together to achieve more. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw. –Renew yourself regularly.

266. The End “You can’t make footprints in the sands of time by sitting on your butt, And who wants to leave butt prints in the sands of time?”

267. Dr. Randy Pausch http://www.cmu.edu/randyslecture/

268. Final Writing Assignment Write a five page essay explaining how you can apply the seven habits to improve your life or how you use them already.