1. Busi 30833 Foundations of Leadership Stuart A. Youngblood Dan Rogers Hall, Room 166D Phone: 817-257-7562 E-Mail: s.youngblood@ tcu.edu

2. The 7 Habits Private Victories (Leading Self) Be proactive Begin with the end in mind Put first things first Public Victories (Leading Others) Think win-win Seek first to understand, then to be understood Synergize Sharpen the saw

3. Agenda Habit 1: Be Proactive (I am the programmer) Maturity Continuum Principle Centered Leadership Law of the Harvest: Paradigms Circle of Concern/Influence Effectiveness: P / PC Balance Path to Action/Ladder of Inference Clever Stories

4. Maturity Continuum Dependence – my welfare depends mainly on YOU –Habits 1,2, & 3 help you move from dependence to independence Independence – my welfare depends mainly on ME (private victories) –Habits 4,5, & 6 help you move from independence to interdependence. Interdependence – my welfare depends mainly on US (public victories)

5. Principle Centered Leadership Your behavior is based on PRINCIPLES that govern interpersonal relationships, not social values Why? Principles are objective, timeless, and universal in relationships Align behaviors & values with principles Example: Law of the Harvest

6. Law of the Harvest What is the key idea?

15. A Paradigm: The 7 Habits Private Victories (Leading Self) Be proactive Begin with the end in mind Put first things first Public Victories (Leading Others) Think win-win Seek first to understand, then to be understood Synergize Sharpen the saw

16. In your notes, write down a story of when you became very angry. What happened? Who or what was it that made you angry? … record what you really felt and thought about the other person. …and what you might have said if you let your guard down! What happened to make you so angry?

17. “Experience is half the Experience!”

18. “Experience is not what happens to you; rather, it is what you do with what happens to you!”

19. A Paradigm: How You See the World SEE GET DO

20. Paradigm SEE – You are a product of your choices DO – The behaviors that you engage in based on your choices GET – The results that you earn from your behaviors

21. What is Effectiveness? P / PC BALANCE –Production – Getting What You Want –Production Capacity – Getting What You Want Again and Again Example: Aesop’s Fable of the Goose that Laid the Golden Egg Assets: Physical, Financial, & Human

22. Habit 1: Be Proactive Definition: Your life is a product of your values (based on principles), not your feelings or your external environment Proactive mindset – You have the ability & freedom to choose how you will respond Reactive mindset – You are controlled by outside influences (moods, feelings, circumstances, other people)

23. Stimulus > Response Healthy adults have the capacity to pause and exercise the FREEDOM TO CHOOSE their responses to stimuli Four Human Endowments –Self-Awareness (Who I am?) –Imagination (What can I be?) –Conscience (What are my values/principles?) –Independent Will (What is best for me?)

24. Stimulus  Response Covey asserts that for humans, there is a small space between the S and R, where you can choose your response. S ? R What do you choose?

25. The Power of CHOICE You can claim (reclaim) your power by recognizing that you can choose…and have more control over your destiny than you ever imagined Remember: You either act or the world acts on you. You either choose or let others choose for you.

26. Anger Story Revisited

27. Look Back At Your “Anger” Story Who made you mad? Circle of Concern Circle of Influence

28. Path to Action We all make sense of experience. Crucial Conversations calls this our path to action. Chris Argyris calls this a ladder of inference.

29. Where Emotion Comes From (O  F  A) Observe Conclusion Feel ACT Judgment Story Event Action

30. On The Wall at Mother Theresa’s Childrens’ Homes in Calcutta People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, so Love them anyway If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives, so Do good anyway If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies, so Succeed anyway Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable, so Be honest and frank anyway People really need help but may attack you if you help them, so Help them anyway Give the world the best you have & you’ll get kicked in the teeth, so Give the world your best anyway

31. Circle of Concern, Influence Who is in your circle of concern? Who is in your circle of influence?

32. Circle of Influence Circle of Concern Circle of Influence What’s the most important thing within the Circle of Influence?

33. Paradigms and Circle of Influence

34. The Power of Language Proactive Language –I can, I will, I choose, Let’s look at the alternatives, I will take responsibility for that, Let’s get organized, You can count on me …. Reactive Language –I can’t, I won’t, It’s up to you, There is nothing I can do, That’s the way I am, You make me so mad, They won’t listen to me, I don’t have time, That’s not my thing ….

35. What Will You Change? Pick one relationship in your current life that you want to improve most…by making new choices (family member, friend, colleague, boss, girl/boy friend, other …) In your notes, write down the proactive choices that you need to make for this to be possible? Now, will you act on these choices? When?

36. Language of Proactive Person “You can only stop sabotaging yourself if you don’t think you were someone else’s victim.” Rosabeth Moss Kanter, New York Times, September 19, 2004, bu-7 “A victim is a person who suffers a loss because of the actions of others. Victims believe salvation comes only from the actions of others” Robert E. Quinn, Deep Change, 1997, p. 21

37. Things To Do Watch for three clever stories: Victim Stories - What am I pretending not to know about my role in this story? Villain Stories - Why would a reasonable, rational and decent person do or say that … Helpless Stories - What could I do right now to move toward what I really want?

38. What Is Most Important About Habit 1? YOU ARE THE PROGRAMMER! You can’t “fix” someone else, but you can fix yourself! The door to proactive personal change is locked from the inside.

39. Habit 1: You write the Program

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