1. 1 Day #2 of 8 Different Colors of Love Roster:Handouts: Please verify your information and put a checkmark next to your name or add your name. Please pick up a copy of today’s handouts. http://www.canyons.edu/faculty/rafterm

2. DAY #2 OF 8 DIFFERENT COLORS OF LOVE  Three theoretical approaches to the study of love: John Lee’s Styles of Love, Robert Sternberg’s Paths of Love, Gary Chapman’s Languages of Love  Research on Relationship Satisfaction for the different Styles of Love (Susan Hendrick & Clyde Hendrick) 2

3. DAY #2 OF 8 DIFFERENT COLORS OF LOVE  Howard Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences  Three theoretical approaches to the study of love: (John Lee’s Styles, Robert Sternberg’s Paths, Gary Chapman’s Languages of Love)  Research on Relationship Satisfaction for the different Styles of Love (Susan Hendrick & Clyde Hendrick) 3

4. Howard Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences 1.Verbal/Linguistic Intelligence 2.Logical/Mathematical Intelligence 3.Visual/Spatial Intelligence 4.Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence 5.Musical Intelligence 6.Interpersonal Intelligence 7.Intrapersonal Intelligence 8.Naturalist Intelligence 4

5. THE LOVE ATTITUDE SCALE  An inventory called the Love Attitude Scale was developed to measure John Lee's styles of loving (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986). 5

6. JOHN LEE’S “ 6 STYLES OF LOVE” 1) Eros 2)Ludus 3)Storge 4)Pragma 5)Mania 6)Agape 6

7. EROS Eros is the love of beauty. Erotic lovers delight in the tactile, the sensual, and the immediate. Although beauty may reside only in the eyes of the beholder, they are definitely attracted to beauty. They love the lines of the body, its feel, touch, scent, and shape. Fascinated by every detail of their beloved -- their love burns brightly but may soon flicker. 7

8. LUDUS Ludus, from the Latin word for play, is playful love. For ludic lovers, love is a game, something to play at rather than to become deeply involved in. Love is ultimately "ludicrous." Love is for fun! Encounters are casual, carefree, and often careless. "Nothing serious" is the motto of ludic lovers. 8

9. STORGE Storge (stor-gay), from the Greek for natural affection, is the love between companions. Lee calls this, "love without fever or folly, a peaceful and enchanting affection." It usually begins as friendship and then gradually deepens into love. If the love ends, that also occurs gradually, and the people often become friends once again. 9

10. PRAGMA Pragma, from the Greek for business, is practical love. Pragmatic lovers are businesslike in their approach - looking for someone who meets their needs. They use logic in their continual search for the best partner. They seek the background, education, occupation, personality, and other interests compatible with their own. A person who satisfies their criteria arouses erotic, manic and other feelings. …until someone ‘better’ comes along. 10

11. MANIA Mania from the Greek for madness, is obsessive and possessive love. For manic lovers, nights are marked by sleeplessness and days by pain and anxiety. The slightest sign of affection brings ecstasy for a short while, only to disappear. Satisfactions last for but a moment before they must be renewed. Manic love is a roller-coaster love. 11

12. AGAPE Agape (AH-ga-pay) is from the Greek for brotherly love. It is chaste, patient, undemanding, and altruistic; there is neither jealousy nor expectation of reciprocation. It is the love of saints and martyrs. Agape is more abstract and ideal than concrete and real. Agape may be extended more easily to all of humankind than to any specific human. 12

13. Research One study used the Love Attitude Scale to investigate 4 different stages of life and the relationship between styles of loving & relationship satisfaction (The Agape style wasn’t included in this study.) 13

14. 14 The study sample included 250 adults in 4 groups: 1. College-age single youth, 2. Young childless married adults, 3. Married adults with children living at home, and 4. Married adults whose grown-up children had left home.

15. 15 This beauty-loving, sensual style was positively associated with relationship satisfaction for all life stages. Eros Results for: Eros

16. 16 Predictably, this game-playing style was negatively associated with relationship satisfaction for all three groups of married adults. Results for:Ludus

17. 17 - the love of true friends – was significantly related to relationship satisfaction only for the married couples with children at home. Results for:Storge

18. 18 These two styles mad-obsessed & business-like were not related to relationship satisfaction for any life-stage group (Montgomery & Sorell, 1997). Results for: Mania & Pragma

19. 19 During our 15-minute break, please meet one person who you do not know, and then introduce that person to someone who you do know.

20. Sternberg’s Triangle Theory of Love 20

21. The 3 Corners of the Triangle  Intimacy  Passion  Commitment 21

22. STERNBERG’S TRIANGLE THEORY OF LOVE 22 (commitment alone)

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25. Five Ways To Say, “I LOVE YOU.” 25

26. DR. GARY CHAPMAN'S 5 LOVE LANGUAGES.  Gifts  Quality Time  Acts of Service  Meaningful Touch  Words of Encouragement 26

27. 27 “Contributions of Neuroscience to Our Understanding of Cognitive Development” A link to this article is available on our Day #1 page.

28. 28 The End.