1. Healthy Relationships
February 2018

2. Sexual Health
Sexuality is a big part of being human. Love, affection, and sexual intimacy all play a role in healthy relationships. However, a number of disorders can affect the ability to have or enjoy sex in both men and women

3. Sexual Health: a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being in relation to sexuality. It is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction, or infirmity.

4. Sexual Health Factors that can affect sexual health include:
Fear of unplanned pregnancy
Concerns about infertility
Sexually transmitted diseases
Chronic diseases such as cancer or heart disease
Medicines that affect sexual desire or performance

5. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence.

6. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)
STDs are passed from person to person through intimate physical contact including but not limited to: heavy petting, vaginal, oral, and anal sex.
The CDC estimates that 20 million new infections occur every year in the United States

7. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)
STDs can mostly prevented by not having sex
You can lower your risk of STDs by using condoms and engaging in a sexual relationship with a partner who doesn’t have an STD
STDs do not always cause symptoms, so it is possible to have an infection and not know it
All STDs can be treated with medicine, and some can be cured entirely

8. Common STDs Bacterial vaginosis Chlamydia Gonorrhea Genital herpes
HIV/AIDS
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
Syphilis
Trichomoniasis

9. Bacterial Vaginosis (BV)
BV is linked to an imbalance between “good” and “harmful” bacterial
BV is the most common vaginal infection in women ages 15-44
Having BV can increase your chances of getting other STDs
BV rarely affects women who have never had sex

10. Chlamydia Most commonly reported STD in the US
Can infect both men and women
Can cause serious, permanent damage to a woman’s reproductive system
Spread through unprotected vaginal, oral, or anal sex with a partner who is infected

11. Gonorrhea Can infect both men and women
Very common infection, especially in individuals
Spread through unprotected vaginal, oral, or anal sex with a partner who is infected

12. Genital Herpes Most people who have the virus don’t have symptoms
Herpes can still be spread to sex partners even if signs and symptoms are not present
Oral herpes can be spread from the mouth to the genitals through oral sex’
In the US, more than 1 out of 6 people aged have genital herpes
Can affect men and women

13. HIV/AIDS Risk factors:
Engaging in unprotected anal, vaginal, or oral sex
Having multiple sex partners
Having anonymous sex partners
Having sex while under the influence can lower inhibitions and result in greater sexual risk-taking
People who have STDs are more likely to get HIV, when compared to people who do not have STDs

14. Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
The HPV vaccine can prevent genital warts and some cancers
HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection
HPV is most commonly spread during unprotected vaginal or anal sex
HPV can be passed even when no signs or symptoms are present
Can cause health problems like genital warts and cancer

15. Syphilis
Can have very serious complications when left untreated, but is simple to cure with the right treatment
There are 4 stages of syphilis that each have different signs and symptoms
Any sexual active individual can get syphilis through unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex

16. Common STD Symptoms Burning when urinating
Unusual discharge from penis or vagina
Pain, itching, or burning around genitals
Unusual bleeding
Painful or swollen testicles
Painful bowel movements
Skin rashes and bumps

17. Additional STD Resources
STD information and referrals to STD Clinics CDC-INFO ( ) TTY:
American Sexual Health Association (ASHA)

18. Sexual Problems in Men Problems can include:
Erectile dysfunction
Reduced or lost interest in sex
Problems with ejaculation
Low testosterone
If problems last more than a few months or cause distress for your or your partner, you should see a health care provider

19. Sexual Problems in Women
Problems can include:
Lack of a sexual desire
Inability to become aroused
Lack of orgasm, or sexual climax
Painful intercourse
If problems last more than a few months or cause distress for your or your partner, you should see a health care provider

20. Discover your love language:

22. Tips for Dating Safely
Tell someone where you’re going on your date—and when you’ll be back
Drive yourself or agree to meet your date somewhere

23. Tips for Dating Safely
Go with another couple
Listen to your gut

24. Say “no” when you feel like it
Tips for Dating Safely
Go somewhere public
Say “no” when you feel like it

25. Use alcohol responsibly
Tips for Dating Safely
Use alcohol responsibly
Watch your drink

26. Agree to check in with a friend at a certain time
Tips for Dating Safely
Carry Cash
Agree to check in with a friend at a certain time

27. Relationship Conflict Resolution
Focus on the problem, not the person
When a disagreement turns to personal insults, raised voices, or mocking tones the conversation is no longer productive
TherapistAid.com

28. Relationship Conflict Resolution
Use reflective listening
Before responding to your partner, restate what they have said to you in your own words. Continue until your partner agrees you understand
TherapistAid.com

29. Relationship Conflict Resolution
Use “I” Statements
Begin your sentence with “I”. By doing so, we show that we are taking responsibility for our own emotion rather than blaming our partner
TherapistAid.com

30. Relationship Conflict Resolution
Know when to take a time- out
Call for a break when needed. Make sure to return to solving the problem. It isn’t a good idea to leave issues unaddressed
TherapistAid.com

31. Relationship Conflict Resolution
Work toward a resolution
Try to find a compromise that benefits both individuals
Ask yourself if the disagreement really matters to your relationship, and let yourself move on if not
TherapistAid.com

32. 24-Hour Crisis line: 1(866)4UR-SAFE
Confidential resource for
matters related to:
Sexual violence
Relationship abuse
Domestic violence
Gender based harassment
Stalking
Can Provide:
Crisis support
Advocacy and accompaniments to medial, legal, and Title IX proceedings
Assistance with campus accommodations
Office: (707)
24-Hour Crisis line: 1(866)4UR-SAFE

33. Unhealthy Relationships
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them, are the most apparent forms of domestic violence
Although physical assaults may occur only once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the victim’s life and circumstances
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

34. Recognizing Abusive and Violent Behaviors
Coercion and Threats
Intimidation
Making and/or carrying out threats to cause partner harm
Threatening to commit suicide
Forcing partner to do something illegal
Destroying partner’s personal property
Displaying weapons to partner
Making partner afraid by using looks, actions, and/or gestures
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

35. Recognizing Abusive and Violent Behaviors
Emotional Abuse
Isolation
Putting partner down
Making partner feel bad about themselves
Calling partner names
Making partner feel guilty
Controlling what partner does, who they see, and where they go
Using jealousy to justify actions
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

36. Recognizing Abusive and Violent Behaviors
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Using Children
Making light of the abuse and not taking partner’s concerns seriously
Shifting the responsibility for abusive behavior
Threatening to take children away
Using visitation to harass your partner
Making partner feel guilty about the children
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

37. Recognizing Abusive and Violent Behaviors
Economic Abuse
Male Privilege
Preventing partner from getting or keeping a job
Making partner ask for money
Giving partner an allowance
Treating your partner like a servant
Being the one to define roles within the relationship
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

38. 24-Hour Hotline: Rape and Intimate Partner Violence
(707)