1. CORNERSTONE: Building on Your Best for Career Success PRESENTATION SLIDE INDEX FOR CHAPTER 1 CHANGE Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

2. CHANGE Life is about Change, and about Movement, and about Becoming Something other than what you are at this very moment. Life is about Change, and about Movement, and about Becoming Something other than what you are at this very moment. Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

3. MEAN ANNUAL EARNINGS (U.S. Census, 2001) Men Men Men Men Men Men Men Men $24,988 $33,276 $45,073 $64,923 Women Women Women Women $12,728 $18,501 $25,486 $34,757 9 th -12 th Grade High School Associate’s Bachelor’s Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

4. DIFFERENCES BETWEEN HIGH SCHOOL & COLLEGE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN HIGH SCHOOL & COLLEGE High School College High School College *Highly structured*More flexible *Courses less demanding*Courses more demanding *Student is a “child”; the *Student is considered to parent is responsiblebe an adult *Grades given to parents*Grades given to student *Teachers call parents*Professors have no for a conference parental contact *Grades might reflect effort*Grades reflect performance *School creates social and cultural*Student must find campus activities to enhance educationactivities and organizations *Student can be suspended for*Student can be dismissed disobeying rulesfrom college permanently for disregarding rules Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

5. Understand Expectations Understand Expectations Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved Punctuality and Attendance High School Expectations: *State law requires a certain number of days you must attend *The hours in the day are managed for you * There may be some leeway in project dates Penalties: *You may get detention * You may not graduate * You may be considered a truant * Your grades may suffer CollegeExpectations: *Attendance and participation in class is strictly enforced by many professors * Most professors will not give you an extension on due dates * You decide your own schedule and plan your own day Penalties: *You may not be admitted to class if you are late * You may fail the assignment if it is late * Repeated tardiness is sometimes counted as an absence * Most professors do not take late assignments WorkExpectations: * You are expected to be at work and on time on a daily basis Penalties: *Your salary and promotions may depend on your daily attendance and punctuality * You will most likely be fired for abusing either.

6. Understand Expectations Understand Expectations Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved Teamwork and Participation High School Expectations: *Most teamwork is assigned and carried out in class * You may be able to choose teams with your friends * Your grade may reflect your participation Penalties: *If you don’t participate, you may get a poor grade * You may jeopardize the grade of the entire team. CollegeExpectations: *Many professors require teamwork and cooperative learning teams or learning communities * Your grade will depend on your participation * Your grade may depend on your entire team’s performance * You will probably have to work on the project outside of class Penalties: * Lack of participation and cooperation will probably cost you a good grade * Your team members will likely report you to the professor if you do not participate and their grades suffer as a result WorkExpectations: * You will be expected to participate fully in any assigned task * You will be expected to rely on co-workers to help solve problems and increase profits * You will be required to attend and participate in meetings and sharing sessions * You will be required to participate in formal teams and possess the ability to work with a diverse workforce Penalties: *You will be “tagged” as non-team player * Your lack of participation and teamwork will cost you raises and promotions * You will most likely be terminated

7. Understand Expectations Understand Expectations Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved Personal Responsibility and Attitude High School Expectations: *Teachers may coach you and try to motivate you * You are required to be in high school by law regardless of your attitude or responsibility level Penalties: *You may be reprimanded for certain attitudes * If your attitude prevents you from participating, you may fail the class CollegeExpectations: *You are responsible for your own learning * Professors will assist you, but there is little “hand holding” or personal coaching for motivation * College did not choose you; you chose it, and you will be expected to hold this attitude toward your work Penalties: *You may fail the class if your attitude and motivation prevent you from participating WorkExpectations: *You are hired to do certain tasks and the company or institution fully expects this of you * You are expected to be positive and self- motivated * You are expected to model good behavior and uphold the company’s work standards Penalties: *You will be passed over for promotions and raises * You may be reprimanded * You may be terminated

8. Understand Expectations Understand Expectations Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved Ethics and Credibility High School Expectations: * You are expected to turn in your own work * You are expected to avoid plagiarism * You are expected to write your own papers * Poor ethical decisions in high school may result in detention or suspension Penalties: *You may get detention or be suspended * You will probably fail the project CollegeExpectations: * You are expected to turn in your own work * You are expected to avoid plagiarism * You are expected to write your own papers * You are expected to conduct research and complete projects based on college and societal standards Penalties: *Poor ethical decisions may land you in front of a student ethics committee, a faculty ethics committee, or result in expulsion from the college *You will fail the project * You will fail the class * You may face deportation if your visa is dependent on your student status WorkExpectations: *You will be required to carry out your job in accordance with company policies, laws, and moral fortitude *You will be expected to use adult vision and standards Penalties: *Poor ethical decisions may cause you to be severely reprimanded or terminated, and in some cases could even result in a prison sentence

9. NEGATIVE REACTIONS TO CHANGE n Nervousness n Stress n Fear n Fatigue n Guilt and Denial n Anger n Depression Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

10. POSITIVE REACTIONS TO CHANGE n Renewed Sense of Excitement n Heightened Awareness n Energy n Sensitivity n Optimism n Belongingness n Happiness Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

11. ATTITUDES THAT HINDER CHANGE n “I Can’t” Syndrome n Apathy (I Don’t Care) n Closed Mindedness n Unfounded Anxiety n Fear of Taking Chances n Lack of Motivation Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

12. CHANGING BEHAVIORS CHANGING BEHAVIORS n Get Involved with the Change n Learn How To Let Go and Hold On n Don’t Be Afraid To Ask for Help n Develop a Sense of Humor n Focus on the Outcome n Search for Truth n Take Positive Risks Each Day n Have an Open Mind n View Change as Growth n Communicate n Maintain Perspective Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

13. The CHANGE Implementation Model n Determine what you need or want to change and why. n Research your options for making the desired changes and seek advice and assistance from a variety of sources. n Identify the obstacles to change and determine how to overcome them. n Establish a plan by outlining several positive steps to bring about the changes you identified. n Implement your plan for bringing about the desired change. Focus on the desired outcome.Focus on the desired outcome. View problems as positive challenges.View problems as positive challenges. Turn your fears into energy by reducing anxiety through physical exercise, proper nutrition, and stress management strategies.Turn your fears into energy by reducing anxiety through physical exercise, proper nutrition, and stress management strategies. Associate with positive and motivated people.Associate with positive and motivated people. Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

14. TYPES OF GOALS n Social n Academic n Religious n Personal n Physical or Health n Financial Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

15. ATTAINABLE GOALS... ATTAINABLE GOALS... n Must Be Reasonable n Must Be Believable n Must Be Measurable n Must Be Adaptable n Must Be Controllable n Must Be Desirable Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

16. WRITING AND ACHIEVING GOALS... n ACTION Goal Statement n ACTION Steps n Target Date n Narrative Statement (A MUST) n I Deserve Statement n Signature (A Commitment) Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

17. CONDITIONS OF SELF-ESTEEM n A Sense of Security n A Sense of Identity n A Sense of Belonging n A Sense of Purpose n A Sense of Competence Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

18. “Our Deepest Fear” by Marianne Williamson, Return to Love. Used by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Address as President of South Africa “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel unsure around you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us; it is in everyone. As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel unsure around you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us; it is in everyone. As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

19. MOTIVATION. Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

20. Developmental Stages of A MOTIVATED PERSON Developmental Stages of A MOTIVATED PERSON n Stage 1Recognizes Desire n Stage 2Faces Fears n Stage 3Moves out of Comfort Zone n Stage 4Set Goals in Life n Stage 5Become Highly Disciplined Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

21. ON GIVING “The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water. It flows down, clear and cool from the heights of Hermon and the roots of the cedars of Lebanon. The Sea of Galilee makes beauty of it, for the Sea of Galilee has an outlet. It gets to give. It gathers in its riches that it may pour them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. But the Dead Sea, with the same water, makes horror. For the Dead Sea has no outlet. It gets to keep.” Unknown “The Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea are made of the same water. It flows down, clear and cool from the heights of Hermon and the roots of the cedars of Lebanon. The Sea of Galilee makes beauty of it, for the Sea of Galilee has an outlet. It gets to give. It gathers in its riches that it may pour them out again to fertilize the Jordan plain. But the Dead Sea, with the same water, makes horror. For the Dead Sea has no outlet. It gets to keep.” Unknown Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved

22. TEN Ways to INCREASE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM TEN Ways to INCREASE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM n Take control of your own life n Adopt the idea “I am responsible for me” n Don’t let friends and family tear you down n Control what you say to yourself n Take carefully assessed risks n Don’t compare yourself to other people n Develop a victory wall or victory file n Keep your promises n Win with grace; lose with class n Set goals and maintain high motivation Cornerstone: 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Cornerstone: © 2006 by Pearson Education, Inc. Building on Your Best for Career SuccessUpper Saddle River, NJ 07458 Sherfield, Montgomery & Moody All Rights Reserved