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1Academic Survival Employing Interdependence Presentation based on: Downing, Skip. On Course: Strategies for Creating Success in College and Life, 3rd Ed.
2Interdependence Successful Students Struggling Students Develop mutually supportive relationships, recognizing that life is richer when giving to and receiving from others.Struggling StudentsRemain dependent, co-dependent, or independent in relation to others.
3Interdependence Successful Students Create a support network, using an interactive team approach to success.Struggling StudentsWork alone, seldom cooperating with others for the common good of all.
4Interdependence Successful Students Struggling Students Strengthen relationships with active listening, showing their concern for the other person’s thoughts and feelings.Struggling StudentsListen poorly,demonstrating little desireto understand anotherperson’s perspective.
5InterdependenceIn our relationships with other people, there are four common types of people:Dependent people believe that most of the work in accomplishing their goals will have to be done by others. A dependent person takes too much from others.Co-dependent people believe that they can pursue their goals as soon as they have helped others achieve their goals. A co-dependent person gives too much.
6Interdependence Independent people – believe that they can get what they want all by themselves without the help of anyone. Anindependent person seldom gives or receives.Interdependent people – believe that they can accomplishwhat they want mostly by themselves, but will be able toaccomplish MORE and have more fun if they give andreceive help. The interdependent person finds a balancebetween giving and receiving.
7InterdependenceSuccessful students create a supportive team and maximizecollege success by:Seeking assistance from instructorsCreating study partnerships, project teamsSeeking assistance from librarian and other academicassistance personnelSeeking assistance from advisors, counselorsUsing the assistance of community resourcesEngaging the help of family members
8InterdependenceThe most important characteristic in a healthy mutuallysupportive relationship is the ability to be an active listener.How to listen actively:Listen to understand. (empathy)Clear your mind and remain silent. (silence)Ask the person to expand or clarify. (expansion / clarification)Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings. (reflection)
9Believing in Yourself: Be Assertive Two obstacles to building effective relationships are placatingand blaming.Placating – when an individual acts as a victim by placingthemselves below others so as to avoid the criticism or judgment of others.Blaming – when an individual acts as a victim by blaming allfailures, trials, or problems on others.
10Creator Communication Effective communication occurs through leveling – the ability toact as a creator by using simple, yet profound communicationthat asserts the truth as you see it.Communicate purposefully – express a clear purpose for your communication even in times of upset.Communicate honestly – express unpopular thoughts andupset feelings in the service of building healthy relationships.
11Creator Communication Communicate responsibly – express thoughts usingan I-message. These message contain four elements:A statement of the situation (When you…)A statement of your reaction (I felt / thought / decided…)A request (I’d like to ask that you…)An invitation to respond (Will you agree to that?)
12Making RequestsMaking effective requests is a vital skill for successful students to develop. Always approach requests from a creator’s voice rather than a victim’s voice.Requests are most effective when the DAPPS principle is applied: dated, achievable, personal, positive, and specific.Victim CreatorI’m going to be absent next John, I’m going to beFriday. It sure would be nice absent next Friday.if someone would let me Would you be willing toknow if I miss anything call me Friday nightand tell me what I missed.
13Saying NO! NO is not a rude word. Use it when you simply cannot commit to the request of others. NO requires no further explanation, itis a complete sentence all by itself.