1. Think Win-Win “Pursue Victory with Honor”
Habit #4
Think Win-Win
“Pursue Victory with Honor”

2. Ice-Breaker Stand next to a partner.
One of you needs to make a fist; as tight a fist as you possibly can.
On the count of three I want the other partner to try and open the other person’s hand.

3. Follow-Up
Did any of you simply ask the other person to open their fist?
“When the environment feels competitive we automatically play with a Win-Lose mindset.” What does this mean?

4. Habit #4 - Think Win-Win
In a Win-Win relationship, both people are happy and feel equal.
Each person needs to develop a healthy definition of the word COMPETITION; develop a balance between wanting to win and doing it in a healthy, positive way.
Realize that COMPARISONS to other people are not healthy and a waste of your time
To have a winning relationship with someone, friendly competition can stay but comparisons must go.

5. Group Activity Work with your table group
This is the BEST activity for demonstrating the importance of working with others for a common “win.”
You need others in your group to succeed in order to succeed yourself.
The only way that your team can be successful is if you all participate.

6. Directions Each group has:
1 pencil, 4 pieces of string, a penny and a “course.”
The goal is for your group is use the resources given to guide the penny through the course (start to finish) without touching the sides of the course.
This is NOT a competition with any other group in the room

7. Rules The penny must stay within the lines of the course at all times.
The penny can only be touched by the pencil’s eraser.
Each person can only touch one of the strings
No one can EVER touch the pencil while the penny is en route
The paper may not be moved or tilted at any point while the penny is en route.

8. “Win – Lose” – The Totem Pole
People with this attitude usually:
Use other people, emotionally or physically, for their own selfish purposes
Try to get ahead at the expense of others
Spread rumors about others
Concentrate on getting their own way without thinking about others’ feelings
Become jealous and envious when something good happens to someone else

9. “Lose – Win” – The Doormat
People with this attitude usually:
Set low expectations for themselves
Have low self-esteem and never consider themselves worthy or good enough
Compromise their standards over and over again
Give in to peer pressure
Allow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of being the “peacemaker”
Is there a time when a Lose-Win attitude is fine?

10. “Lose – Lose” – The Downward Spiral
People with this attitude usually:
Seek revenge
Desire to win at all costs
Are obsessed with others in a negative manner
Have codependent and emotionally damaging relationships

11. “Win – Win” – The All You Can Eat Buffet
People with this attitude usually:
Are happy when others succeed
Help others succeed
Are willing to share recognition
with others
See life as an All-you-can-eat buffet for everybody
Watch the video to see an example of Win-Win in action:
Sportsmanship

12. Scenario Activity Win-Lose Lose –Win Lose – Lose Win - Win
Example scenario
Fill in your scenario
Present your scenario

13. Scenarios: Choose one
Example Situation: The Smith family wants to have their evening meal at 6p.m. This happens to be the time when the kid’s favorite TV show is on.
Situation 1: Brad and a bunch of friends are at McDonald’s. He spills his orange pop and it splashes on Amber at the next table. Amber’s friend Mike, who doesn’t like Brad, sees this from across the restaurant. Mike goes over to the table and gets in Brad’s face.
Situation 2: You and your boyfriend/girlfriend cannot agree on what to do tonight. You want to go to the movies and he/she wants to go out to dinner with some friends. You really want to spend some time alone with him/her but he/she thinks this is “boring.”
Situation 3: Twins, Trevor and Tom, got to borrow their grandmother’s car for a week while she was in Florida. The twins parents told them that if there was any fighting, they would park the car until Granny got back. On Wednesday, they both had a practice at 5:00, and 7:30pm. Trevor had to meet with two different bands and Tom had basketball and hockey practice.