2 Profile – A short description of a person. What is your profile?Profile – A short description of a person.The following profiles will help you learn :If you relate in harmful waysIf anyone who know relates in harmful ways
3 Type 1: The People Pleaser The people pleaser is a person who constantly seeks the approval of others.Constantly seeks approval from othersPerforms unhealthy behaviors at times just to please others (drinking Illegal activities)Viewed as doormat by othersBlocks there own potential for relationships because of low confidence and self respect
4 Type 2:EnablerAn enabler is a person who supports the harmful behavior of othersOften denies that the other person is committing bad behaviors or refuses to believe itMakes excuses for the other person’s bad behaviors like blaming one self for being put downDoes not hold other person accountable for there behaviors
5 Type 3: The clingerA clinger is a person who is needy and dependent. The clinger feels empty and wants the constant attention of another person in order to feel better.Attention hungryDominates much of other person’s timeCan be controlling at pointsMany times overwhelming to other person which then drives other person away.
6 Type 4: The FixerA fixer is a person who tries to fix another person’s problems. The fixer offers constant advice and might try to choose solutions for another person.Constantly trying to solve other persons problemsMay find solutions to other persons problems which takes up much of there timeNot a very good listener mainly wants to give adviceNot good in relationships because they tend to not listen
7 Type 5: The distancerA distancer is a person who is emotionally unavailable to others. There are a variety of ways in which the distancer can keep other people at arm’s length.Tends to not share feelingsTries to remain busy with other things to avoid getting more involved with relationshipHas a hard time comitting to others.
8 Type 6: The controllerA controller is a person who is possessive, jealous, and domineering. The controller seeks to have power over others.PossessiveControls other persons timeAlways trying to find out or tell where and what other person is doingDoes not give other person space
9 Type 7: The CenterA center us a person who is self-centered. The center is interested only in his or her own beliefs, attitudes, and ideas.Does not listen to othersControls most conversationsDominates choices in a relationshipDoes not provide needs of others
10 Type 8: The abuserAn abuser is a person who is abusive. The abuser might choose verbal abuse. He or she might make demeaning remarks or threats. The abuser might choose physical abuse.May force sex actsMay use physical force as threatsShort tempered
11 Type 9: The liarA liar is a person who does not tell the truth. Other people might respond and behave based on the false information presented by the liar.CompulsiveCauses distrustCreates distrust
12 Type 9: The Promise Breaker A promise breaker is a person who is not reliable. The promise breaker might arrange to participate in an activity with another person and then not honor the promise.Causes distrustExhaustingCauses other person to lose faith in them
13 Communication is the key Convo KeepersAsk questionsShow interestListenRespondConsider others ideasEncourageBe positiveEye contactConvo KillersTalk about oneselfLack of interest in what someone is sayingInterrupts othersChanges the topicBeing a know it allComplainingTalking about othersAvoid eye contact
14 Setting Guidelines For Dating Dating = Any organized social plans with someone of similar interestedInform your parentsParents know exact plansArrange for safe transportation (other parents)Establish reasonable curfewEstablish your code of conductEstablish a code of conduct for them
15 Developing a code Talk about your values and expectations Limit physical expressions of affection and let others knowDo not date those who do not respect your codeAgree to avoid alcohol and other drugs to limit unhealthy or dangerous situationsStay In public placesGo on dates with other couples
16 What's responsible Responsible decisions are… Promote health Protect safetyFollow lawsShow respect for self and othersFollow parents guidelinesDemonstrates character (demonstrates sel control to act responsibly)
17 What Dating Related Choices Might Not Be Responsible?
18 Sharpen Your Dating Skills Not basing self worth on whether or not you can get a dateBe confident enough to deny dates that involve drugs and alcoholHonor your dating commitmentsIt is healthy to have more than one date (do not get physical)Exit a dangerous dating situationBe clear of dating expectations when giving a giftBe honest and kind when turning someone down for a date
19 Dating Abuse 101 Assault~ a physical attack or threat of attack Homicide~ the killing of a personRape~ Sexual penetration without consentViolence~ Abuse used by one person in a relationship to control another.Aggressive Behavior~ The use of words or actions that are disrespectful toward others.Passive Behavior~ The holding back of ideas, feelings, and decisions.
20 Date Abuse StagesBuild-up Phase- Frustration, anger, tension and even crueltyExplosion Phase- Abuse and intentional harmful touching of another personHoneymoon Phase- The victimizer has released anger. They now express shame remorse and even become caring giving gifts to win back trust
21 68% of teens say boyfriends/girlfriends sharing private or embarrassing pictures/videos on cell phones and computers is a serious problem.19% of teens in relationships say their partner has used a cellular device or the internet to spread rumors aboutNearly 1 in 4 teens in a relationship communicated with their partner via cell phone or texting HOURLY between 12 am & 5 am1 in 3 teens say they are texted 10, 20, 30 times an hour by a partner keeping tabs on them1 in 4 teens in a relationship say they have been called names, harassed, or put down by their partner through cell phones & texting.71% of teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends spreading rumors about them on cell phones and social networking sites as a serious problem.
22 Watch Out Tech Abuse Disrespect using social media outlets Excessive non stop messaging texting harassmentOnline stalkingThreatening to share pictures
23 Myths About Dating Violence Drugs alcohol make someone violentMyth: Drugs and alcohol possess potential to intensify emotions and decrease inhibitions (What holds us back from making bad decisions).Women are victims of violence more often than menFACT: The U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics reports that 95% of the reported incidents of assaults in relationships are committed by males.
24 Most of the time abusers will never get better because it is a learned behavior and cannot be unlearned.MYTH: Although it is uncommon for an abusive person to change and unlearn their behavior, if they acknowledge their behavior and want to change for themselves it can happen. However, no one can make them change, they have to make the decision for themselves.If a person stays in an abusive relationship, it must not really be that bad.MYTH: People stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons: fear, economic dependence, confusion, loss of self-confidence, not recognizing that what’s happening is abusive, belief that the abuser needs their help or will change.
25 Being Physical Discuss your limits to healthy mutual choices Make limits knownDo not date those who don’t respect your limitsAvoid alcohol and drugs or those who use suchThere is only one you