Establish parent – coach partnership early Perception Disagreement Solve situations amiably to maintain positive relationship ENSURE A POSITIVE SPORTING EXPERIENCE for the child. Be a positive role model. Your actions teach children how to behave during future encounters.
Get your partnership with your child’s coach off to a good start. Here’s how:
What are our goals? To develop better players and have fun or to make it to the championships? Our goals…JV (or pee wee) goals are to teach and develop skills; Varsity level athletes apply and hone their skills. Plan to attend your child’s initial practice and meeting.
Coaches are volunteers. Patience and understanding will go a long way.
The more emotion we can keep out of any situation, the better! There will come a time when your child comes off the field upset, or you feel the coach made a bad judgment. Even if your beef is legitimate, it’s best to allow time for cooler heads to prevail, rather than head to the field with guns blazing.
The worst thing you can do is discuss a coach’s failings on the sidelines with other parents or at home in front of your children. If you’ve got a problem, start with coach. If that doesn’t work, take it up the chain of command (coach- athletic director-principal-pastor). But don’t forget that miscommunication may be part of the problem. Give the coach the benefit of the doubt, and ask what your child can do to change the situation for the better.
Ultimately, every parent is responsible for the health and safety of his/her child. If you’ve got a terrible coach that is swearing at the children or shoving a kid up against the wall to make a point, don’t hesitate to act. But if you can remain calm and professional, you’ll show your children the right way to handle any situation they may encounter, now and in the future.
If your child is properly equipped, her coach can concentrate on more important matters like safety, teamwork, and skill-building.
Nothing stresses a coach out more than having too many helpers on the field. Realize that he knows how to best support your child’s performance. Let him do his job.
Touch base with your child and the coach about expectations. If you disagree with anything, speak with the coach privately—out of earshot of the kids.
The coach does a lot of work, on and off the field. Ask what you can do to lighten his load (without taking over).
Accidents happen. Make sure that you’re prepared for them by having first aid supplies at home and in your car.
The coach can only transform your child so much. Be aware of your child’s eating habits and encourage good health. Exercise with her, whether it’s a job around the block or a lap in the pool.
If he acts unfairly to his teammates during the game or doesn’t give the coach his full attention, talk to him later about good sportsmanship and respect.
Maintain a sense of humor, even in the face of defeat. Keep the mood light. “I’m convinced a kid will play all day if it’s fun. When it stops being fun and it’s about a parent’s own dreams, forget it,” says Tom Shaw, a three- time Super Bowl winning conditioning coach.