Presentation on theme: "Think Win-Win “Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet!”"— Presentation transcript:
1Think Win-Win “Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet!” Habit #4Think Win-Win“Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet!”
2How do I use Habit #4 Think Win-Win? Think Win-Win is a habit that will help your relationshipsIf you can make this a habit, your relationships will improve - really!You will be able to deal with issues, problems, arguments, etc more effectively and most importantly…keep both yourself and the people around you happy!
3“Win – Lose” – The Totem Pole People with this attitude usually:Use other people, emotionally or physically, for their own selfish purposesTry to get ahead at the expense of othersSpread rumors about othersConcentrate on getting their own way without thinking about others’ feelingsBecome jealous and envious when something good happens to someone else
4“Lose – Win” – The Doormat People with this attitude usually:Set low expectations for themselvesHave low self-esteem and never consider themselves worthy or good enoughCompromise their standards over and over againGive in to peer pressureAllow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of being the “peacemaker”Is there a time when a Lose-Win attitude is fine?
5“Lose – Lose” – The Downward Spiral People with this attitude usually:Seek revengeDesire to win at all costsAre obsessed with others in a negative mannerHave codependent and emotionally damaging relationships
6“Win – Win” – The All You Can Eat Buffet People with this attitude usually:Are happy when others succeedHelp others succeedThink “Abundance”Are willing to share recognitionwith othersSee life as an All-you-can-eat buffet for everybody
7When do we need to “Think Win-Win?” When we are playing sports, games, etc.When we need to work as a groupWhen we need to address problems in our relationshipsReally - we need win-win for most of our human interactions.
8Video Clip Helping a Friend Succeed: What Would You Do? YouTube - Dance
9Difficult Conversations In relationships, communication and conversations must happen.When we feel strongly about something, we sometimes need to have difficult conversations.
10Who really wants to have a difficult conversation? Think of a time when you have.Was the outcome good?Why?Why not?
11Difficult conversations are a fact of life In your personal and work life you will have to have difficult conversations.Entering into a difficult conversation with a win/lose, lose/win, lose/lose mindset will guarantee failure.Entering into a difficult conversation as a learning experience and a chance for you to get a different perspective on an issue will ensure “success”.
12Five Tips for entering into difficult conversations. 1. WHAT DO I WANT TO HAPPEN AS A RESULT OF THE CONVERSATION?What is the outcome that you want?Do you really need to say something?Do you want to find out what the person thinks?Do you want the person to stop doing something?Keep the conversation moving towards your goal of the conversation.
132. WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGE I WANT TO COMMUNICATE? The “why” behind your conversationBe specific and include only the most important reasonsBe careful not to bring up other factors or issues other than what you are speaking about
143. AM I FOCUSED ON THE TOPIC OR EMOTION? An issue that is important to us will involve feelings. However, if you get emotional it will prevent effective communicationStay calm and neutral while speakingStay focused on the content and facts that support your request.
154. WHAT IS THE RIGHT TIME AND PLACE? When both of you have time to discussMake an appointment if necessary/or set up a time to meet.Choose a place with no distractions or other people.
165. WHAT IS THE OTHER PERSON’S PERSPECTIVE? Consider the other person’s feelings and paradigmsAsk if they understand what you’re saying or if they have any questions.Be sure to listen when the other person is talking.Ask questions.Decide on a Win-Win solution together
17________________________ What are some difficult conversations you may need to have with a friend?________________________
18Let’s go back through the 5 steps and use one of these as an example: You find out from a friend that someone has been spreading a rumor about you and you are incredibly upset.You’ve let a new band member into your band, but you realize that he/she is not as good as you thought they were. They think they are great.A friend has been smoking dope for the last 6 months and he/she doesn’t think she has a problem, but their life is starting to revolve around when they are going to get their next joint.