Paradigms & Principles Personal Bank Account 7 Habits Curriculum 9th Grade Advisory, March 2014 **Content based on 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens.

Paradigms & Principles The way we think about and see things; a mental map Can be positive or negative Make a big difference in how our life goes A fundamental truth that is timeless Doesn’t fail Stable and never changing Will win in the end!

How do we see ourselves, others and life? Paradigms of Self – how we see ourselves (can be helping or hindering you) Paradigms of Others – how we view others (we don’t’ usually have the whole story) Paradigms of Life – how we look at life (specifically what drives us, what is important to us, etc)

Paradigms of Life Possible Centers or Paradigms of Life: Friend Centered – friends are important but should never be the center Stuff Centered – “He who dies with the most toys, wins” Boyfriend/Girlfriend Centered – the world revolves around them School Centered – should be important but not the only thing

Paradigms of Life, Cont. Parent/Family Centered – should respect and honor them, but living to please them could end in disaster Other Possible Centers – Sports/Hobbies Hero Work Self You get the idea

You Ask, “What Should We Be Centered On…” Principles

Examples of Principles Honesty Hard Work Integrity Respect As a class brainstorm a list of possible life principles

If who I am is what I have and what I have is lost, then who am I? Anonymous

This is an optional activity Advisor can judge the time Who Am I Activity This is an optional activity Advisor can judge the time

Take a blank piece of white paper Fold in half – hamburger On left side draw items that illustrate your past, how you got to this time in your life On right side draw items that illustrate where you are going Place paper in advisory folder

We Must Take Care of Ourselves Personal Bank Account We Must Take Care of Ourselves

Inside Out Read this poem aloud. Open up discussion with class

What is Personal Bank Account (PBA)? It is the way you feel and think about yourself. It has deposits and withdrawals (just like the bank).

Possible Symptoms of a Poor PBA Possible Symptoms of a Healthy PBA You cave into peer pressure easily. You wrestle with feelings of inferiority. You act arrogant to help hide insecurities. You get jealous easily, especially when someone close to you succeeds. You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure. You’re not overly concerned about being popular. You trust yourself. You are goal driven. You are happy for the successes of others.

Deposits Into PBA: Keep Promises to Yourself Do Random Acts of Service For 3 days in a row, get up in the morning when you say you will get up. Identify one easy task (do dishes). Decide when to do it and now keep your word and get it done. Do Random Acts of Service Sometime today – do a kind anonymous deed Look around and find something you can do to make a difference.

Deposits into PBA Cont. Tap Into Your Talents Be Kind to Yourself Can be a variety of things – and not necessarily the one’s that can make you famous! Be Kind to Yourself Try to go an entire day without negative self talk Renew Yourself Decide on a fun activity that will lift your spirits. Be Honest For one day, try not to exaggerate or embellish.

Now What See if you can make a deposit into your Personal Bank Account over the next week. And next week – we are going to jump into Habit 1