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1 “ He who knows others is learned. He who knows himself is wise.” Lao Tzu

2 THE ENNEAGRAM ANY-a-gram

3 The Descriptions Peacemaker Reformer Helper Achiever IndividualistInvestigator Loyalist Enthusiast Challenger

4 Statistics Type 1 56 Type 2 53 Type 3 24 Type 4 07 Type 5 02 Type 6 28 Type 7 17 Type 8 40 Type

5 This Group Type 1 2 Type 2 2 Type 3 0 Type 4 0 Type 5 0 Type 6 4 Type 7 0 Type 8 3 Type

6 What we will cover Levels of DevelopmentLevels of Development 9 Personality Types, Wings,9 Personality Types, Wings, The Wake up Call & The Red FlagThe Wake up Call & The Red Flag Direction of Integration & DisintegrationDirection of Integration & Disintegration Self AwarenessSelf Awareness Personal Growth Recommendations.Personal Growth Recommendations.

7 What we may think of ourselves What others may think of us 1. as fair, reasonable and 1. as fair, reasonable and objective. objective. 2. as thoughtful, well 2. as thoughtful, well meaning & generous. meaning & generous. 3. as competent and 3. as competent and worthwhile. worthwhile. 4. as sensitive and 4. as sensitive and intuitive. intuitive. 5. as intelligent and 5. as intelligent and profound. profound. 6. as trustworthy and 6. as trustworthy and reliable. reliable. 7. as practical and fun- 7. as practical and fun- loving. loving. 8. as strong and 8. as strong and independent. independent. 9. as undemanding & 9. as undemanding & Uncomplicated Uncomplicated 1.as rigid, dogmatic, and overly critical. overly critical. 2. as intrusive and self- deceptive. deceptive. 3. attention seeking and arrogant arrogant 4. as overly touchy and too ruled by their feelings. too ruled by their feelings. 5. as too intense and strangely detached. strangely detached. 6. as defensive and insecure. insecure. 7. as superficial and infantile. infantile. 8. as belligerent and dictatorial. 9. as complacent and neglectful. neglectful.

8 Basic Fear & Basic Desire 1.Fear of being bad, corrupt, evil, or defective. 2.Fear of being unworthy of love. 3.Fear of being worthless or without inherent value. 1The desire to have integrity (deteriorates into critical perfectionism) 2The desire to be loved (deteriorates into the need to be needed) 3The desire to be valuable (deteriorates into chasing after success)

9 Basic Fear & Basic Desire 4Fear of being without identity or personal significance. 5Fear of being useless, incapable, or incompetence. 6Fear of being without support or guidance. 4The desire to be oneself (deteriorates into self- indulgence. 5The desire to be competent (deteriorates into useless specialization) 6The desire to be secure (deteriorates into an attachment to beliefs)

10 Basic Fear & Basic Desire 7Fear of being deprived or trapped in pain. 8Fear of being harmed or controlled by others. 9Fear of loss of connection, of fragmentation. 7The desire to be happy (deteriorates into frenetic escapism.) 8The desire to protect oneself (deteriorates into constant fighting) 9The desire to be at peace (deteriorates into stubborn neglectfulness)

11 The Nine Passions (Deadly Sins) The Passions represent the Nine ways that we lose our Center and become distorted in our Thinking, Feeling, and Doing.

12 The “Passions” (Deadly Sins) Sloth Anger Pride Deceit EnvyAvarice Fear Gluttony Lust

13 THE NINE PASSIONS 1.ANGER : This Passion might be more accurately described as Resentment. Anger by itself is not the problem, but in Ones the anger is repressed, leading to continual frustration and dissatisfaction with themselves and with the world. This Passion might be more accurately described as Resentment. Anger by itself is not the problem, but in Ones the anger is repressed, leading to continual frustration and dissatisfaction with themselves and with the world.

14 THE NINE PASSIONS 2. PRIDE : Pride refers to an inability or unwillingness to acknowledge one’s own suffering. Twos deny many of their own needs while attempting to “help” others. This Passion could also be described as Vainglory – pride in one’s own virtue. Pride refers to an inability or unwillingness to acknowledge one’s own suffering. Twos deny many of their own needs while attempting to “help” others. This Passion could also be described as Vainglory – pride in one’s own virtue.

15 THE NINE PASSIONS 3. DECEIT : Deceit means deceiving ourselves into believing that we are only the ego self. When we believe this, we put our efforts into developing our egos instead of our true Nature. We could also call this passion Vanity, our attempt to make the ego feel valuable without turning to our spiritual source. Deceit means deceiving ourselves into believing that we are only the ego self. When we believe this, we put our efforts into developing our egos instead of our true Nature. We could also call this passion Vanity, our attempt to make the ego feel valuable without turning to our spiritual source.

16 THE NINE PASSIONS 4. ENVY : Envy is based on the feeling that something fundamental is missing. Envy leads Fours to feel that others possess qualities that they lack. Fours long for what is absent but often fail to notice the many blessings in their lives. Envy is based on the feeling that something fundamental is missing. Envy leads Fours to feel that others possess qualities that they lack. Fours long for what is absent but often fail to notice the many blessings in their lives.

17 THE NINE PASSIONS 5. AVARICE : Fives feel that they lack inner resources and that too much interaction with others will lead to catastrophic depletion. This Passion leads Fives to withhold themselves from contact with the world. Thus they hold on to their resources and minimize their needs. Fives feel that they lack inner resources and that too much interaction with others will lead to catastrophic depletion. This Passion leads Fives to withhold themselves from contact with the world. Thus they hold on to their resources and minimize their needs.

18 THE NINE PASSIONS 6. FEAR : This Passion might be more accurately described as Anxiety because anxiety leads us to be afraid of things that are not actually happening now. Sixes walk around in a constant state of apprehension and worry about possible future events. This Passion might be more accurately described as Anxiety because anxiety leads us to be afraid of things that are not actually happening now. Sixes walk around in a constant state of apprehension and worry about possible future events.

19 THE NINE PASSIONS 7. GLUTTONY : Gluttony refers to the insatiable desire to “fill oneself up” with experiences. Sevens attempt to overcome feelings of inner emptiness by pursuing a variety of positive, stimulating ideas and activities, but they never feel that they have enough. Gluttony refers to the insatiable desire to “fill oneself up” with experiences. Sevens attempt to overcome feelings of inner emptiness by pursuing a variety of positive, stimulating ideas and activities, but they never feel that they have enough.

20 THE NINE PASSIONS 8. LUST : Lust does not only refer to sexual lust; Eights are “lusty” in that they are driven by a constant need for intensity, control, and self-extension. Lust causes Eights to try to push everything in their lives – to assert themselves willfully. Lust does not only refer to sexual lust; Eights are “lusty” in that they are driven by a constant need for intensity, control, and self-extension. Lust causes Eights to try to push everything in their lives – to assert themselves willfully.

21 THE NINE PASSIONS 9. SLOTH : Sloth does not mean laziness, since Nines can be quite active and accomplished. Rather, it refers to a desire to be unaffected by life. It is an unwillingness to arise with the fullness of one’s vitality to fully engage with life. Sloth does not mean laziness, since Nines can be quite active and accomplished. Rather, it refers to a desire to be unaffected by life. It is an unwillingness to arise with the fullness of one’s vitality to fully engage with life.

22 THE THINKING TRIAD THE FEELING TRIAD THE INSTINCTIVE TRIAD

23 The Instinctive Triad Are concerned with maintaining resistance to reality (creating boundaries resistance to reality (creating boundaries for the self that are based on physical for the self that are based on physical tensions). tensions). These types tend to have problems with These types tend to have problems with aggression and repression. aggression and repression. Underneath their ego defenses they carry Underneath their ego defenses they carry a great deal of rage. a great deal of rage. 8 91

24 8Ego-Self  Eights are constantly putting out energy so that nothing can get too close and hurt them. “I am going to keep my guard up”  “Nothing is going to get the upper hand on me. No one is going to get through my defenses and hurt me. In Type Eight the Ego boundary is primarily focused outward, against the environment.

25 1Ego-Self Type One also hold a boundary against the outside world, but They are more invested in maintaining their internal boundary.  Ones expend enormous energy trying to hold back certain unconscious impulses trying to keep them from getting into consciousness.  It is as if Ones were trying to say to themselves, “I don’t want that feeling ! I don’t want to have that reaction or impulse. “They create a great deal of physical tension to maintain their inner boundaries and hold aspects of their own inner nature at bay.

26 9Ego-Self Type Nine tries to hold their ego boundaries in both the areas, Internal as well as External.  Nines do not want certain feelings and states to disturb their equilibrium. They put up a wall against parts of themselves just like Ones suppressing powerful drives and emotions.  At the same time Nines maintain a strong ego boundary against the outside world so that they will not be hurt. Often engage in passive- aggressive behavior and turn a blind eye to whatever threatens their peace. “If Nines use most of their vital energy to maintain these boundaries, it is not available for living an engaging more fully in the world.

27 Ego-Self Each of these Types has problems with Aggression. Aggression becomes a powerful Rage. Eights tend to act out Rage, Nines tend to deny it, and Ones tend to repress it. Ego-Self Ego-Self InstinctiveTriad

28 The Feeling Triad Are concerned with Self-Image (attachment to the false or assumed (attachment to the false or assumed self of personality). self of personality). They believe that the stories about They believe that the stories about themselves and their assumed qualities themselves and their assumed qualities are their actual identity. are their actual identity. Underneath their ego defenses these Underneath their ego defenses these types carry a great deal of shame. types carry a great deal of shame

29 Their heart qualities are the source of their identity Are primarily concerned with the development of a self-image. They compensate for a lack of deeper connection with the Essential qualities of the heart by erecting a false identity and becoming identified with it. They present this image to others (as well as to themselves) in the hope that it will attract love, attention, approval, and a sense of value. The Feeling Triad – 2,3,4

30 2Self-Image

31 Twos look for value in the good of others. Want to be wanted, they try to obtain favorable reactions by giving people their energy and attention. Twos look for positive responses to their overtures of friendliness, help and goodness in order to build up their own self –esteem. They focus their feelings outward on others but as a result, they often have difficulty knowing what their own feelings are telling them. They also frequently feel unappreciated, although, as much as possible, they must conceal the hostile feelings that this generates. The Feeling Triad – 2

32 Self-Image 4

33 Their energy and attention go inward to maintain a self-image based on Feelings, Fantacies, and Stories from the past. Their personality-identity centers on being “different” being unlike anyone else, and as a result, they often feel estranged from people. Fours tend to create and sustain moods rather than allow whatever feelings are actually present to arise. Less healthy fours often see themselves as victims and prisoners of their past. They believe that there is no hope of being another way because of all the tragedies and abuses that have befallen them. This is also their way of eliciting attention and pity from others and, hence, some degree of validation. The Feeling Triad – 4

34 SelfImage 3

35 The Thinking Triad Are concerned with Anxiety (they experience a lack of support and experience a lack of support and guidance). guidance). They engage in hehaviours that they They engage in hehaviours that they believe will enhance their safety and believe will enhance their safety and security. security. Underneath their ego defenses these Underneath their ego defenses these types carry a great deal of Fear. types carry a great deal of Fear

36 The Thinking Triad – 5, 6, 7 The thinking Triad types are more concerned about the future as if to ask, What’s going to happen to me ? How am I going to survive ? How can I prepare myself to keep bad things from happening ? How I move forward in life ? How do I Cope ? The thinking Triad types are more concerned about the future as if to ask, What’s going to happen to me ? How am I going to survive ? How can I prepare myself to keep bad things from happening ? How I move forward in life ? How do I Cope ?

37 Fear-Reaction 5

38 Fear-Reaction 7

39 The Thinking Triad - 7 Type Seven Charges into life and appears to be afraid of nothing. It at first seems strange that Sevens are in a Triad whose types are afflicted by fear since they are so outwardly adventurous. Despite appearances, Sevens are full of fear, but not of the outside world : they are afraid of their inner world – of being trapped in emotional pain, grief, and especially feelings of Anxiety. So they escape into activity and anticipation of activity. Sevens unconsciously attempt to keep their minds occupied so that their underlying and anxieties and hurts will not surface. Type Seven Charges into life and appears to be afraid of nothing. It at first seems strange that Sevens are in a Triad whose types are afflicted by fear since they are so outwardly adventurous. Despite appearances, Sevens are full of fear, but not of the outside world : they are afraid of their inner world – of being trapped in emotional pain, grief, and especially feelings of Anxiety. So they escape into activity and anticipation of activity. Sevens unconsciously attempt to keep their minds occupied so that their underlying and anxieties and hurts will not surface.

40 Fear-Reaction 6

41 Thinking Triad - 6 In type Six, attention and energy are directed both inward and outward. Sixes feel anxious inside, and so launch into external action and anticipation of the future like Sevens. But having done so, they eventually become afraid that they will make mistakes and be punished or overwhelmed by demands on them, so like Fives they jump back inside. They get scared by their feelings again, and the reactive cycle continues, with Anxiety causing their attention to bounce around like a Ping-Pong-ball. In type Six, attention and energy are directed both inward and outward. Sixes feel anxious inside, and so launch into external action and anticipation of the future like Sevens. But having done so, they eventually become afraid that they will make mistakes and be punished or overwhelmed by demands on them, so like Fives they jump back inside. They get scared by their feelings again, and the reactive cycle continues, with Anxiety causing their attention to bounce around like a Ping-Pong-ball.

42 THE SOCIAL STYLE Withdrawns CompliantsAssertive

43 Strategy employed by Types to get what they want 3, 7, 8 insist or demand that they get what they want. Their approach is active & direct as they go after what they need.

44 Strategy employed by Types to get what they want 1, 2, 6 all attempt to earn something by placating their super ego to get what they want. They do their best to be “good boys and girls” to get their needs meet.

45 Strategy employed by Types to get what they want 4, 5, 9 all withdraw to get what they want. They disengage from others to deal with their needs.

46 How Types Cope when they do not get what they want 9, 2, 7 ( Positive outlook group) all three respond to conflict and difficulty by adopting, as much as possible a “positive attitude” re- framing disappointment in some positive way.

47 How Types Cope when they do not get what they want 3, 1, 5 (Competency Group). These people have learned to deal with difficulty by putting aside their personal feelings and striving to be objective, effective, and competent.

48 How Types Cope when they do not get what they want 6, 4, 8 (Reactive Group). These types react emotionally to conflicts and problems and have difficulties knowing how much to trust other people : “I need you to know how I feel about this.” In conflicts, the reactive types want the other person to match their emotional state “ This is really bothering me! It should bother you too.

49 How each type Manipulates others 1.By correcting others – by insisting that others share their standards. 2.By finding out others’ needs and desires – thus creating dependencies. 3.By charming others – and by adopting whatever image will “work” 4.By being temperamental – and making others “walk on eggshells” 5.By staying preoccupied-and by detaching emotionally from others. 6.By complaining – and by testing others commitment to them. 7.By distracting others – and by insisting that others meet their standards. 8.By dominating others – and by demanding that others do as they say. 9.By “checking out” – and by passive –aggressively resisting others.

50 9 levels of Development for each type

51 Wake-up Calls 1.Feeling a sense of personal obligation to fix everything themselves. 2.Believing that they must go out to others to win them over. 3.Beginning to drive themselves for status and attention. 4.Holding on to and intensifying feelings through the imagination. 5.Withdrawing from reality into concepts and mental worlds. 6.Becoming dependent on something outside the self for guidance. 7.Feeling that something better is available somewhere else. 8.Feeling that they must push and struggle to make things happen. 9.Outwardly accommodating themselves to others.

52 The Red Flag Fears 1.That their ideals are actually wrong and counter productive. 2.That hey are driving friends and loved ones away. 3.That they are failing, that their claims are empty and fraudulent. 4.That they are ruining their lives and wasting their opportunities. 5.That they are never going to find a place in the world or with people. 6.That their own actions have harmed their security. 7.That their activities are bringing them pain and unhappiness. 8.That others are turning against them and will retaliate. 9.That they will be forced by reality to deal with their problems.

53 Direction of Stress or Disintegration Peacemaker Reformer Helper Achiever IndividualistInvestigator Loyalist Enthusiast Leader

54 Direction of Disintegration 1.Methodical Ones suddenly becomes moody and irrational ( at Four ). 2.Needy Twos suddenly become aggressive and dominating (at Eight). 3.Driven Threes suddenly become disengaged and apathetic (at Nine). 4.Aloof Fours suddenly become over-involved and clinging (at Two). 5.Detached Fives suddenly become hyperactive and scattered (at Seven).

55 Direction of Disintegration 6.Dutiful Sixes suddenly become competitive and arrogant (at Three). 7.Scattered Sevens suddenly become perfectionistic and critical (at One). 8.Self-confident Eights suddenly become secretive and fearful (at Five). 9.Complacent Nines suddenly become anxious and worried (at Six).

56 Direction of Integration Peacemaker Reformer Helper Achiever Individualist Investigator Loyalist Enthusiast Leader

57 1.Angry, critical Ones become more spontaneous and joyful, like healthy Sevens. 2.Prideful, self-deceptive Twos become more self-nurturing and emotionally aware, like healthy Fours. 3.Vain, deceitful Threes become more cooperative and committed to others, like healthy Sixes. 4.Envious, emotionally turbulent Fours become more objective and principled, like healthy Ones. 5.Avaricious, detached Fives become more self confident and decisive, like healthy Nines.

58 Direction of Integration 6.Fearful, pessimistic Sixes become more relaxed and optimistic, like healthy Nines. 7.Gluttonous, Sevens become more focused and profound, like healthy Fives. 8.Lustful, controlling, Eights become more open-hearted and caring, like healthy Twos. 9.Slothful, self-neglecting Nines become more self-developing and energetic, like healthy Threes.

59 “ Whatever your age, your up-bringing, or your education, what you are made of is mostly unused potential.” GEORGE LEONARD

60 Ego Inflation and Freedom MoreFreedom LeastFreedom EgoInflation LEVELOF DEVELOPMENT

61 Average is not Normal

62 Self Awareness

63 Healthy Personalities

64 REFORMER

65 HELPER

66 CHALLENGER

67 PEACEMAKER

68 New Inputs

69 ACHIEVER

70 INDIVIDUALIST

71 INVESTIGATOR

72 LOYALIST

73 ENTHUSIAST

74 Filling the Gap

75 Direction of Stress or Disintegration Leader Peacemaker Reformer Helper Achiever IndividualistInvestigator Loyalist Enthusiast

76 “ The man who is aware of himself is henceforward independent; and he is never bored, and life is only too short, and he is steeped through and through with a profound yet temperate happiness.” Virginia Woolf ( ), British Novelist & Essayist

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78 Parental Orientation Parent Connec-ted Ambi- Ambi-valent Dis- Dis-connected NurturingFigureProtectiveFigureBoth

79 What we will cover Levels of Development.Levels of Development. 9 Personality Types, Wings.9 Personality Types, Wings. The Triad.The Triad. The Wake up Call & The Red Flag.The Wake up Call & The Red Flag. Direction of Integration & Disintegration.Direction of Integration & Disintegration. Healthy Personalities.Healthy Personalities. Self Awareness.Self Awareness. Personal Growth Recommendations.Personal Growth Recommendations.

80 RECOMMENDATIONS

81 Personal Growth for 1 Appreciate Others views and methods. Teaching and Educating Style. Process Instincts.Appreciate Others views and methods. Teaching and Educating Style. Process Instincts. Recognize Inner critical voice – Critical and Judgmental. Harsh on self and others. Compassion for Self and others.Recognize Inner critical voice – Critical and Judgmental. Harsh on self and others. Compassion for Self and others. Going for Ideals. Pointing out mistakes. Personal Obligation. Allow time to relax, to play, and to accept yourself as you are.Going for Ideals. Pointing out mistakes. Personal Obligation. Allow time to relax, to play, and to accept yourself as you are. Understand that good and correctness/ rightness are not part of natural order.Understand that good and correctness/ rightness are not part of natural order. Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the sense of perfection in all things and everyone which necessarily includes accepting differences, mistakes, natural desires and the “Dark Side.“Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the sense of perfection in all things and everyone which necessarily includes accepting differences, mistakes, natural desires and the “Dark Side.“ T God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.T God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. Trap: Endlessly trying to gain worthiness by being correct.

82 Personal Growth for 2 Don ’ t be too concerned of what others think of you.Don ’ t be too concerned of what others think of you. Pay attention to personal needs & wants. Recognize your Pride. Tendency to demand.Pay attention to personal needs & wants. Recognize your Pride. Tendency to demand. Learn to receive. Resist temptation for returns.Learn to receive. Resist temptation for returns. Help others for their independence and not dependence on you.Help others for their independence and not dependence on you. Ultimate Task: Realizing that love is not dependent on being needed and developing a sense of humility that goes with not knowing what to give and being in need yourself.Ultimate Task: Realizing that love is not dependent on being needed and developing a sense of humility that goes with not knowing what to give and being in need yourself. Trap: Obtaining personal fulfillment through meeting others' needs.

83 Personal Growth for 3 True Success. Failure is not disaster. Moderate pace. Break. Avoid unnecessary Comparisons.True Success. Failure is not disaster. Moderate pace. Break. Avoid unnecessary Comparisons. Welcome feelings, because most out of touch with feelings. Not a bumper. Creativity, painting, making pottery, music, writing, drawing etc. Nothing may be wrong with your persona. Develop your authentic self.Welcome feelings, because most out of touch with feelings. Not a bumper. Creativity, painting, making pottery, music, writing, drawing etc. Nothing may be wrong with your persona. Develop your authentic self. Realize that love is for you, not for what you accomplish.Realize that love is for you, not for what you accomplish. Though difficult Meditation can help.Though difficult Meditation can help. Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the truth of the statement that love comes to you because of who you are not because of what you do.Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the truth of the statement that love comes to you because of who you are not because of what you do. Trap: Believing that becoming super-efficient will assure success, recognition, love, and acceptance.

84 Personal Growth for 4 Recognize that you are like the others. You are also complete. Avoid Comparison with others.Recognize that you are like the others. You are also complete. Avoid Comparison with others. Come out of Fantasy World. Focus on what is positive in the present. Best in action. Consistent routine and work will boost your Self Esteem and Self Confidence.Come out of Fantasy World. Focus on what is positive in the present. Best in action. Consistent routine and work will boost your Self Esteem and Self Confidence. Be consistent in action despite fluctuating and intense feelings. Recognize that feelings are not the only reality.Be consistent in action despite fluctuating and intense feelings. Recognize that feelings are not the only reality. Emotional Volatility and Moodiness. Find a true friend.Emotional Volatility and Moodiness. Find a true friend. Ultimate Task: Reclaiming wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is here and now and accepting yourself as you are, without needing to be special and unique.Ultimate Task: Reclaiming wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is here and now and accepting yourself as you are, without needing to be special and unique. Trap: Trying to obtain the special, ultimate love or situation that will make you complete.

85 Personal Growth for 5 Personal Growth for 5 Need not master everything. Check out your intensity.Need not master everything. Check out your intensity. You are not small. Take care of your needs.You are not small. Take care of your needs. Come out of Preparation Mode.Come out of Preparation Mode. Experience feelings in the moment.Experience feelings in the moment. Stay connected rather than withdrawing.Stay connected rather than withdrawing. Allow more people into protective circle.Allow more people into protective circle. Reveal personal matters, express self.Reveal personal matters, express self. Engage in physical activity.Engage in physical activity. Ultimate Task: Reconnecting to the energy of life force and heart-felt feelings, realizing that ample energy and resources are available.Ultimate Task: Reconnecting to the energy of life force and heart-felt feelings, realizing that ample energy and resources are available. Trap: Obtaining self-sufficiency will free you from needing anything from others.

86 Personal Growth for 6 Accept insecurity as part of life.Accept insecurity as part of life. Develop inner faith in self, others, and the world.Develop inner faith in self, others, and the world. Recognize that both flight and fight are reactions to fear. Observe fear and calm it. Most out of touch with Thinking.Recognize that both flight and fight are reactions to fear. Observe fear and calm it. Most out of touch with Thinking. Check for Doubt, Suspicion. Over-committing. Get in touch with your inner guidance.Check for Doubt, Suspicion. Over-committing. Get in touch with your inner guidance. Move ahead in spite of fear.Move ahead in spite of fear. Tend to overreact and be defensive during stress. Blaming.Tend to overreact and be defensive during stress. Blaming. Ultimate task: Reclaiming trust in yourself, others, and the world, and living comfortably with uncertainty.Ultimate task: Reclaiming trust in yourself, others, and the world, and living comfortably with uncertainty. Trap: Seeking certainty for which there is never enough proof.

87 Personal Growth for 7 Personal Growth for 7 Realize it is limiting to seek only the positive.Realize it is limiting to seek only the positive. Make and fulfill commitments. Learn to prioritize. Quality and not quantity matters. Simplify, live in the present moment.Make and fulfill commitments. Learn to prioritize. Quality and not quantity matters. Simplify, live in the present moment. Learn to reference to others. Often interesting. You can learn new things.Learn to reference to others. Often interesting. You can learn new things. Learn to be patience. Everything need not be right now.Learn to be patience. Everything need not be right now. Allow pain and uncomfortable emotions. Be more sensitive.Allow pain and uncomfortable emotions. Be more sensitive. Ultimate Task: Recognizing the escapism in the pursuit of experience and idealized future plans. Reclaiming and accepting all of life in the present moment: pain, fear, and limits as well as pleasure, joy, and options.Ultimate Task: Recognizing the escapism in the pursuit of experience and idealized future plans. Reclaiming and accepting all of life in the present moment: pain, fear, and limits as well as pleasure, joy, and options. Trap: Keeping life up and idealized, believing suffering can be avoided.

88 Personal growth for 8 Reclaim innocence. Learn to yield to others. Allow personal vulnerability. Overuse of instincts.Reclaim innocence. Learn to yield to others. Allow personal vulnerability. Overuse of instincts. Intensity. Learn how much force is necessary. Lust.Intensity. Learn how much force is necessary. Lust. Communication Style. Moderate impact on others.Communication Style. Moderate impact on others. Appreciate others' truths. You need others too.Appreciate others' truths. You need others too. Control Excess. Bring balance.Control Excess. Bring balance. Be Aware when you are under Stress.Be Aware when you are under Stress. Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the ability to come freshly to each situation without prejudging and overpowering it and appreciating that truth exists in all others.Ultimate Task: Reclaiming the ability to come freshly to each situation without prejudging and overpowering it and appreciating that truth exists in all others. Trap: Gaining protection and prevailing through power and invulnerability.

89 Personal growth for 9 Make self important. Live life fully.Make self important. Live life fully. Tendency to go along with the Crowd to avoid Passive – Aggression. Double Resistance. Process Instincts.Tendency to go along with the Crowd to avoid Passive – Aggression. Double Resistance. Process Instincts. Look out for tendency to ignore problems.Look out for tendency to ignore problems. Establish your own identity.Establish your own identity. Set own boundaries, limits, priorities.Set own boundaries, limits, priorities. Love self as well as others.Love self as well as others. Accept discomfort and change as part of life.Accept discomfort and change as part of life. Come out of Inner Sanctum.Come out of Inner Sanctum. Ultimate Task: Reclaiming unconditional love for yourself and a sense of importance equal to that for all others.Ultimate Task: Reclaiming unconditional love for yourself and a sense of importance equal to that for all others. Trap: Seeking outside yourself for comfort and harmony.

90 1: The Reformer/ Perfectionist The Rational, Idealistic Type– Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic.The Rational, Idealistic Type– Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic. Dislike sloppiness and error, attracted to order and high standards for self and others.Dislike sloppiness and error, attracted to order and high standards for self and others. Serenity, Integrity, Ethical, moral.Serenity, Integrity, Ethical, moral. Doing the right thing. Good Boy, good girl.Doing the right thing. Good Boy, good girl. Tolerant of self & others. Express Feelings appropriately.Tolerant of self & others. Express Feelings appropriately. Fine organizational abilities. Look for ideals.Fine organizational abilities. Look for ideals. Respect performance of others. Correct Wrongs.Respect performance of others. Correct Wrongs. Fairness, Self-controlled.Fairness, Self-controlled. Teacher/ Educator. Correct and Responsible.Teacher/ Educator. Correct and Responsible. Able to see finer aspects.Able to see finer aspects. Have a sense of mission that leads them to improve the world in various ways, using whatever degree of influence they ‘ ve.

91 1: The Reformer/ Perfectionist Social Role : The Educator/ Teacher. A/Parenting. TASocial Role : The Educator/ Teacher. A/Parenting. TA Anger, Resentment, Frustration. PROCESS/ TELLAnger, Resentment, Frustration. PROCESS/ TELL Striving after Ideal. Unattainable Goals. SMART.Striving after Ideal. Unattainable Goals. SMART. Being Purposeful and Making progress.Being Purposeful and Making progress. Being Right and Pointing out Problems. Lonely Responsibility, Personal Obligation.Being Right and Pointing out Problems. Lonely Responsibility, Personal Obligation. Orderly, Consistency & Punctuality.Orderly, Consistency & Punctuality. Self Control & Self Restrain.Self Control & Self Restrain. Being Critical and Judgmental.Being Critical and Judgmental. The Inner Critic.The Inner Critic.

92 1: Healthy Ones Are : Honest in all their affairs. “Walk the Talk”.Honest in all their affairs. “Walk the Talk”. Motivated by Common & Larger goal.Motivated by Common & Larger goal. Maintain balance Self-Discipline. Work very hard but also know when to rest and take care of themselves.Maintain balance Self-Discipline. Work very hard but also know when to rest and take care of themselves. Deeply care about being a good person by wanting to do something about the problem around them.Deeply care about being a good person by wanting to do something about the problem around them. Highly functional Ones are a source of wisdom and discernment in an ambiguous world.Highly functional Ones are a source of wisdom and discernment in an ambiguous world.

93 2: The Helper/Giver The Caring, Interpersonal Type : Generous, Demonstrative, People-Pleasing and Possessive.The Caring, Interpersonal Type : Generous, Demonstrative, People-Pleasing and Possessive. Dislike solitude and impersonal dealings, attracted to service and making personal connections.Dislike solitude and impersonal dealings, attracted to service and making personal connections. Feel - really, really good things in life is – love, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship.Feel - really, really good things in life is – love, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship. People are drawn to them.People are drawn to them. Freedom, Humility, Altruistic.Freedom, Humility, Altruistic. Unselfish, ConsiderateUnselfish, Considerate Tend to form warm human relationships that can meet people's needsTend to form warm human relationships that can meet people's needs Genuinely caring and supportiveGenuinely caring and supportive Are either the most genuinely helpful to other people or, when they are less healthy, the most highly invested in seeing themselves as helpful.

94 2: The Helper/Giver Social Role : Special Friend.Social Role : Special Friend. Pride, Flattery, Self –Satisfaction.Pride, Flattery, Self –Satisfaction. Looking for terms of Endearment.Looking for terms of Endearment. Intimacy & Loss of Boundaries.Intimacy & Loss of Boundaries. Disguised Neediness.Disguised Neediness. Being a Rescuer and Collecting Needy Friends.Being a Rescuer and Collecting Needy Friends. Possessiveness and Control.Possessiveness and Control. Health and Suffering.Health and Suffering.

95 2 : Healthy Helper/Giver In so far as they can, Twos make good things happen for people – throwing themselves heart and soul.In so far as they can, Twos make good things happen for people – throwing themselves heart and soul. Twos are gifted with the extraordinary ability not simply to care about others but to actually do something meaningful for them.Twos are gifted with the extraordinary ability not simply to care about others but to actually do something meaningful for them. Healthy Twos exhibit a joyful, spontaneous quality. They laugh easily and deeply and do not take themselves too seriously, simply enjoying life’s bounty with people they care about. They posses a childlike enthusiasm for life and enjoy discovering new things about the world, others, and themselves.Healthy Twos exhibit a joyful, spontaneous quality. They laugh easily and deeply and do not take themselves too seriously, simply enjoying life’s bounty with people they care about. They posses a childlike enthusiasm for life and enjoy discovering new things about the world, others, and themselves. They also take care of their needs.They also take care of their needs. Healthy Twos also foster independence in others, nurturing self-confidence, strength, and new skills so that people can grow on their own.Healthy Twos also foster independence in others, nurturing self-confidence, strength, and new skills so that people can grow on their own.

96 3 : The Achiever/Performer The Success – Oriented, Pragmatic Type : Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious.The Success – Oriented, Pragmatic Type : Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious. Dislike ineffectiveness and lack of ambition, attracted to success and recognition.Dislike ineffectiveness and lack of ambition, attracted to success and recognition. “Star” of Human Nature. Develop themselves.“Star” of Human Nature. Develop themselves. Enjoy motivating others (E/L), Captains of winning Teams, Competent Promoters.Enjoy motivating others (E/L), Captains of winning Teams, Competent Promoters. Believe in Themselves.Believe in Themselves. Success, Noteworthy – emptiness + worthlessnessSuccess, Noteworthy – emptiness + worthlessness Hope, Veracity (honesty). A performance well done.Hope, Veracity (honesty). A performance well done. Accomplishments. Good package. Winning.Accomplishments. Good package. Winning. Deep attachment/ Family Hero, fulfill expectations.Deep attachment/ Family Hero, fulfill expectations. When they are Healthy, they really can and do achieve success in many areas of their lives.

97 3 : The Achiever/Performer Social Role : The Best.Social Role : The Best. Deceit, Vanity, Validation.Deceit, Vanity, Validation. Competition & Driving oneself.Competition & Driving oneself. Image & Self Presentation.Image & Self Presentation. Packaging self as Commodity.Packaging self as Commodity. Fear of intimacy.Fear of intimacy. Narcissism & Showing off.Narcissism & Showing off.

98 3 :Healthy Achiever/Performer Healthy Threes are blessed with genuine self-esteem as opposed to inflated narcissism.Healthy Threes are blessed with genuine self-esteem as opposed to inflated narcissism. Healthy Threes possess a balanced love of self, which also enables them to love others freely and without agenda.Healthy Threes possess a balanced love of self, which also enables them to love others freely and without agenda. Because of their genuine self-esteem, Threes understand the value of investing in themselves and their own development ; they are ambitious, confident, and persistent, take care of themselves physically, and make it their business to learn about themselves and how to mange their affairs better. They are always trying to find ways to enhance and improve their lives and teach others how to develop themselves.Because of their genuine self-esteem, Threes understand the value of investing in themselves and their own development ; they are ambitious, confident, and persistent, take care of themselves physically, and make it their business to learn about themselves and how to mange their affairs better. They are always trying to find ways to enhance and improve their lives and teach others how to develop themselves. Healthy Threes also use their talents and presentation skills to advance worthy causes.Healthy Threes also use their talents and presentation skills to advance worthy causes. Highly-functioning Threes are self-accepting and inner- directed- everything they seem to be - They model an honesty, simplicity, and authenticity that is extremely inspiring to others.Highly-functioning Threes are self-accepting and inner- directed- everything they seem to be - They model an honesty, simplicity, and authenticity that is extremely inspiring to others.

99 4 : The Individualist/Romantic The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type : Expressive, Dramatic, Self-absorbed, and Temperamental.The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type : Expressive, Dramatic, Self-absorbed, and Temperamental. Dislike uniformity and regulation, attracted to creativity and putting their personal mark on things.Dislike uniformity and regulation, attracted to creativity and putting their personal mark on things. Originality, Authenticity. Depth & intensity of feeling.Originality, Authenticity. Depth & intensity of feeling. A deep connection with the mystery and poetry of life.A deep connection with the mystery and poetry of life. Creative in their way of life.Creative in their way of life. Committed to beauty and the passionate life.Committed to beauty and the passionate life. Most in touch with inner feelings.Most in touch with inner feelings. Sensitive and compassionate.Sensitive and compassionate. Often Fashion oriented.Often Fashion oriented. Fours maintain their identity by seeing themselves as fundamentally different from others.

100 4 : The Individualist/Romantic 4 : The Individualist/Romantic Social Role : The Special One.Social Role : The Special One. Envy and Negative Comparisons.Envy and Negative Comparisons. Reinforcing Moods through Aesthetics & Sensuality.Reinforcing Moods through Aesthetics & Sensuality. Withdrawals into Fantasy Self.Withdrawals into Fantasy Self. Hypersensitivity.Hypersensitivity. Self Absorption & Narcissism.Self Absorption & Narcissism. Investment in having Problems and being Temperamental.Investment in having Problems and being Temperamental.

101 4 : Healthy Individualist/Romantic Deep-sea divers of the psyche.Deep-sea divers of the psyche. Because of their attunement to their inner states – to their subconscious feelings and impulses – they are highly INTUITIVE. Often surprised at their own insights.Because of their attunement to their inner states – to their subconscious feelings and impulses – they are highly INTUITIVE. Often surprised at their own insights. When Healthy they do not take themselves too seriously.When Healthy they do not take themselves too seriously. Very Creative. Creative in exploration of their history and feelings world, family, love and how past incidents have affected them. Playwrights, poets, and novelists are Fours.Very Creative. Creative in exploration of their history and feelings world, family, love and how past incidents have affected them. Playwrights, poets, and novelists are Fours. Healthy 4 realize that they are not different from anyone else.Healthy 4 realize that they are not different from anyone else.

102 5 : The Investigator/Observer The Intense, Cerebral Type : Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated.The Intense, Cerebral Type : Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated. Dislike intrusions on their time and space, attracted to depth and learning.Dislike intrusions on their time and space, attracted to depth and learning. Omniscience, Detachment, Seeks KnowledgeOmniscience, Detachment, Seeks Knowledge To truly understand how and whyTo truly understand how and why To see the big picture and theory of how it operatesTo see the big picture and theory of how it operates Excellent decision makersExcellent decision makers Ivory-tower intellectuals – the brains behind the sceneIvory-tower intellectuals – the brains behind the scene Often calm when others are notOften calm when others are not Fives want to find out why the things are the way they are.

103 5 : The Investigator/Observer Social Role : The Expert.Social Role : The Expert. Avarice & Feeling Small.Avarice & Feeling Small. Inability to bring closure : Preparation Mode.Inability to bring closure : Preparation Mode. Detachment & Withdrawal.Detachment & Withdrawal. Minimizing Needs : Becoming a disembodied Mind.Minimizing Needs : Becoming a disembodied Mind. Getting lost in Speculation and Alternative Realities.Getting lost in Speculation and Alternative Realities. Unconscious Anxieties & Terrifying Thoughts.Unconscious Anxieties & Terrifying Thoughts. Argumentative, Nihilism, Extremism.Argumentative, Nihilism, Extremism.

104 5 : The Healthy Insight & Understanding with Experience.Insight & Understanding with Experience. Extraordinarily observant and perceptive.Extraordinarily observant and perceptive. Keep up childhood curiosity, ask questions. Open mindedness.Keep up childhood curiosity, ask questions. Open mindedness. Enjoy sharing the findings with others.Enjoy sharing the findings with others. They set people into thinking.They set people into thinking.

105 6 : The Loyalist The Committed, Security-Oriented Type : Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious.The Committed, Security-Oriented Type : Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious. Dislike unpredictability and rapid change, attracted to clear structures and foresight.Dislike unpredictability and rapid change, attracted to clear structures and foresight. Loyal to ideas, systems. Committed.Loyal to ideas, systems. Committed. Loyalty, Duty, Self – Sacrifice.Loyalty, Duty, Self – Sacrifice. Like an atmosphere free of hidden agendasLike an atmosphere free of hidden agendas Want to feel Safe and Secure.Want to feel Safe and Secure. Low Self Confidence in their minds & judgments.Low Self Confidence in their minds & judgments. Believes to lack internal resources to meet challenges.Believes to lack internal resources to meet challenges. Social Security, back up. Ping Pong Ball – influence.Social Security, back up. Ping Pong Ball – influence. Opposites.Opposites. They are the most loyal to their friends and to their beliefs.

106 6 : The Loyalist Social Role : The Stalwart.Social Role : The Stalwart. Fear, Anxiety and Doubt.Fear, Anxiety and Doubt. Seeking support for Independence.Seeking support for Independence. Looking for Answers.Looking for Answers. Seeking structures & Guidelines.Seeking structures & Guidelines. Over Committed and Covering all Bases.Over Committed and Covering all Bases. The Inner Committee.The Inner Committee. Vigilance, Suspicion, Catastrophizing.Vigilance, Suspicion, Catastrophizing. Blaming & Victimization.Blaming & Victimization.

107 6 : Healthy Loyalist Are endowed with tremendous endurance and achieve their objectives through steady and persistent efforts.Are endowed with tremendous endurance and achieve their objectives through steady and persistent efforts. “Success is 10 percent inspiration and 90 percent perspiration”. “Success is 10 percent inspiration and 90 percent perspiration”. They give careful attention to details and tend to approach problems carefully and methodically.They give careful attention to details and tend to approach problems carefully and methodically. Because of their underlying vigilance and sensitivity to danger signals, Sixes foresee problems and can “head them off at the pass”.Because of their underlying vigilance and sensitivity to danger signals, Sixes foresee problems and can “head them off at the pass”. Sixes are outstanding in their ability to work for a common good without needing to be stars.Sixes are outstanding in their ability to work for a common good without needing to be stars. Sixes ask what needs to be done and then do it, with a sense of being part of something that transcends their personal interests.Sixes ask what needs to be done and then do it, with a sense of being part of something that transcends their personal interests. Deeply loyal and committed to others, they are also committed to learning more about themselves.Deeply loyal and committed to others, they are also committed to learning more about themselves. Self-affirming because they have learned to recognize and trust their own inner guidance.Self-affirming because they have learned to recognize and trust their own inner guidance.

108 7 : The Enthusiast 7 : The Enthusiast The Busy, Fun-Loving Type : Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, & ScatteredThe Busy, Fun-Loving Type : Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, & Scattered Dislike limitations and routines, attracted to new possibilities and excitement.Dislike limitations and routines, attracted to new possibilities and excitement. Life with Curiosity, Optimism, and a sense of adventure, Happy.Life with Curiosity, Optimism, and a sense of adventure, Happy. Work - extremely practical and engaged in a multitude of projects at any given time.Work - extremely practical and engaged in a multitude of projects at any given time. Can be intelligent and verbal.. Sobriety, Diversity, SynthesizersCan be intelligent and verbal.. Sobriety, Diversity, Synthesizers Move mind fast – Brainstorming, F/L. Interesting plans & activitiesMove mind fast – Brainstorming, F/L. Interesting plans & activities Fun and games. Theoreticians. Renaissance typesFun and games. Theoreticians. Renaissance types Enthusiasm and pleasure infectiousEnthusiasm and pleasure infectious Charming, Generally Attractive. Witty ( quickness of mind )Charming, Generally Attractive. Witty ( quickness of mind ) Don’t take themselves seriously. Exuberant, upbeat.Don’t take themselves seriously. Exuberant, upbeat. Sevens are enthusiastic about almost everything that catches their attention.

109 7 : The Enthusiast 7 : The Enthusiast Social Role : The Energizer.Social Role : The Energizer. Gluttony & Never being Satisfied.Gluttony & Never being Satisfied. Seeking Stimulation & Acquiring New Experiences.Seeking Stimulation & Acquiring New Experiences. Boredom & Keeping Options Open.Boredom & Keeping Options Open. Avoiding Anxiety & Painful Feelings.Avoiding Anxiety & Painful Feelings. Frustration, Impatience & Self - Centeredness.Frustration, Impatience & Self - Centeredness. Insensitivity & Impulsiveness.Insensitivity & Impulsiveness. Escapism, Excessive, and Addition.Escapism, Excessive, and Addition.

110 7 : Healthy Enthusiast 7 : Healthy Enthusiast When they are more balanced and grounded, they can be brilliant, multifaceted people, synthesizing and cross-fertilizing their many diverse areas of experience.When they are more balanced and grounded, they can be brilliant, multifaceted people, synthesizing and cross-fertilizing their many diverse areas of experience. Their varied abilities and interests, enjoyment of work, and extroverted qualities often lead them to success in the world.Their varied abilities and interests, enjoyment of work, and extroverted qualities often lead them to success in the world. Versatile people.Versatile people. Similarly, Sevens have a talent for generating ideas quickly and spontaneously. They are big-picture people who like getting projects started and are good at brainstorming fresh approaches to problems..Similarly, Sevens have a talent for generating ideas quickly and spontaneously. They are big-picture people who like getting projects started and are good at brainstorming fresh approaches to problems.. Greatest gift is the ability to maintain a positive outlook and sense of abundance.Greatest gift is the ability to maintain a positive outlook and sense of abundance. Sevens are able to generate an infectious enthusiasm for whatever situation is at hand.Sevens are able to generate an infectious enthusiasm for whatever situation is at hand.

111 8 : The Challenger/Leader The Powerful, Dominating Type : Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational.The Powerful, Dominating Type : Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational. Dislike indecisiveness and indirectness, attracted to strength and strategic action. Charismatic. Providers.Dislike indecisiveness and indirectness, attracted to strength and strategic action. Charismatic. Providers. Physical & Psychological capacities to persuade people, Excellent Leaders. Powerful supporters.Physical & Psychological capacities to persuade people, Excellent Leaders. Powerful supporters. Willpower, Vitality. Abundant Energy.Willpower, Vitality. Abundant Energy. Getting things done. Making things happen.Getting things done. Making things happen. Able to attack tough people and problems.Able to attack tough people and problems. Working hard, playing hard, everything hard.Working hard, playing hard, everything hard. Protective of family and friends.Protective of family and friends. Confident. Follow-through, Industrious – ground floorConfident. Follow-through, Industrious – ground floor Eights enjoy taking on challenges themselves as well as giving others opportunities that challenge them to exceed themselves in some way.

112 8 : The Challenger/Leader Social Role : The Rock.Social Role : The Rock. Lust & Intensity.Lust & Intensity. The Price of running Things.The Price of running Things. Self importance & being Larger than Life.Self importance & being Larger than Life. Self Assertive Vs Aggression.Self Assertive Vs Aggression. Control and Relationships.Control and Relationships. Defiance & Rebellion.Defiance & Rebellion.

113 8 : Healthy Challenger When Eights are emotionally healthy, however, they have a resourceful, can-do attitude as well as a steady inner drive. They take the initiative and make things happen with a great passion for life.When Eights are emotionally healthy, however, they have a resourceful, can-do attitude as well as a steady inner drive. They take the initiative and make things happen with a great passion for life. Eights are people of action and practical intuition. See possibilities in people and situations.Eights are people of action and practical intuition. See possibilities in people and situations. They have vision and derive great satisfaction from being constructiveThey have vision and derive great satisfaction from being constructive Enjoy building things from the ground floor.Enjoy building things from the ground floor. Teach Fishing, Keep their word,Teach Fishing, Keep their word, Control, in a healthy Eight, takes the form of self- masteryControl, in a healthy Eight, takes the form of self- mastery Finally, Healthy Eights are magnanimous or big- hearted, possessing a generosity that allows them to transcend their self-interest.Finally, Healthy Eights are magnanimous or big- hearted, possessing a generosity that allows them to transcend their self-interest.

114 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type : Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent.The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type : Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent. Dislike tension and conflict, attracted to harmony and stability.Dislike tension and conflict, attracted to harmony and stability. Crown of the Enneagram.Crown of the Enneagram. When grounded – Like River.When grounded – Like River. Love (charity), Balance. Peace and harmonyLove (charity), Balance. Peace and harmony Moderation and good feelings between peopleModeration and good feelings between people Peace makersPeace makers CounselorsCounselors NegotiatorsNegotiators Stays on trackStays on track More devoted to the quest for internal and external peace for themselves and others.

115 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator Social Role : “Nobody Special”Social Role : “Nobody Special” Sloth & Self Forgetting.Sloth & Self Forgetting. Unself – Conscious & Numbing Out.Unself – Conscious & Numbing Out. Moving into Inner Sanctum.Moving into Inner Sanctum. Idealizing others in Relationships.Idealizing others in Relationships. Living by Formulae or a Philosophy of Life.Living by Formulae or a Philosophy of Life. Stubbornness and Inner Resistance.Stubbornness and Inner Resistance. Suppressed Anger & Rage.Suppressed Anger & Rage.

116 9 : Healthy Peacemaker 9 : Healthy Peacemaker The Greatest source of Strength is their Profound patience.The Greatest source of Strength is their Profound patience. Quality of “letting be” allows others to develop in their own way.Quality of “letting be” allows others to develop in their own way. Patience is supported by quiet strength and tremendous endurance.Patience is supported by quiet strength and tremendous endurance. Highly effective in handling crises because they have extraordinary inner stability.Highly effective in handling crises because they have extraordinary inner stability. When others are overreacting with anxiety, Nines become still, calm center that moves ahead and gets things done.When others are overreacting with anxiety, Nines become still, calm center that moves ahead and gets things done. Extraordinarily inclusive of others ( We can all get along ).Extraordinarily inclusive of others ( We can all get along ). Their simplicity, innocence, directness, and guilelessness put people at ease and make others trust them.Their simplicity, innocence, directness, and guilelessness put people at ease and make others trust them. Value differences of opinion, conflicts, tensions permitted and even valued.Value differences of opinion, conflicts, tensions permitted and even valued. Can be highly creativeCan be highly creative Nines typically like to express themselves non-verbally – music, art, painting, or dance.Nines typically like to express themselves non-verbally – music, art, painting, or dance.

117 1: The Reformer/ Perfectionist The Rational, Idealistic Type– Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic.The Rational, Idealistic Type– Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic. Dislike sloppiness and error, attracted to order and high standards for self and others.Dislike sloppiness and error, attracted to order and high standards for self and others. Serenity, Integrity, Ethical, moral.Serenity, Integrity, Ethical, moral. Doing the right thing. Good Boy, good girl.Doing the right thing. Good Boy, good girl. Tolerant of self & others. Express Feelings appropriately.Tolerant of self & others. Express Feelings appropriately. Fine organizational abilities. Look for ideals.Fine organizational abilities. Look for ideals. Respect performance of others. Correct Wrongs.Respect performance of others. Correct Wrongs. Fairness, Self-controlled.Fairness, Self-controlled. Teacher/ Educator. Correct and Responsible.Teacher/ Educator. Correct and Responsible. Able to see finer aspects.Able to see finer aspects. Have a sense of mission that leads them to improve the world in various ways, using whatever degree of influence they ‘ ve.

118 1: The Reformer/ Perfectionist Social Role : The Educator/ Teacher. A/Parenting. TASocial Role : The Educator/ Teacher. A/Parenting. TA Anger, Resentment, Frustration. PROCESS/ TELLAnger, Resentment, Frustration. PROCESS/ TELL Striving after Ideal. Unattainable Goals. SMART.Striving after Ideal. Unattainable Goals. SMART. Being Purposeful and Making progress.Being Purposeful and Making progress. Being Right and Pointing out Problems. Lonely Responsibility, Personal Obligation.Being Right and Pointing out Problems. Lonely Responsibility, Personal Obligation. Orderly, Consistency & Punctuality.Orderly, Consistency & Punctuality. Self Control & Self Restrain.Self Control & Self Restrain. Being Critical and Judgmental.Being Critical and Judgmental. The Inner Critic.The Inner Critic.

119 2: The Helper/Giver The Caring, Interpersonal Type : Generous, Demonstrative, People-Pleasing and Possessive.The Caring, Interpersonal Type : Generous, Demonstrative, People-Pleasing and Possessive. Dislike solitude and impersonal dealings, attracted to service and making personal connections.Dislike solitude and impersonal dealings, attracted to service and making personal connections. Feel - really, really good things in life is – love, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship.Feel - really, really good things in life is – love, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship. People are drawn to them.People are drawn to them. Freedom, Humility, Altruistic.Freedom, Humility, Altruistic. Unselfish, ConsiderateUnselfish, Considerate Tend to form warm human relationships that can meet people's needsTend to form warm human relationships that can meet people's needs Genuinely caring and supportiveGenuinely caring and supportive Are either the most genuinely helpful to other people or, when they are less healthy, the most highly invested in seeing themselves as helpful.

120 2: The Helper/Giver Social Role : Special Friend.Social Role : Special Friend. Pride, Flattery, Self –Satisfaction.Pride, Flattery, Self –Satisfaction. Looking for terms of Endearment.Looking for terms of Endearment. Intimacy & Loss of Boundaries.Intimacy & Loss of Boundaries. Disguised Neediness.Disguised Neediness. Being a Rescuer and Collecting Needy Friends.Being a Rescuer and Collecting Needy Friends. Possessiveness and Control.Possessiveness and Control. Health and Suffering.Health and Suffering.

121 3 : The Achiever/Performer The Success – Oriented, Pragmatic Type : Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious.The Success – Oriented, Pragmatic Type : Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious. Dislike ineffectiveness and lack of ambition, attracted to success and recognition.Dislike ineffectiveness and lack of ambition, attracted to success and recognition. “Star” of Human Nature. Develop themselves.“Star” of Human Nature. Develop themselves. Enjoy motivating others (E/L), Captains of winning Teams, Competent Promoters.Enjoy motivating others (E/L), Captains of winning Teams, Competent Promoters. Believe in Themselves.Believe in Themselves. Success, Noteworthy – emptiness + worthlessnessSuccess, Noteworthy – emptiness + worthlessness Hope, Veracity (honesty). A performance well done.Hope, Veracity (honesty). A performance well done. Accomplishments. Good package. Winning.Accomplishments. Good package. Winning. Deep attachment/ Family Hero, fulfill expectations.Deep attachment/ Family Hero, fulfill expectations. When they are Healthy, they really can and do achieve success in many areas of their lives.

122 3 : The Achiever/Performer Social Role : The Best.Social Role : The Best. Deceit, Vanity, Validation.Deceit, Vanity, Validation. Competition & Driving oneself.Competition & Driving oneself. Image & Self Presentation.Image & Self Presentation. Packaging self as Commodity.Packaging self as Commodity. Fear of intimacy.Fear of intimacy. Narcissism & Showing off.Narcissism & Showing off.

123 4 : The Individualist/Romantic The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type : Expressive, Dramatic, Self-absorbed, and Temperamental.The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type : Expressive, Dramatic, Self-absorbed, and Temperamental. Dislike uniformity and regulation, attracted to creativity and putting their personal mark on things.Dislike uniformity and regulation, attracted to creativity and putting their personal mark on things. Originality, Authenticity. Depth & intensity of feeling.Originality, Authenticity. Depth & intensity of feeling. A deep connection with the mystery and poetry of life.A deep connection with the mystery and poetry of life. Creative in their way of life.Creative in their way of life. Committed to beauty and the passionate life.Committed to beauty and the passionate life. Most in touch with inner feelings.Most in touch with inner feelings. Sensitive and compassionate.Sensitive and compassionate. Often Fashion oriented.Often Fashion oriented. Fours maintain their identity by seeing themselves as fundamentally different from others.

124 4 : The Individualist/Romantic 4 : The Individualist/Romantic Social Role : The Special One.Social Role : The Special One. Envy and Negative Comparisons.Envy and Negative Comparisons. Reinforcing Moods through Aesthetics & Sensuality.Reinforcing Moods through Aesthetics & Sensuality. Withdrawals into Fantasy Self.Withdrawals into Fantasy Self. Hypersensitivity.Hypersensitivity. Self Absorption & Narcissism.Self Absorption & Narcissism. Investment in having Problems and being Temperamental.Investment in having Problems and being Temperamental.

125 5 : The Investigator/Observer The Intense, Cerebral Type : Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated.The Intense, Cerebral Type : Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated. Dislike intrusions on their time and space, attracted to depth and learning.Dislike intrusions on their time and space, attracted to depth and learning. Omniscience, Detachment, Seeks KnowledgeOmniscience, Detachment, Seeks Knowledge To truly understand how and whyTo truly understand how and why To see the big picture and theory of how it operatesTo see the big picture and theory of how it operates Excellent decision makersExcellent decision makers Ivory-tower intellectuals – the brains behind the sceneIvory-tower intellectuals – the brains behind the scene Often calm when others are notOften calm when others are not Fives want to find out why the things are the way they are.

126 5 : The Investigator/Observer Social Role : The Expert.Social Role : The Expert. Avarice & Feeling Small.Avarice & Feeling Small. Inability to bring closure : Preparation Mode.Inability to bring closure : Preparation Mode. Detachment & Withdrawal.Detachment & Withdrawal. Minimizing Needs : Becoming a disembodied Mind.Minimizing Needs : Becoming a disembodied Mind. Getting lost in Speculation and Alternative Realities.Getting lost in Speculation and Alternative Realities. Unconscious Anxieties & Terrifying Thoughts.Unconscious Anxieties & Terrifying Thoughts. Argumentative, Nihilism, Extremism.Argumentative, Nihilism, Extremism.

127 5 : The Healthy Insight & Understanding with Experience.Insight & Understanding with Experience. Extraordinarily observant and perceptive.Extraordinarily observant and perceptive. Keep up childhood curiosity, ask questions. Open mindedness.Keep up childhood curiosity, ask questions. Open mindedness. Enjoy sharing the findings with others.Enjoy sharing the findings with others. They set people into thinking.They set people into thinking.

128 6 : The Loyalist The Committed, Security-Oriented Type : Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious.The Committed, Security-Oriented Type : Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious. Dislike unpredictability and rapid change, attracted to clear structures and foresight.Dislike unpredictability and rapid change, attracted to clear structures and foresight. Loyal to ideas, systems. Committed.Loyal to ideas, systems. Committed. Loyalty, Duty, Self – Sacrifice.Loyalty, Duty, Self – Sacrifice. Like an atmosphere free of hidden agendasLike an atmosphere free of hidden agendas Want to feel Safe and Secure.Want to feel Safe and Secure. Low Self Confidence in their minds & judgments.Low Self Confidence in their minds & judgments. Believes to lack internal resources to meet challenges.Believes to lack internal resources to meet challenges. Social Security, back up. Ping Pong Ball – influence.Social Security, back up. Ping Pong Ball – influence. Opposites.Opposites. They are the most loyal to their friends and to their beliefs.

129 6 : The Loyalist Social Role : The Stalwart.Social Role : The Stalwart. Fear, Anxiety and Doubt.Fear, Anxiety and Doubt. Seeking support for Independence.Seeking support for Independence. Looking for Answers.Looking for Answers. Seeking structures & Guidelines.Seeking structures & Guidelines. Over Committed and Covering all Bases.Over Committed and Covering all Bases. The Inner Committee.The Inner Committee. Vigilance, Suspicion, Catastrophizing.Vigilance, Suspicion, Catastrophizing. Blaming & Victimization.Blaming & Victimization.

130 7 : The Enthusiast 7 : The Enthusiast The Busy, Fun-Loving Type : Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, & ScatteredThe Busy, Fun-Loving Type : Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, & Scattered Dislike limitations and routines, attracted to new possibilities and excitement.Dislike limitations and routines, attracted to new possibilities and excitement. Life with Curiosity, Optimism, and a sense of adventure, Happy.Life with Curiosity, Optimism, and a sense of adventure, Happy. Work - extremely practical and engaged in a multitude of projects at any given time.Work - extremely practical and engaged in a multitude of projects at any given time. Can be intelligent and verbal.. Sobriety, Diversity, SynthesizersCan be intelligent and verbal.. Sobriety, Diversity, Synthesizers Move mind fast – Brainstorming, F/L. Interesting plans & activitiesMove mind fast – Brainstorming, F/L. Interesting plans & activities Fun and games. Theoreticians. Renaissance typesFun and games. Theoreticians. Renaissance types Enthusiasm and pleasure infectiousEnthusiasm and pleasure infectious Charming, Generally Attractive. Witty ( quickness of mind )Charming, Generally Attractive. Witty ( quickness of mind ) Don’t take themselves seriously. Exuberant, upbeat.Don’t take themselves seriously. Exuberant, upbeat. Sevens are enthusiastic about almost everything that catches their attention.

131 7 : The Enthusiast 7 : The Enthusiast Social Role : The Energizer.Social Role : The Energizer. Gluttony & Never being Satisfied.Gluttony & Never being Satisfied. Seeking Stimulation & Acquiring New Experiences.Seeking Stimulation & Acquiring New Experiences. Boredom & Keeping Options Open.Boredom & Keeping Options Open. Avoiding Anxiety & Painful Feelings.Avoiding Anxiety & Painful Feelings. Frustration, Impatience & Self - Centeredness.Frustration, Impatience & Self - Centeredness. Insensitivity & Impulsiveness.Insensitivity & Impulsiveness. Escapism, Excessive, and Addition.Escapism, Excessive, and Addition.

132 8 : The Challenger/Leader The Powerful, Dominating Type : Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational.The Powerful, Dominating Type : Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational. Dislike indecisiveness and indirectness, attracted to strength and strategic action. Charismatic. Providers.Dislike indecisiveness and indirectness, attracted to strength and strategic action. Charismatic. Providers. Physical & Psychological capacities to persuade people, Excellent Leaders. Powerful supporters.Physical & Psychological capacities to persuade people, Excellent Leaders. Powerful supporters. Willpower, Vitality. Abundant Energy.Willpower, Vitality. Abundant Energy. Getting things done. Making things happen.Getting things done. Making things happen. Able to attack tough people and problems.Able to attack tough people and problems. Working hard, playing hard, everything hard.Working hard, playing hard, everything hard. Protective of family and friends.Protective of family and friends. Confident. Follow-through, Industrious – ground floorConfident. Follow-through, Industrious – ground floor Eights enjoy taking on challenges themselves as well as giving others opportunities that challenge them to exceed themselves in some way.

133 8 : The Challenger/Leader Social Role : The Rock.Social Role : The Rock. Lust & Intensity.Lust & Intensity. The Price of running Things.The Price of running Things. Self importance & being Larger than Life.Self importance & being Larger than Life. Self Assertive Vs Aggression.Self Assertive Vs Aggression. Control and Relationships.Control and Relationships. Defiance & Rebellion.Defiance & Rebellion.

134 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type : Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent.The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type : Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent. Dislike tension and conflict, attracted to harmony and stability.Dislike tension and conflict, attracted to harmony and stability. Crown of the Enneagram.Crown of the Enneagram. When grounded – Like River.When grounded – Like River. Love (charity), Balance. Peace and harmonyLove (charity), Balance. Peace and harmony Moderation and good feelings between peopleModeration and good feelings between people Peace makersPeace makers CounselorsCounselors NegotiatorsNegotiators Stays on trackStays on track More devoted to the quest for internal and external peace for themselves and others.

135 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator 9 : The Peacemaker/Mediator Social Role : “Nobody Special”Social Role : “Nobody Special” Sloth & Self Forgetting.Sloth & Self Forgetting. Unself – Conscious & Numbing Out.Unself – Conscious & Numbing Out. Moving into Inner Sanctum.Moving into Inner Sanctum. Idealizing others in Relationships.Idealizing others in Relationships. Living by Formulae or a Philosophy of Life.Living by Formulae or a Philosophy of Life. Stubbornness and Inner Resistance.Stubbornness and Inner Resistance. Suppressed Anger & Rage.Suppressed Anger & Rage.


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