Presentation on theme: "Discipline & Guidance The keys to well-behaved children."— Presentation transcript:
Discipline & Guidance The keys to well-behaved children.
Discipline Techniques Each child is different and different things will work for each child.
Positive Statements Clearly State what the child is expected to do instead of telling them what not to do Example: “Walk in the house” vs. “Don’t run in the house” Get down on the child’s eye level to talk
Change these into Positive Statements: 1. Don’t stand on the table!!! 2. You are being very bad! 3. Don’t chew with your mouth open, that’s disgusting! 4. I can see your underwear. Put your dress down now!
Redirect Attention If a child is doing something you do not want them to do….give them something else to do. Distract them with another option Example: Have them jump on a trampoline instead of a bed
Reverse Attention Ignore negative behavior when possible and reinforce the positive POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT Example – if their room is always messy, but one day they happen to have a really clean corner, then make a big deal out of the clean corner!
Time Out Remove child from situation causing heightened emotion until they have calmed down Used sparingly, after other techniques have been applied Use a place with NO distractions One minute for each year of age Make an effort to notice when child makes better choice after a time out
Time Out Video Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFZIn f15_QM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFZIn f15_QM
Loss of Privilege Remove a privilege if behavior is inappropriate. Lots of different privileges can be removed. Be consistent! Follow through.
Setting Limits Setting a guideline for behavior State limits clearly and firmly Use consequences as a form of discipline when rules are broken Give your child the WHY for the limits.
Setting Limits - MORE Some parents struggle with setting limits, but limits are GOOD for kids. Limits show children what to do and say and help them cope with their impulses and anxieties.
Video Clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jDjQ3 cScDrk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jDjQ3 cScDrk
Limited Choices Give children opportunities to make choices within caregiver’s limits Limit the number of options provided This gives a child practice making decisions and they feel in control of the situation
Natural & Logical Consequences Natural: occur without interference – let nature take its course Logical: occur with interference from caregiver Related to misbehavior Not done in anger Short duration Provide opportunities for child to learn
Super Nanny http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRfR rP5ZeI8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRfR rP5ZeI8
Authoritarian Parenting Parent is in control. Child is forced to obey. Parents are strict, no room for freedom. Child may feel scared of parent or want to rebel.
Video Clip - Authoritarian http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPp qt8wA-MM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QPp qt8wA-MM
Permissive Parenting Child is in control Parent may threaten but never follows through. No consistency. Child may feel that parents don’t care about them.
Video Clip - Permissive http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oknZ- Hp5QEw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oknZ- Hp5QEw
Authoritative (Democratic) Parenting Balance of both types. Parent sets rules, child expected to obey. Child allowed more freedom as responsibility increases. Child may not like the rules but they are fair & consistent.
Video Clip – Authoritative/Democratic http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHR WZEnNvHA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qHR WZEnNvHA