1. INDEPENDENT STUDY NATIONAL UNIVERSITY OF UZBEKISTAN named after MIRZO ULUGBEK FACULTY OF FOREIGN PHLOLOGY DEPARTMENT OF COMPARATIVE LINGUISTICS Subject: LANGUAGE AND ASPECT SKILLS Theme: RELATIONSHIPS Done by: Ruziyeva Farzona Checked by: Ismailova R.

2. What is a Relationship?  An association between people that involves “give” and “take”.  When 2 or more people are connected as being or belonging or working together.  The state of being mutually or reciprocally interested.  A continuing attachment between persons.

3. Types of Relationships  Family  Friendship - Peer  Romantic  Professional  Spiritual

4. Types of Relationships (cont’d)  Healthy  Increase self-esteem  Improve mental & emotional health  Lead to a fuller life  Unhealthy  Lowers self-esteem  Causes stress, can lead to mental, physical illness  Dangerous, maybe even lethal

5. Types of Relationships (cont’d)  Healthy Relationship  Based on RESPECT  Unhealthy Relationship  Based on Power & Control

6. Components of healthy relationships: Communication Trust Respect Love

7. COMMUNICATION  1. Define the problem clearly from both points of view.  2. State what you can agree on.  3. Brainstorm together over all of the possible alternatives to the problem.  4. State what changes each of you is personally willing to make to arrive at a solution.  5. Summarize the best solution you have considered. Conflict Resolution Skills How to Deal with Disagreements

8. TRUST Trusting Lets you hang out with your friends Understands when you have to change plans Lets you wear what you want Not Trusting Calls you every second of the day and demands information Won’t let you change plans or makes you feel guilty Get’s jealous when other people are talking to you Trust is an extremely important aspect to a healthy relationship!

10. RESPECT  On a practical level respect includes taking someone's feelings, needs, thoughts, ideas, wishes and preferences into consideration.  It means taking all of these seriously and giving them worth and value. In fact, giving someone respect seems similar to valuing them and their thoughts, feelings, etc.  It also includes acknowledging them, listening to them, being truthful with them, and accepting their individuality and idiosyncrasies.

11. Love  What is the difference between truly being in love and infatuation?  Always remember sex does not equals love! What does love mean to you?

12. What’s the difference between real love & infatuation? INFATUATION When you find someone who is absolutely perfect. LOVE When you realize that they aren’t perfect, and it doesn’t matter.

13. What’s the difference between real love & infatuation? Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of relationship when sexual attraction is central. Love can be described as feeling of intense affection for another person. It is most often talked about as an emotion between two persons. Hence is also sometimes referred to as interpersonal love.

14. Unhealthy Relationship  Characteristics  Intimidation  Jealousy  Domination  Combative  Stressful

15. Unhealthy Relationships  Abuse – a pattern of hurtful behavior that a person uses to control another  It can occur:  In homes as child abuse or domestic violence  In workplaces as sexual or racial harassment  In church organizations as manipulative power plays  And in governments or institutions – needs of disadvantaged people are disregarded

16. Relationship Rights  To be treated with respect – and define what respect is for you.  To decide what is important for you and set your priorities.  To have and express your own feelings and opinions.  To have a different view and not feel guilty.  To be listened to and taken seriously.  To make mistakes and be allowed to try again.  To ask for what you want. Each right has a responsibility – to behave in the same way towards the other person.

17. Final Thoughts  We have many relationships  Healthy - respect  Unhealthy - abuse  Tools for healthy relationships  Effective Communication Skills  Conflict Resolution