1. Child Care Quiz 25 points total!!!  You may use any HAND-WRITTEN NOTES you have—none on your phone!!!  You have only 15 minutes—spend that time wisely!!!

2. Positive Discipline & Guidance The keys to well-behaved children.

3. MOM SONG Click to listen to the song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXgoJ0f5EsQ

4. Tough Love vs. Spanking  Most of America’s population thinks it is improper to spank children. I recently heard from a friend who has tried other methods to control their kids when they have one of “those moments”.  One that she found very effective was to just take the child for a car ride and talk.  They usually calmed down and stopped misbehaving after their little outing together.  Here is the photo of one of those sessions with my friend’s son in case you would like to try this technique.

5. Tough Love Session

6. Spanking? *__________________________________* Spanking is effectiveI don’t believe in spanking  Mark where you stand on the above line and list reasons for your stance on this issue.

7. WHAT ABOUT SPANKING?  It is a poor form of discipline and it does not work. –Although it sometimes changes the behavior for a short time, it does little to change the long-term behavior  It often creates feelings of hatred, revenge, and resentment rather than self-discipline  It teaches that violence and aggression are the ways to deal with life –It gives the child the message that if you are bigger, it is OK to hit someone smaller or that being physical (hitting) is the way to deal with problems.  It escalates. –If you spank for little things when children are young, you have to spank harder for more serious problems when they are older. What do you do when the kids get bigger than you?  Spanking does not teach what you want them to do, only what you want them not to do.  It can lead to child abuse. –More than a couple of swats or a swat that leaves a mark can be abuse. It is a physical assault on a child.

8. Punishment  A penalty for a wrong doing.  Severe treatment.  Use as a last resort  Forces child to obey.  Child learns to obey out of fear.  Child Learns: 1.RESENTMENT 2.REVENGE 3.RETREAT 1.Low self esteem 2.Sneaky

9. Discipline  To bring to order through teaching & training.  Fair & consistent.  Child learns to obey and be responsible for their actions.  Self-control is the goal.  Use as often as needed, variety of methods.

10. Guidance  To give advice, counsel or help.  Child learns what is expected of them.  Learn by example.  A parent’s daily job!!

11. Reasons for Misbehavior  Normal for the age.  Natural curiosity.  Don’t know better.  For attention.  Unfulfilled needs  For power.  For revenge.  Feel inadequate.  To feel they belong.  Environment A misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Why?

12. Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make a child do better, first we have to make them feel worse?  Children do better when they feel better!

13. Solution to All Misbehavior: Spend special time With the child each Day! ALSO>>>>>>> Believe that children are GOOD! Share your feelings Find a solution together Correct Timing - calm down Get into the child’s world show understanding Children will listen to you after they feel listened to.

14. Solution to Attention Problems:  Ignore if possible  Give attention when good  Redirect  Logical consequences  Choices

15. Solution to Revenge Problems:  Withdraw from revenge cycle  Win child over  Solve the problem  Take away items they could destroy  Apologize if needed

16. Solution to Inadequacy Problems:  Avoid pity  Encourage & train  Create small successes  Don’t give up

17. Discipline Techniques Each child is different and different things will work for each child.

18. Positive Statements  Telling a child what they CAN do, rather than what they CAN’T do.  Instructions are more clear.  Children feel good.  Works for: all ages!  “Please walk” instead of “Don’t run”

19. Practice – Positive Statements What would you say?  Don’t hit your sister again!  Don’t forget your lunch!  Don’t slam the door!  Don’t climb up the slide!  Don’t listen to that kind of music!

20. Redirect Attention  If a child is doing something you do not want them to do….give them something else to do.  Distract them with another option  Works for: young children 6 months to 10 years

21. Reverse Attention  Ignore inappropriate behavior and deal with problem when child is no longer seeking attention.  Only works if child is trying to get attention.  Works for: older children ages 7-18.

22. Time Out  Gives children an opportunity to re-gain control of their emotions.  One minute for each year.  Quiet spot, tell them why they are there, re- state the rule, have them apologize at end.  Works for: young children ages 2 – 9.

23. Loss of Privilege  Remove a privilege if behavior is inappropriate.  Lots of different privileges can be removed.  Be consistent! Follow through.  Threats are no good…stick to it.  Works for: older children ages 5 – 18.

24. Setting Limits  Children need limits on their behavior.  They want to know what is acceptable and allowed.  Rules should be fair, consistently enforced and help children learn responsibility and self-control  Works for: all ages!

25. Limited Choices  2 or 3 options.  Gives child a sense of power and control.  Offer only real possibilities.  Can help reduce temper tantrums.  Works for: 2 and up.

26. Natural & Logical Consequences  Things that naturally happen without parental interference.  Logical: 4 rules to follow –Related to misbehavior –Not done in anger –Short duration –Unpleasant  Works for:older children ages 7 - 18

27. Write a natural and logical consequence for each misbehavior.  2 children fight over whose turn it is to play video games.  A child is not ready for school on time.  A child does not come home on time from a friends house for dinner.

28. Poor Disciplinary Measures  Bribing –Giving kids something so that they will stop misbehaving. Candy, toys in the store, etc.  Making children promise to behave –Sometimes makes children lie so they don’t disappoint their parents  Shouting or yelling –Usually frightens the children and a lot of time has no effect whatsoever.  Shaming or belittling –Lowers their self esteem

29. Make sure the message of LOVE always gets through:

30. Extended Activity  Write and illustrate a children’s COMIC in which the child in the story learns a valuable lesson (Sharing, talking to strangers, whining, following rules, crossing the street, etc.) –Must be at least 5 Squares. –At least 3 sentences per Square with an illustration –Creative title and colorful picture –Be prepared to share your story with the class.