1. Chapter 11 Relational Dialects
Chapter 11 Relational Dialects * the closer individuals become to one another, the more conflict will arise to pull them apart
Shelby Alt

2. Relational dialects
The dynamic knot of contradictions in personal relationships
3 dialects that affect relationships
Integration-separation
Stability-change
Expression-non expression

3. How these dialects play out in a relationship
Internal dialects
- Ongoing tensions played out within the relationship
External dialects
- Ongoing tensions between a couple and their community

4. Integration- Separation *Connection vs Autonomy *Inclusion vs Seclusion *Intimacy vs Independance
If one side wins, the relationship loses.
Too much connection destroys the relationship because individual identities become lost.

5. Stability- Change. Certainty vs Uncertainty
Stability- Change * Certainty vs Uncertainty * conventionality vs uniqueness * Predictability vs Surprise * routine vs novelty
People strive for predictability in their relationships (certainty)
We seek mystery, spontaneity, and the occasional surprise necessary for fun (uncertainty)

6. Expression- non expression. Openness vs Closedness
Expression- non expression * Openness vs Closedness * Revelation vs concealment * candor vs secrecy * Transparency vs Privacy
O vs C: Source of ongoing tension in relationships
Social penetration theory (Irwin Altman)

7. Conclusion the closer individuals become to one another, the more conflict will arise to pull them apart
3 relational dialects
integration-separation
Stability-change
Expression-non expression

8. References
McCornack S. (2013). Reflect & Relate, An introduction to interpersonal communication. Boston, NY: Bedford/St. Martin’s.
Griffin E., Ledbetter A., & Sparks G. (2015). A First Look at Communication Theory. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Education.