Chapter 12 Getting Along With Others

Prepare Relationships are formed more easily with others who are similar to usRelationships are formed more easily with others who are similar to us Easier to interact with others who look as we do and share our race, ethnicity, and cultureEasier to interact with others who look as we do and share our race, ethnicity, and culture Learning to accept diversity in your life is a crucial skillLearning to accept diversity in your life is a crucial skill

Organize ArabArab GayGay African-AmericanAfrican-American HispanicHispanic FemaleFemale DisabledDisabled OverweightOverweight What comes to your mind when you think about these labels?

Prejudice Evaluations or judgments of members of a group, rather than individual characteristicsEvaluations or judgments of members of a group, rather than individual characteristics Maintained by stereotypes, i.e.beliefs or expectations about members of a groupMaintained by stereotypes, i.e.beliefs or expectations about members of a group

Consider Do men drive better than women?Do men drive better than women? Are people on welfare lazy?Are people on welfare lazy? Do homeless people want a job?Do homeless people want a job? Can white men jump?Can white men jump? Do overweight individuals lack will power?Do overweight individuals lack will power? What stereotypes do you believe?What stereotypes do you believe?

To develop cultural competence it is important to identify our prejudices and stereotypes and to fight them.

Find Your Stereotype Quotient Check your stereotype quotient by completing Try It #2. Share your answers in small groups.

Work Study other cultures and customsStudy other cultures and customs TravelTravel Participate in community serviceParticipate in community service Don’t ignore people’s backgroundsDon’t ignore people’s backgrounds Don’t make assumptions about who people are differentDon’t make assumptions about who people are different Accept differencesAccept differences

Dealing with Classroom Diversity Present opinions respectfullyPresent opinions respectfully Don’t assume you can understand other people’s experiencesDon’t assume you can understand other people’s experiences Don’t expect people to be representatives of the group from which they belong-they can only speak for themselvesDon’t expect people to be representatives of the group from which they belong-they can only speak for themselves Meet students who are different from youMeet students who are different from you All opinions are important, even if views are in the minority. Speak Up!All opinions are important, even if views are in the minority. Speak Up!

Evaluate-Ask Yourself Do I make judgments about others based on external features?Do I make judgments about others based on external features? Do my friends represent diversity?Do my friends represent diversity? Do I recognize that all people have the same basic needs?Do I recognize that all people have the same basic needs? Do I seek to understand the perspectives of others?Do I seek to understand the perspectives of others?

Rethink Relationships with others help us determine who we areRelationships with others help us determine who we are Attitudes and beliefs are shaped by othersAttitudes and beliefs are shaped by others Make friends by investing time in othersMake friends by investing time in others Reveal yourself-be honestReveal yourself-be honest Show concern and caringShow concern and caring Friendship is a two-way streetFriendship is a two-way street

True Relationships Built on foundation of trust Commitment to honesty Mutual support Loyalty Acceptance Willingness to welcome change

Communication in Relationships Be a good listener –S–S–S–Stop talking –U–U–U–Use eye contact and pay attention –R–R–R–Reflective feedback-rephrase what speaker has said –A–A–A–Ask questions –A–A–A–Admit when you are distracted

Loneliness Can occur in a crowdCan occur in a crowd Become involved in campus activitiesBecome involved in campus activities Find a study partnerFind a study partner You are not the only one who is lonelyYou are not the only one who is lonely SocializeSocialize Get a jobGet a job Loneliness is a temporary stateLoneliness is a temporary state Take a break from people when neededTake a break from people when needed

Conflicts in Relationships Avoid using the word “you”Avoid using the word “you” –You don’t understand –You are being stubborn –How can you say that Use “I” statementsUse “I” statements –I think we are misunderstanding each other –I feel that you are not listening –I worry when you do not call when you are going to be late

Conflict Resolution Stop, look, and listen Defuse the argument Get personal Listen to real message Show that you are listening Acknowledge anger Ask for clarification Make requests explicit

Life is not a zero-sum game - - someone does not have to lose.

Surviving Endings Not all relationships last a lifetime Time eases pain Be active-keep busy Accept that endings are painful Talk to a friend Write down your feelings Speak to a professional

P.O.W.E.R. Plan PREPARE ORGANIZE WORK EVALUATE RETHINK Accept diversity as a valued part of your life Explore your own prejudices and stereotypes Develop cultural competence Check your progress in attaining cultural competence Understand how your own racial, ethnic, and cultural background affects others

Career Connections Cultural competence will help you respond to legal issues in the workplace, improve relationships with others, and increase performance on work teams.

How Social Diversity and Relationships Affect the College Experience Racial and ethic characteristics comprise diversityRacial and ethic characteristics comprise diversity Gender, sexual orientation, age, mental and physical characteristics also comprise diversityGender, sexual orientation, age, mental and physical characteristics also comprise diversity Education, religion, income levelEducation, religion, income level

Diversity Wheel

Race, Ethnicity, and Culture Race refers to physical differences that set one group apart from anotherRace refers to physical differences that set one group apart from another Ethnicity refers to shared national origins or cultureEthnicity refers to shared national origins or culture Culture refers to learned behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes of a groupCulture refers to learned behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes of a group

By mid-21 st century, the percentage of people in the United States of African, Latin American, Asian, and Arabic ancestry will be greater than the percentage of those of Western European ancestry.

College enrollments will mirror the shift in the diverse population.

Cultural Competence Knowledge of others’ customs, perspectives, background, and historyKnowledge of others’ customs, perspectives, background, and history Provides basis for civic engagementProvides basis for civic engagement Permits us to act with civility toward othersPermits us to act with civility toward others

P.O.W.E.R. Plan Prepare: Accept diversity as a valued part of your lifePrepare: Accept diversity as a valued part of your life Organize: Explore your own prejudices and stereotypesOrganize: Explore your own prejudices and stereotypes Work: Develop cultural competenceWork: Develop cultural competence Evaluate: Check your progress in attaining cultural competenceEvaluate: Check your progress in attaining cultural competence Rethink: Understand how your own racial, ethic, and cultural background affects othersRethink: Understand how your own racial, ethic, and cultural background affects others

Journal Topics Thinking about Race, Ethnicity, and Culture Were race and ethnicity discussed in your family as you were growing up? In what ways?Were race and ethnicity discussed in your family as you were growing up? In what ways? Are you proud of your ethnicity? Why?Are you proud of your ethnicity? Why? Think what it would be like to be a member of a racial group or ethnicity other than your own. In what ways would your childhood and adolescence have been different? How would you view the world differently?Think what it would be like to be a member of a racial group or ethnicity other than your own. In what ways would your childhood and adolescence have been different? How would you view the world differently?