1. 走出性愛迷宮 如何輔導性沉溺的同性戀者 Melvin W. Wong, Ph.D. 黃偉康 博士 Licensed Clinical Psychologist ChristianMentalHealth.com ChristianMentalHealth.com 220 Montgomery Street, Suite 1098, San Francisco, California, U.S.A. ( 思仁 翻譯 )

2. The Ethics of Treatment Is Ego-Dystonic Homosexuality a Disease? Is Ego-Dystonic Homosexuality a Disease? –What is unwanted Same-Sex-Attraction? –Homosexuality vs. Gay? –Genetics versus Environmental influences –Hamer “Gay Gene” –LaVey “Brain Dissection” –Pillard & Bailey “Twin Studies” Review of Treatment literature Review of Treatment literature

3. Failure in (Father) Male-Attachment “Defensive Detachment” Defensive Detachment Defensive Detachment –Dr. Elizabeth Moberly –Dr. Jospeh Nicolosi »NARTH: National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality Gender Identity Disorder Gender Identity Disorder –Dr. George Rekers »Treatment for Adolescent Sexual Disorders –Average 3.5 year-old Boys with gender identity confusion GID: Cross-dressing

4. Failure in (Father) Male-Attachment “Defensive Detachment” Object-Relations: Separation-Individuation Object-Relations: Separation-Individuation –Self-Identity Development: Who-What am I? –Mom-Son: Physical-Emotional Detachment & Attachment –Son-Dad: Bonding (Attachment failure: rejection) –“Rejection = Pain; Detachment = No Pain” Son-Dad relationship Disturbance Son-Dad relationship Disturbance –‘Sour Grape’ Syndrome as a defense against more hurts –Avoids father: No “Aggressiveness-Toughness, etc.”

5. Failure in (Father) Male-Attachment “Defensive Attachment” to Mother (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Homosexuality primarily an Identity Disturbance Homosexuality primarily an Identity Disturbance A Disturbance of a person’s Gender Identity A Disturbance of a person’s Gender Identity A Disturbance of the Masculine Identity Development A Disturbance of the Masculine Identity Development Upon failure to Attach (Separation-Individuation task) Upon failure to Attach (Separation-Individuation task) –Defensive Detachment from Father »Son’s resultant yearning for Male attention and affirmation »Curiosity for the unfamiliar: “Male aspects” of Masculinity ID –Causing a Defensive Attachement to Mother »Son’s Masculinity Development became frustrated & stops »Over familiarity-socialization with females: No “Intrigue”

6. Masculinity Identity Disturbances Victim of sexual abuse: Molestation-rape Victim of sexual abuse: Molestation-rape Pre-mature same sex sensitivity & curiosity Pre-mature same sex sensitivity & curiosity Mixed emotions: Attention-Getting, Pain-Pleasure reversal Mixed emotions: Attention-Getting, Pain-Pleasure reversal Over-Identification with Mother-Sisters-Aunts Over-Identification with Mother-Sisters-Aunts –Over-familiarity: “Know them (women) too well!” –Suffocation: Enmeshment-Limits & Boundary –Dislike-Anger-Rage: “family’s emotional baronmeter” –Role Reversals: “My mother’s keeper!” Misogynist Labeling that turns to a “Self-fulfilling prophesy” Labeling that turns to a “Self-fulfilling prophesy” –“I am gay” “I behave gay” “Once gay, always gay”

7. Masculinity Identity Deficits “Body Discomfort” Dissatisfaction-rejection: own body –S–S–S–Self insecurity: Emotional over-sensitivity “cave-ins” Rejection of the “Real Self” (Peer dependence) Yearning (craving) for the “perfect man body” Attraction (obsessing-preoccupation) of Men Neurotic need for “Symbolic Union” with “Man”, “Manhood”, “Symbols of Men” –M–M–M–Military, Police, Uniform, Power-Predation, Bondage

8. Reference One Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic Elizabeth R. Moberly, (1983 56 pages) Published by James Clarke & Co, Cambridge England British Pound 2.95 (USD $ 9.00)

9. Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic Shifts focus of debate from symptoms to root causes Psychoanalytic Interpretation “the homosexual condition involves legitimate developmental needs, the fulfillment of which has been blocked by an underlying ambivalence to members of the same sex.”

10. Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic She sets the separation between “homosexual-orientation” from “homosexual-activities” “homosexual-orientation” from “homosexual-activities” She coined the term “ Defensive Detachment”

11. “Same-Sex Ambivalence” “An Approach Avoidance Conflict” For Males and Females Male and Female Homosexuality

12. “Defensive Detachment” Why Defensive Detachment? Why Defensive Detachment? From “Attachment” theory of John Bowby From “Attachment” theory of John Bowby With Attachment, there is Detachment With Attachment, there is Detachment How a child-toddler learns autonomy How a child-toddler learns autonomy –Identity Formation and Development –A Dynamic process of Attaching-Detaching The “Psychological-Birth” of an infant The “Psychological-Birth” of an infant

13. Family Tree Diagram Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2

14. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son separates from mom for psychological individuation successfully

15. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son attaches with dad for Gender-Identity formation successfully

16. Unhealthy Relationship Begins Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son’s attempts to attach to father was rebuffed and he experiences rejection and hurt

17. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Detachment Begins Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son’s attempts to defend against more pain from rejection by defensively detaching from father’s relationship emotionally

18. Reference Two Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality A New Clinical Approach Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D. (1991, 355 pages) Published by Jason Aronson Inc. New Jersey, London $32.00

19. Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality “Reparative” Homosexuality as a “Reparative Drive” “Defensive Detachment” Failure of the Father-Son Bond Failure of the Father-Son Relationship

20. Reference Three The Psychological Birth of the Human Infant Symbiosis and Individuation Margaret S. Mahler, Fred Pine & Anni Bergman (1975 308 pages) Published by Basic Books, Inc. Publishers, New York (Hardcover USD $45 Paperback $22)

21. Roots of Homosexuality “Some Predisposing Factors” Sensitive Temperaments: Gender non-conforming –C–C–C–Causes detachment from peers –C–C–C–Causes humiliation “Peer Abuse”: »S»S»S»Shame and Self Deficits –S–S–S–Shame: a vulnerable feeling where self is eroded away Obsessiveness: Preoccupation with what he doesn’t have –A–A–A–Attracted to the opposite qualities: Physique –W–W–W–When the “unattainable and exotic become Erotic” Perfectionistic: No rough-&-tumble play (Too aggressive) –S–S–S–Seeks Attention, Approval, Affection & Affirmation –Y–Y–Y–You can’t affirm what you don’t have (gay sex)

22. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son separates from mom for psychological individuation successfully

23. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son attempts to attach to father for Gender- Identity formation

24. Dealing with the question of “Why” Family developmental history Defensive detachment & Defensive Attachment Defensive detachment & Defensive Attachment Father-Absence & Mother-Enmeshment Father-Absence & Mother-Enmeshment Childhood traumatic experiences Childhood traumatic experiences –Sexual violation and verbal abuse Opposite-sex peer friendships Opposite-sex peer friendships Same-sex peer friendships Same-sex peer friendships Develop theory of attraction for understanding Develop theory of attraction for understanding

25. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son separates from mom for psychological individuation successfully

26. Healthy Relationship Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son attempts to attach to father for Gender- Identity formation

27. Unhealthy Relationship Begins Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son’s attempts to attach to father was rebuffed and he experiences rejection and hurt

28. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Detachment Begins Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son ’ s attempts to defend against more pain from rejection by defensively detaching from father ’ s relationship emotionally

29. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Begins Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son has no choice but to re-attach with mom for emotional security

30. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Continues Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son has no choice but to re-attach with mom for emotional security Forming Defensive Attachment

31. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Intensifies Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Son generalizes defensive detachment to defensively attach to girls and women: Non- aggressive & softer

32. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Intensifies Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Father becomes a stanger Generalization intensifies. Father becomes a stanger Girl 1 Girl 2

33. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Intensifies Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Men are unfamiliar Generalization intensifies. Men are unfamiliar Girl 1 Girl 2 Girlfriend

34. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Solidifies Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Men are objectified- curious-sexualized Girl 1 Girl 2 Girlfriend Grandma

35. Unhealthy Relationship Defensive Attachment Solidifies Father Son-1 Son-1 Mother Daughter Son-2 Men are objectified- curious-sexualized Girl 1 Girl 2 Girlfriend Grandma Aunt 1

36. Treatment Issues Factors affecting prognosis Factors affecting prognosis Therapist/Client match Therapist/Client match Transference/Counter-transference issues Transference/Counter-transference issues Object Relations Object Relations Nonsexual male relationships Nonsexual male relationships Group therapy Group therapy The role of father and religious support groups The role of father and religious support groups

37. Same-Sex Attraction vs. Gay “A person with same-sex attraction” “A person with same-sex attraction” “A homosexual person” vs. “homosexual” “A homosexual person” vs. “homosexual” “A person with gay feelings” vs. “I am gay” “A person with gay feelings” vs. “I am gay” Clarify labeling of “problem-issue-disorder” Clarify labeling of “problem-issue-disorder” “Attraction does not make an identity” “Attraction does not make an identity” Separate the description from the identity Separate the description from the identity Take away labeling of a behavior as identity Take away labeling of a behavior as identity

38. Specific Treatment Areas (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Ideational (Mindset) Ideational (Mindset) –Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Behavioral Behavioral –Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Relational Relational –Increase Male Non-Sexual Friendships Spiritual Spiritual –Increase Pursuit of Holiness-Maturity

39. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Ideations: Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement –Desperate crave for same-sex intimacy and acceptance Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts –Neediness and affirmation of needs Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts –Accountability partner- “tell a friend” Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) –Paroxetine:Paxil, Sertraline:Zoloft, Fluoxetine:Prozac

40. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Behaviors: Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Out Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Check-in with client weekly: Accountability Check-in with client weekly: Accountability –How did it feel afterwards? “Good but bad!” Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Positive-Negative reinforcements Positive-Negative reinforcements –Commendations, Loss of spouse, rubber-bands Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) –Paroxetine:Paxil, Sertraline:Zoloft, Fluoxetine:Prozac

41. “Addiction-Acting-Out Cycle” Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000 Compulsivity Deprivation Impulsivity Satiation Victim-Abuser Blame-Shame Guilt

42. The Physical Intimacy-Orgasmic Cycle (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) “Intimacy Always Feels Good!” “Emotional Intimacy Leads to Physical Intimacy!” “Physical Intimacy Can Lead to Orgasm!” “Orgasm Always Feels Good!” “Orgasmic Feeling is Intimacy?” Physical Intimacy is an Antidote for: Loneliness, Low-Self Worth, Boredom, Aggression, Anger, Despair, Abandonment (Applies to Heterosexuals and Homosexuals)

43. The Addiction (Modified from Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. & Steven Arterburn, M.S.) Craving-tension-urge to get emotionally intimate with others Craving-tension-urge to get emotionally intimate with others Mental-Emotional-Visual Triggers Mental-Emotional-Visual Triggers Pain Repression with immediate Sexual Longing Pain Repression with immediate Sexual Longing Fantasy Development-Planning Begins (The Thrill begins) Fantasy Development-Planning Begins (The Thrill begins) The Hunt (The Intrigue) The Hunt (The Intrigue)

44. The Addiction (Modified from Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. & Steven Arterburn, M.S.) The Connection The Connection –“Rush” Altered state of awareness The Act The Act –Under-Control: Impulsivity: Binge The Fulfillment The Fulfillment –Orgasm: Feeling Dissociation The Let-Down The Let-Down –Self-Blame: Numbness The Vow The Vow –Over-Control: Compulsivity: Rigidity The Cycle Returns again (Deprivation Sets-In) The Cycle Returns again (Deprivation Sets-In)

45. “Addiction-Acting-Out Cycle” Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000 CompulsivityDeprivationImpulsivitySatiation Victim-Abuser Blame-Shame Guilt

46. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Relational: Increase Male non-sexual friendships Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males –Develop insight of over-adulation and devaluation Develop courage to befriend attractive males Develop courage to befriend attractive males –Sexual-attraction desensitization, ego-stability –“I’m one of the guys!” “I can’t believe I belong!” –Learn to keep relationships: Reduce jealousy Group meetings-activities with guys Group meetings-activities with guys –Attend regular self-help groups: EA, SA’s, Exodus

47. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Spiritual: Increase Pursuit of Holiness-Maturity Increase involvement in local place of worship Increase involvement in local place of worship –Accountability within the family of God –Acceptance: To accept and be accepted & affirmed “Will overcoming desires” “Will overcoming desires” –Spiritual Discipline: Process of sanctification –Daily renewal of spiritual relationship »Personal relationship with the Lord-Jesus-Brotherhood Place to “give-back” “re-invest” as messengers Place to “give-back” “re-invest” as messengers –Provide hope for other struggling on the journey

48. New Male Behaviors Self-Acceptance: Body-Comfort: I’m okay! Self-Acceptance: Body-Comfort: I’m okay! Male-Resocialization: I am one of the guys! Male-Resocialization: I am one of the guys! Mother will be okay if I let her go! Mother will be okay if I let her go! –Mom, do you want a son or a nurse? I can’t be both! Accountability Person: No more secrets! Accountability Person: No more secrets! Female-Resocialization Female-Resocialization –From “I want a masculine woman who is not dependent” –To “Women can be feminine and they are attractive.”

49. Femininity Identity Crisis Development of Lesbianism Great hurts and pains from males Great hurts and pains from males –Fathers who failed or abused them Believes mother is weak as a woman Believes mother is weak as a woman –Rejects self as women; Rejects womanhood (Pain) as being unsafe Sexual abuse-promiscuity resulting in men-hating Sexual abuse-promiscuity resulting in men-hating “If I can be a man I will be safe from harm!” “If I can be a man I will be safe from harm!” –Multi-layered-loose clothes, “Walk like a man, talks like a man” “I hate make-up” “It’s oppressive-sexism- slave!”

50. Specific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Acknowledge-resolve sexual abuse(s) Acknowledge-resolve sexual abuse(s) –Work through pain to develop male-trust again Reconciliation with Mother and Father Reconciliation with Mother and Father Say goodbye to girlfriends Say goodbye to girlfriends Attempt to embrace femininism Attempt to embrace femininism –Put on a dress? Try cosmetics. Try high heels Have feminine affirmation by male-females Have feminine affirmation by male-females Involve with women’s groups Involve with women’s groups

51. Saying Good-Byes Setting the Record Straight: “Real Love?” Setting the Record Straight: “Real Love?” –Needs and Dependence –Exploitations: Dominant vs. Submissive Relationships that met needs Relationships that met needs –“Looking for love in the wrong places” –There were positives about past relationships The Ingredient of Respect The Ingredient of Respect –Establish Same Sex (non-physical) relationships

52. Emergence of the New-Self Overcoming the Expectations of Old Community Overcoming the Expectations of Old Community –Change always unstablizing: Courage to move on –Rejection of others: “You have Changed! What happened?” Establishing a New Social Paradigm Establishing a New Social Paradigm –Relationships are Neutral-Mutual: Non-Shame based –Male Non-Sexual Relationships –Female “Non-Default” Relationships: No more “Safe-Retreats” –Female Emotional-Physical-Sexual Relationships »Overcoming Fears: Enmeshment, Physical-Sexual “Space” »Dependency vs. Initiative Behaviors: “Take a Lead!” »Making a Commitment: Litmus Test of Enmeshment Resolution

53. What is Healing & Recovery? Presence or Absence of SSA? (Thoughts) Presence or Absence of SSA? (Thoughts) –Realistic Expectations: Some Traces of SSA –Memories Can’t be Completely Obliterated, But Emotions Can Reduce Significantly Degree or Intensity of SSA’s? Orientation? Degree or Intensity of SSA’s? Orientation? –Overwhelming vs. “In Passing” “Non-Dwelling” The Recovered vs. The Strugglers The Recovered vs. The Strugglers –Addiction Cycles: Presence or Absence? –Intrusive Thoughts (Orientation?) –Preoccupation & Obsessions –Secret vs. Honesty Litmus Tests: Stressful Times, Unstructured Times Litmus Tests: Stressful Times, Unstructured Times

54. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Ideations: Reduction of Intrusive Thoughts Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement Explain thought origin, validation not encouragement –Desperate crave for intimacy and acceptance Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Develop insight into precursors of thoughts: HALT Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts Re-interpret to reframe the meaning of the thoughts –Neediness and affirmation needs Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts Re-direct thoughts with more competitive thoughts –Accountability partner-tell a friend Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) Medication: SSRI’s (Selective-Serotonin-Reuptake Inhibitors) –Fluoxetine:Prozac, Sertraline:Zoloft, Paroxetine:Paxil

55. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Behaviors: Reduce Masturbation & Acting-Outs Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Goal is to reduce frequency and intensity Check-in with client weekly: Accountability Check-in with client weekly: Accountability –How did it feel afterwards? “Good but bad!” Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Reduce stimuli: No Cyperporn, chats, media Positive-Negative reinforcements Positive-Negative reinforcements –Commendations, Loss of spouse, rubber-bands Medication: Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil help Medication: Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil help

56. Specific Male Treatment Issues (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Relational: Increase Male non-sexual friendships Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males Reduce same-sex pedestal effect of males –Develop insight of over-adulation and devaluation Develop courage to befriend attractive males Develop courage to befriend attractive males –Sexual-attraction desensitization, ego-stability –“I’m one of the guys!” “I can’t believe I belong!” –Learn to keep relationships: reduce jealousy Group meetings-activities with guys Group meetings-activities with guys –Attend regular self-help groups: EA, SA’s, Exodus

57. Femininity Identity Crisis & the Development of Lesbianism Great hurts and pains from males –F–F–F–Fathers who failed or abused them Believes mother is weak as a woman –R–R–R–Rejects self as women; Rejects womanhood (Pain) as being unsafe Sexual abuse-promiscuity resulting in men-hating “If I can be a man I will be safe from harm!” –M–M–M–Multi-layered-loose clothes, “Walk like a man, talks like a man” “I hate make-up” “It’s oppressive-sexism- slave!”

58. What do Lesbians say about themselves? “I’m unhappy with being a woman; it’s weakness” “When I discovered the gay bar, I finally came home” “I feel like I am a man in a woman’s body” I don’t need men, I hate-despise them!” “I am more “homo-emotional” than homosexual” “Smoking, alcohol and drugs are cool!” “You don’t understand how we love, it’s better!” “Women is a stronger sex! Men are weak!”

59. Specific Treatment Issues for Lesbians (Copyright © Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2000) Acknowledge-resolve sexual abuse(s) –W–W–W–Work through pain to develop male-trust again Reconciliation with Mother and Father Say goodbye to girlfriends Attempt to embrace feminine qualities –P–P–P–Put on a dress? Try cosmetics. Try high heels Have feminine affirmation by male-females Involve with women’s groups

60. New Male Behaviors Self-Acceptance: Body-Comfort: I’m okay! Male-Resocialization: I am one of the guys! Mother will be okay if I let her go! –M–M–M–Mom, do you want a son or a nurse? I can’t be both! Accountability Person: No more secrets! Female-Resocialization –F–F–F–From “I want a masculine woman who is not dependent” –T–T–T–To “Women can be feminine and they are attractive.”

61. Emergence of the New-Self Overcoming the Expectations of Old Community –C–C–C–Change always unstablizing: Courage to move on –R–R–R–Rejection of others: “You have Changed! What happened?” Establishing a New Social Paradigm –R–R–R–Relationships are Neutral-Mutual: Non-Shame based –M–M–M–Male Non-Sexual Relationships –F–F–F–Female “Non-Default” Relationships: No more “Safe-Retreats” –F–F–F–Female Emotional-Physical-Sexual Relationships »O»O»O»Overcoming Fears: Enmeshment, Physical-Sexual “Space” »D»D»D»Dependency vs. Initiative Behaviors: “Take a Lead!” »M»M»M»Making a Commitment: Litmus Test of Enmeshment Resolution

62. What is Healing & Recovery? Presence or Absence of SSA “Orientation”? –R–R–R–Realistic Expectations: Some Traces of SSA –M–M–M–Memories Can’t be Completely Obliterated, But Emotions Can Reduce Significantly Degree or Intensity of SSA’s? –O–O–O–Overwhelming vs. “In Passing” “Non-Dwelling” The Recovered vs. The Strugglers –A–A–A–Addiction Cycles: Presence or Absence? –I–I–I–Intrusive Thoughts –P–P–P–Preoccupation & Obsessions –S–S–S–Secret vs. Honesty Litmus Tests: Stressful Times, Unstructured Times

63. 馬太福音 25:34-40 於是王要向那右邊的說 你們這蒙我父賜福的，可 來承受那創世以來為你們所預備的國；因為我 餓了，你們給我吃，渴了，你們給我喝；我作 客旅，你們留我住；我赤身露體，你們給我穿 ；我病了、你們看顧我；我在監裏，你們來看 我。』義人就回答說：『主啊，我們甚麼時候 見你餓了，給你吃，渴了，給你喝？甚麼時候 見你作客旅，留你住，或是赤身露體，給你穿 ？又甚麼時候見你病了，或是在監裏，來看你 呢？』

64. 王要回答說：『我實在告訴你們 ， 這些事你們既做在我這弟兄中一 個最小的身上， 就是做在我身上了。』 馬太福音 25:34-40

65. Religious Support Groups Exodus International (North-America) ExodusNorthAmerica.org ChristianMentalHealth.com National Association for Research & Therapy for Homosexuality narth.com Regeneration Books (Exodus Member) 410-661-4337 Courage (Catholic) 212-268-1010 Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays Pfox.org Evergreen International (Mormons) Evergreen-intl.org