3 ANGER MANAGEMENT ~ STATISTICS ~ 5.5% of the Nation’s Elementary Teachers were attacked by students! (U.S. Dept of Education school year)10% of the Nation’s Elementary Expulsions were for bringing firearms to school (U.S. Dept of Education School Year)Source:
4 ANGER MANAGEMENTAnger management does not involve getting rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance your life. We can look at the purposes of anger in both a positive and negative light.
5 ANGER MANAGEMENTThe positive aspects of anger are that you have increased energy, are able to communicate your feelings, able to problem solve and can take charge of the situation.
6 ANGER MANAGEMENTThe negative aspects of anger are that you can have disruption of your thinking, unnecessarily defend yourself, become aggressive and become known as an angry person.
7 ANGER MANAGEMENTAnger management would be seen then as increasing the positive aspects or functions of anger and decreasing the negative functions of anger.
8 ANGER MANAGEMENTSo now,,, you have a student that is displaying a lot of ANGER! Now What do you do?
9 ANGER MANAGEMENT Skills needed in dealing with your anger: Identify a range of feelings including angerIdentify aggressive acts by self and othersIdentify the potential consequences to self and others from these aggressive actsIdentify self-destructive behaviorIdentify thoughts prior to aggressive actsIdentify internal cues to feelings of angerDevelop coping mechanisms for dealing with angerExpress anger without loss of control
10 ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify a range of feelings including anger: EmbarrassmentExcitementDisappointmentJealousyFearHelplessSadnessLeft-out
11 ANGER MANAGEMENT I am in charge of my own feelings: I own my feelings. It is okay to feel angry.Anger is part of being human.I learn how to express my anger in helpful ways.
12 ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify aggressive acts shown by self and others: Throw somethingKick someone or somethingGet in someone’s faceShoving, grabbing, hittingBreak somethingCall someone namesGive someone a dirty lookSilent treatmentGet others to “gang up”Spread rumors
13 ANGER MANAGEMENTI choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings.I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and me.I use fair words…e.g.“I feel when you”
14 ANGER MANAGEMENTThe more I learn to take care of my anger the more powerful I become.I need to control what I do with my anger.I control how I let my anger out.I practice cooling off.I watch my thoughts.
15 ANGER MANAGEMENT Know the difference between ANGER and AGGRESSION. Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.
16 ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool: Get exercise every day. Eat right. Get enough sleep.Learn to relax.Know your feelings.Write about those feelings.
17 ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool: Find a quiet place. Take a time out.Find fun distractions.Make good decisions about what you see and hear.Choose friends who make you feel good.Learn to forgive and forget.
18 ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify potential consequences of your anger to others and yourself…what can that mean for you?Physical harm to someone or selfDestruction of propertyLoss of family/friendsLoss of jobLoss of social privilegesGoing to jailGetting a bad reputation
19 ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify self-destructive behavior…How does that help or hurt you?Negative self-talkBlaming everyone elseTaking everything personallyAssumingOvereating, drinkingDriving recklesslyTaking drugsLooking for fightsFeeling outraged
20 ANGER MANAGEMENT I stop blaming others and myself. Blaming only keeps people upset.Blaming is a way of not respecting people.I express my feelings and then try to work things out.
21 ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts: You did that on purpose…You wanted to hurt me…You deserve this…You never even asked me…You’re being unreasonable…You think you’re so good…I’ll show you…You started it…There’s no justice…
22 ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify internal cues to feelings of anger: Stomach gets tight/upsetHeart is beating fasterClenching fistsFeel myself getting flushedPressure on my templesSweaty palmsClenched jaw
23 ANGER MANAGEMENT I don’t have to hold on to my anger. I find ways to let it goI talk about hurt and angry feelings.I look for someone to discuss my anger.I discuss my words and actions that hurt others.
24 ANGER MANAGEMENT Steps to taming anger Know what pushes your buttons. Know your body’s anger signs.Stop and think!Cage your rage…it’s your choice.Decide what to do.
25 ANGER MANAGEMENT I take power. I stand up for myself and others being hurt.I learn to defeat negative self-talk.I feel good about learning about myself.I am strong when I use fair and firm words instead of fists.
26 ANGER MANAGEMENT I remember that people are precious. I watch my thoughts, words, and actions.I stop hurting people with my words and actions.I take ownership of the hurtful things I do and say.“Bullying” hurts everyone.
27 ANGER MANAGEMENT Calm down Name the problem Find solutions Pick the best solutionCongratulate yourselfEvaluate the solutionMake changes if necessary
28 ANGER MANAGEMENTCan you identify any of the steps in resolving conflict, controlling your anger and avoiding aggressive behavior?Well…(then click)
29 ANGER MANAGEMENT Calm down Show mutual respect Name the problem Find solutionsChoose the best solutionCongratulate yourselfReview the solution that was picked
30 ANGER MANAGEMENTNow that YOU understand the mechanics of Anger Management,,, How Does this relate to YOUR Students in Elementary School?