1. Bell Ringer Open your student workbook to page 57.
Imagine that you have decided to always use condoms when and if you are sexually active. Under the heading Journal Entry, write a few short sentences about some of the things you might have to consider and do to put your decision into action.

2. Unit 4: HIV, STD & Pregnancy Prevention
Lesson 11-Negotiating Condom Use

3. Healthy Behavior Outcomes
Be sexually abstinent.
Engage in behaviors that prevent or reduce sexually transmitted diseases (STD), including HIV infection.
Engage in behaviors that prevent or reduce unintended pregnancy.

4. Lesson Objectives By the end of this lesson, you should be able to:
Describe the effectiveness of condoms in reducing the risk of pregnancy, HIV and other STD.
Summarize the importance of using condoms consistently and correctly to reduce the risk of pregnancy, HIV and other STD.
Demonstrate negotiation skills to support condom use.

5. When you make the decision to use condoms you may have to negotiate their use with a partner.
Negotiating is discussing something in order to reach an agreement.
Can you think of a time when you had to negotiate something with someone?

6. Think about the experiences you just shared, what were some of the things you did to negotiate successfully?

7. Why is it important for sexually active people to use condoms every time they have sex?
Condoms provide a barrier so that body fluids are not exchanged between partners.
Condoms are the only birth control method besides abstinence that can help protect people from both pregnancy and STD.
Using condoms is a way of being sexually responsible and reducing the risk to oneself and one’s partner.

8. Will condoms provide 100% protection from pregnancy and all kinds of STD?
Abstinence –defined as avoiding any sexual activity that carries a risk of pregnancy or STD –is the only 100% sure way to prevent pregnancy and STD.
Condoms are a very effective method of protection when they are used consistently and correctly every time.
Some STDs can be passed by skin-to-skin contact. Some condoms may not be as effective against HPV, herpes, and other STDs that are passed this way.

10. Summary
Planning ahead and being prepared for something makes it easier to carry out your intentions and goals.
When you are ready to become sexually active, these strategies for planning ahead will help you have safer sex and protect your sexual health.

12. Practice Know what you want and describe it.
Communicate what is acceptable and what is not.
Present clear and rational ideas that support your position.
Try to understand the other person’s point of view to see where you can agree.
Look for ways to compromise that are acceptable.
Come to an agreement.
Be prepared to give a clear NO message if you are unable to negotiate an agreement that is acceptable to you.

13. Summary
If or when you become sexually active, knowing negotiation skills can be a big help when you are ready to talk about condom use with a partner.
Negotiating condom use is not always easy, and it really helps if you are very clear about what you want ahead of time.
Thinking about how to negotiate condom use before you become sexually active can help prepare you to safely handle the situation.

14. Negotiating Condom Use
Turn to pages 34 and 35 in your student workbook.
Follow the instructions under the heading Negotiating Condom Use.

15. Which negotiation skill is the one that will work best for you?

16. Which of the refusal skills you learned today do you think would be easiest for you to use and why?