Objective: Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful relationships in your life. Determine what actions need to occur for a healthy relationships. Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with classmates

 Group of people who are related to you by blood, adoption or marriage  Families relationships influence you and your behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have greatest influence

 Dysfunctional Family  Family that lacks skills to be successful and function in healthy ways  Ideal  Family that has all the skills to be successful and function in healthy way

 Family Continuum  Where would these families be on the continuum????

 Action  Choose actions that promote healthy family relationships  Commitment  Make a promise to be a loving family member  Time  Spend time with your family

 Healthful  Promote self respect promote productivity and health is free of violence and/or drug use and abuse  Harmful  One that harms self respect, interferes with productivity and health and includes violence and or drug abuse

 People Pleaser  Seeks approval, do anything to be liked, like a doormat  The Enabler  Supports harmful behavior of other, makes excuses for behavior of others, denies their own feelings advice, takes over other peoples responsibility

 The Clinger  Needy and dependent, chases and clings, suffocates others  The Fixer  Fixes other peoples problems, quick to give advice, takes over other peoples responsibility

 The Distancer  Emotionally unavailable, avoids sharing feelings, keeps people at arms length  The Controller  Possessive, jealous, domineering, does not respect the will of others, demands on way  The Center  Self centered, talks but does not listen, ignores the needs of others

 The Abuser  Abusive, puts down others, threatens and harms others  The Liar  Does not tell the truth, builds relationships on lies, and manipulates others into responses they want  The Promise Breaker  Unreliable, makes plans and cancels them, agrees to change behavior and does not do so.

 Dr. Phil - e.com/watch?v=FIm su6qEq6A e.com/watch?v=FIm su6qEq6A  Mean Girls - e.com/watch?v=nFP 68RpX1Fg&feature= related e.com/watch?v=nFP 68RpX1Fg&feature= related  What did you see in this clip?  Are there harmful relationship profiles in these clips? What are they?  Did this ever happen to you before?

 On the back of your notes sheet:  Write down FIVE people that you would like to have dinner with.  Must be able to explain why you choose these five people.  The people – Can not be a relative or friend Can be alive or deceased

 Within your group –  Compromise on five people to invite to your dinner.  Your final 5 should be easy to defend in front of the rest of the class  On the paper provided –  Create a seating chart five people invited with every group member for dinner.  IF TIME PERMITS – create a dinner menu…

 Commitment  Communication  Compromise