1. Being Assertive
Miss Brooke and Mr. C

2. Definition
Making your feelings known in a firm and confident way, without making threats.

3. Definition cont.
“The ability to communicate our thoughts, feelings and ideas, both positive and negative, in an open and honest way which does not abuse our rights or the rights of others.”

4. Have you ever been asked if you are Aggressive, Passive, OR Passive-Aggressive?? What does this mean?

5. Skill Steps
Decide if you need to be assertive (have your rights been violated?).
If yes -
2. State your feelings in a firm and confident way.
3. Listen to what the other person says.

6. Benefits! When you are assertive.. You stand up for yourself
You avoid being passive
You avoid being aggressive
You may get your needs met more often
Others may respect you

7. What does it look/sound like?
Really listening
Firm but relaxed voice
Direct eye contact
Erect, balanced, open body stance
Voice appropriately loud for the situation
"I" statements (e.g. "I like", "I want", "I don't like")
Cooperative phrases (e.g. "What are your thoughts on this?")
Clear statements of interest (e.g. "I would like to...")