2 SELF - ESTEEM Benefits of high: What is it? Influenced by: How much you value yourselfThe measure of how much you like and approve of your self- conceptYour reputation with yourselfRelationships and experiences at school, in your social life, and in societyRelationships with significant others in your lifeIt helps you build and maintain your self – confidenceYou enjoy being with yourselfIt helps you to accept challengesIt helps you to remain flexible
3 The effects of Low Self - Esteem Lack of self – confidenceAn unhappy personal lifeA distorted view of self and othersPoor work and school performancesA cycle of low self – esteem
4 Ways to maintain your self – esteem: Accept who you are. Don’t compare yourself to others’ accomplishments and expectations. Instead, value yourself for who you are and your own achievements.Feeling good about yourself does not mean that you must always succeed and never fail. It involves taking pride in what is good about yourself while accepting your weaknesses.Seek out successful role models and pattern yourself after their values and behavior.
5 Ways to maintain your self – esteem: Be positive. Use positive ‘self-talk’ and avoid criticizing yourself and others.Keep a self – development plan on-going at all times. Develop all dimensions of yourself.By spending time doing what you like to do, you are more likely to feel good about yourself.View mistakes and rejections as learning experiences rather than as failures. Focus on your accomplishments and believe in yourself.
6 Ways to maintain your self – esteem: Develop successful relationships by practicing the skills you will learn in this course so that you have a caring support circle who validate you.By giving warmth, respect, love and affirmation to others, you will receive the same in return and this will increase your own esteem.
8 SELF - CONFIDENCE What is it? You get it through: It affects you by: What you think you are able to doBelieving in yourself and in your abilitiesTrusting yourself to do what is rightTrying new things and experiencing successIncreasing your ability to relaxIncreasing your ability to take risksIncreasing your ability to make the most of opportunitiesIncreasing your ability to try new things
9 You increase your self – confidence in these ways: You need to accept and like yourself. Nobody is perfect.Build self – confidence through accomplishments.Think and speak positively about yourself. Stop giving yourself negative messages.Don’t compare yourself to others.Develop a self-improvement program.Find areas in your life to make positive changes.Put goals into action rather than just planning.View mistakes as a way of learning.Choose friends who help build self – confidence and do not tear you down.Don’t listen to put downs from other people.Take risks and try things that are challenging to yourself.