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Helping Children Cope: Strengthening Social Emotional Competence Lise Fox Technical Assistance Center on Social Emotional Intervention Florida Center for Inclusive Communities
Why Social Emotional Competence Skills for Coping Strategies for Families, Strategies for Children Agenda
How does this make you feel?
How about the children?
What makes life easier?
What about the Children?
First, Then Choices Visuals Clear Expectations Getting Your Child to Cooperate
Everyone has an invisible bucket. We are at our best when our buckets are overflowing –and at our worst when they are empty. Whenever we choose to fill others’ buckets, we in turn fill our own. Everyone also has an invisible dipper. In each interaction, we can use our dipper either to fill or to dip from others’ buckets. How Full is Your Bucket
Magic Ratio 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative* *but ratios greater than 13 to 1 are harmful
Fill a Bucket: A Guide to Daily Happiness for the Young Child by Kathy Martin
Emotional Expression Problem Solving Coping Strategies Pain Disappointment Loss Self-advocacy Skills of Resilience Every Child Needs
Talk about your feelings. Say to your child, “Tell me how that makes you feel.” Teach new emotion words (e.g., frustrated, confused, anxious, excited, worried, disappointed). Talk about how characters in a book, video or on a TV show may feel. Reflect on specific situations and discuss feelings. Accept and support your child’s expression of feelings. Use books and art activities to talk about emotions. Talk aloud about your own feeling in a variety of situations. Describe how your child’s face looks or pictures of people in magazines and books. Pretend play with toy figurines, stuffed animals, or puppets and have them use “feeling words.” Building Your Child’s Ability to Express Emotions
Turtle Technique Model remaining calm Teach how to control feelings and calm down Step 1: recognize your feelings Step 2: Think “stop” Step 3: go inside your shell and take three deep breaths Step 4: come out when calm and think of a good solution Practice steps frequently Prepare for and help child handle possible disappointment and/or change Recognize and comment when the child stays calm
Turtle Technique Recognize that you feel angry. “Think”Stop. Go into shell. Take 3 deep breaths. And think calm, coping thoughts. Come out of shell when calm and thinking of a solution.
Would it be safe? Would it be fair? How would everyone feel? Problem Solving Steps 21 Step 2
Help the Child Think of a Possible Solution: Get a grown-up Ask nicely Ignore Play Say, “Please stop.” Say, “Please.” Share Trade toys/item Wait and take turns 22
Self Advocacy Ask for information Prepare questions Structure opportunities Debrief with your child Be a Part of the Discussion Acknowledge child’s presence Use child’s name Invite into conversation when appropriate
Understand Options and Make Meaningful Choices Identify options Make the pro and con list Challenge Injustice Self-Advocacy
Supporting the GLADD Give Information Prepare your child to provide information and answer questions Listen Help your child develop system to remember and record information Ask Support your child in asking the questions Decide Create the opportunity for your child to have an active role Do Create a “Do” plan Design checklists or help your child create a list
Articles for families and visuals http://csefel.vanderbilt.edu/resources/family.html Making life easier series for parents of young children www.challengingbehavior.org/communities/families.html GLADD videos and supports for youth http://hctransitions.ichp.ufl.edu/gladd/ Visuals for feelings, emotional regulation, problem solving http://depts.washington.edu/hscenter/teacher-tools#visual Web Sites