1. Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

2. 1)Learning to empathise with others 2)Learning how to reduce and control anger and aggression 3)Learning how to develop social skills 4)Learning possible consequences of cyber-bullying Learning outcomes of Module 3

3. 3.1 Raising of empathy

4. Activity 1: Characteristics of feelings

5. Activity 2: Exclusion

6. Activity 3: Dear Diary

7. Summary: raising of empathy  Try to identify the feelings of the other person.  Keep these feelings in mind when you are with them.  Try to see things from others’ perspective.  Show understanding for others’ perspective. Don’t try to get your way at any costs.  Show interest in the other person.  Listen to the other person (eye- contact, showing that you are listening).

8. Evaluation: 3.1 Raising of empathy

9. 3.2 Reduction of anger and aggression

10. Activity 1: Characteristics of anger and aggression

11. Summary: characteristics of anger and aggression Changes of the body:  Hands: moist palms, shaking, clenched into a fist  Stomach: pressure, feeling of sickness  Breathing: faster or heavily, hard to breathe  Chest: pressure, narrowness, stitching  Throat: having a lump in the throat, dry throat  Voice: trembling, hoarse, loud, shrill or becoming silent  Eyes: seeing red, blurred vision, squinting  Forehead: frowning, getting moist  Head: pressure, dizziness, headache, sensation of heat, feeling like it’s going to explode

12. Activity 2: Controlling of anger

13. Summary: behaviour when feeling anger When you feel anger, try to calm yourself down:  change location or leave the provoking situation  choose your individual “Cool-Down-Sentence” (e.g. “stay calm”, “I can do this”) and repeat it  distract yourself: do something you like, do physical exercises or think of positive experiences  try to relax, do breathing exercises  count to 10

14. Activity 3: Personal space

15. Summary: personal space  Each person has an individual personal space surrounding him/her like a bubble. It is needed for feeling comfortable and safe.  If somebody enters the space, different feelings can occur: fear, but also anger or aggression.  Keep this personal space in mind when meeting someone.

16. Evaluation: 3.2 Reduction of aggression

17. 3.3 Social skills training

18. Activity 1: Hot chair

19. Activity 2: Role play 1

20. Activity 3: Role play 2

21. Summary: social skills training Characteristics of self-confident behaviour:  Posture: Stand tall, head held high, chin up, shoulders back, feet firmly on the ground. Make eye-contact with the other person.  Thoughts: Encourage yourself with positive and realistic thoughts before entering a challenging situation! Tell yourself: “I can do this!” “I’m not afraid!”  Expression: Use I-statements! Express your needs and feelings! Be precise and explicit and tell it with a loud and clear, calm voice.

22. Evaluation: Social skills training

23. 3.4 Effects of cyber bullying

24. Activity 1: Discussion of video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bg xNItGmiC4

25. Activity 2: Discussion of video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciZ KNARbkXY

26. Activity 3: Legislation

27. Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Consequences for the victim:  reduced self-esteem  feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, hopelessness, loneliness, depression  sleeping problems, health problems  suicidal thoughts and behaviours, self-harm Cyber-bullying may affect a person for a long time, long after the bullying stops.

28. Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Legal consequences for the bully:  Cyber-bullying is an offence.  There are no specific cyber-bullying laws, but they are handled like insults, threats or stalking.  Also, in some countries you can be fined for spreading of photos and videos.

29. Evaluation: 3.4 Effects of cyber-bullying

30. Evaluation: Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

31. Evaluation activity: Mood barometer