The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 1 Many of us have heard the old saying that it is better to reign in Hell than to serve in Paradise. There is, or course, a lot of debate over whether or not it is really better to reign in Hell than to serve in Paradise. Also, it is a choice that seems to only be given to people who have developed basically strong spiritual structures.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 2 A lot of people who have never developed strong spiritual structures are not given the luxury of choosing between reigning in Hell or serving in Paradise. But before discussing why some people are given this choice and other people are not, it might be useful to discuss the difference between the types of spiritual structures that most people develop and the types of spiritual structures that more vulnerable people tend to develop. Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 3 Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong. How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue? Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 4 Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3 The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life. We also began the same socialization process early in life. How can our opinions be so different? Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 5 The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes. They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong. Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to. And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to. Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 6 Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality. And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him. Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality. We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different spiritual worlds. Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 7 Collective Subconscious of the Group Group Member #1 Group Member #2 Group Member #3 There are a lot of vulnerable people in our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other people to be an important part of their reality. When a vulnerable guy (or a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about the spiritual worlds that they live in, the vulnerable guy will not really understand what those people are talking about.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 8 The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might have originally gotten into the difficult position of not living in a real spiritual world because he was only given a limited role in his family. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 9 If the family gives the vulnerable guy only a limited role in the spiritual entity that is made up of the family members (and takes away some of his spiritual energy), they might create a fantasy about the vulnerable guy that says that he was given an equal role in the family and that he is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 10 But the family might have trouble convincing other people that they actually gave the vulnerable guy an equal role in the family. The people outside of the family will sense that the vulnerable guy seems to treat everyone equally and that he does not seem to have the types of strong opinions that people usually have when they have a genuine role in a spiritual entity such as a family. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 11 The people outside of the family might come to realize that the vulnerable guy has not even been given a limited role in his family. It might start to become obvious to family friends (such as Number 5 and Number 6 below) that the family has given them a role in the family that is equal to or greater than the role that the family has given to the vulnerable guy even though they are not actually in the family. Number 4 Number 6 Number 5

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 12 When the vulnerable guy’s family realizes what is happening they might decide that they need to take action to avoid being criticized by people outside of the family. One technique they might use to make it appear that the vulnerable guy has a larger role in the family would be to criticize him when they are talking to people outside of the family. The people who they talk to will think that the other family members would not be criticizing the vulnerable guy if they were indifferent to him. Number 4 Number 6 Number 5

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 13 Number 4 Because of the fact that the vulnerable guy does not have a lot of strong opinions and is open to different types of people, the family will need to make sure that they block any attempts that he makes to develop any genuine relationships with other people. The vulnerable guy will assume that they are doing this because they don’t want him to be led astray. But they actually need to block potential relationships because if he develops genuine relationships, he will realize that his family is indifferent to him.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 14 Number 4 It will now be assumed that the vulnerable guy did at one time have an equal role in his family. The people observing the situation will think that the vulnerable guy did something wrong that made him fall from grace. It will be assumed that the vulnerable guy has the same cultural values as his family because he has been given the spiritual identity as being someone basically similar to the other family members who just seems to have some bad traits.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 15 By using the strategy of criticizing the vulnerable guy when they were actually indifferent towards him, the family gave the vulnerable guy an identity as being someone with the same cultural values as the family. This created a situation where people who had similar cultural values to those of the family might try to start a relationship with the vulnerable guy because they think that his cultural values are similar to those of his family. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 16 Number 4 But the relationship will fail when the other person realizes that the vulnerable guy’s cultural values are not similar to those of his family. The vulnerable guy’s situation is similar to something in the world of literature that is known as a farce. A play that is a farce might be very amusing to the audience even though none of the actors are joking. Due to the fact that the situation is absurd and perhaps based on a false premise, the words of the actors can seem to be very straight laced and proper and end up being very comical.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 17 The vulnerable guy is living in a false paradise that was based on the false premise that he was given an equal role in his family and that he has the same cultural values as his family. The vulnerable guy’s family set up this false paradise to show other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. The false premise that the vulnerable guy was given an equal role in the family but just had a bad streak will appear to be true because it will impossible for him to avoid being misunderstood by other people. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 18 As the vulnerable guy gets older and starts developing relationships outside of his family and his family’s community, he will probably not understand some of the spiritual things that occur when he gets involved with other people. There is a danger that some of the people who he meets might take advantage of him instead of helping him to become stronger. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 19 Most of the people who the vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of emotions (which is the most important part of their soul). They also develop a practical set of emotions. An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a car salesperson merging the practical part of their soul with the soul of their customer for the purpose of getting the customer to sign the contract.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 20 The salesperson forms a temporary spiritual bond with their customer so that they will be able to influence them when they need the customer to do something that they want them to do (such as when they need the customer to sign the contract). The salesperson knows how to use spiritual links to influence the customer’s thinking at that important point where the customer might be tempted to back out of the negotiation.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 21 The vulnerable guy has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the salesperson. The salesperson has exchanges of spiritual information with their customer, but it is only a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship. And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that tend to not become very strong.

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The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 24 The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows. A lot of spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who we will call a “primary woman”) who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.

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The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 28 Number 4 The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between himself and the secondary women. The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious and the vulnerable guy is receiving their spiritual energy.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 29 Number 4 The secondary women might get upset with the vulnerable guy for sending them his subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious and then not developing a deeper relationship with them. They will think that the vulnerable guy is leading them on and they will want him to stop sending his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them through the Collective Subconscious.

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The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 31 Number 4 The vulnerable guy might have also gotten into a pattern of interfacing with other men who don’t want to get close to him personally but who will relay the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings to other men who they know.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 32 These men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious will wonder why they are sensing that the vulnerable guy is trying to start a friendship with them and is then backing off and not developing the relationship. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 33 Number 4 They do not understand that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with them is dependent upon another man transmitting his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them. The men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings will eventually want to stop receiving these transmissions.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 34 Number 4 When the woman and the man who transmit the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings (his emotions) to other people realize what is happening, they might take on the role of a bully and they might create a lie that says that the vulnerable guy purposely likes to hurt other people emotionally.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 35 They might expand upon their lie and say that the vulnerable guy is not only guilty of leading other people on emotionally, but that he is also guilty of continuing to send his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious when he knows that they do not want to receive those emotions. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 36 The woman or the man might purposely start an interaction with the vulnerable guy for the purpose of getting him in trouble. They know that by starting an interaction with him without really accepting him they will be relaying his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 37 The woman and the man also know that when the other people receive the vulnerable guy’s emotions through the Collective Subconscious they are going to reject those emotions, and they are going to send a lot of bad vibrations back to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 38 It would never occur to the vulnerable guy that he might be blamed for leading other people on emotionally. But the man bully and the woman bully created a lie saying that he was purposely sending unwanted emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious and then these bullies purposely relayed his emotions to those people. Number 4

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 39 The vulnerable guy needs to somehow communicate to other people that he did not intend to force his emotions on other people and that it was the bullies who purposely relayed his emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious. As he tries to convince other people of his innocence the bullies will try to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 40 One of the arguments that the bullies might use to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty is that he sometimes seems to think that he is in a relationship with another person when he is not. The vulnerable guy knows that he sometimes gives other people this impression, but he does not know why this happens and he feels that he does not really believe that he is developing a relationship when this happens.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 41 What is happening in these situations is that when a man bully or a woman bully take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that is unfair, some of bully’s emotions will be forced onto the vulnerable guy. After the vulnerable guy picks up these emotions he will, without his knowledge, pass those emotions off to other people. The other people who he passes these emotions off to will start to develop an emotional relationship with the bully because the vulnerable guy will be relaying the bully’s emotions to them through the Collective Subconscious.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 42 The vulnerable guy knows that what is happening is a long way from being a relationship because he knows that he is not receiving strong emotions from the other person. But he does not understand why he cannot just relax with this person who he does not believe he has formed a relationship with. He cannot relax with this person because the bully has gotten him to force the bully’s emotions onto the other person and the bully will not allow the vulnerable guy to back off and relax.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 43 During the time immediately before a man bully or a woman bully takes advantage of the vulnerable guy, it is very likely that the bully will start to act kind of odd. They will start saying stupid things that make the people around them start to avoid the bully and start to criticize them. The bully has at this point used up the spiritual energy that they had stolen from other people in the past and the bully is becoming weaker.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 44 The man bully or the woman bully needs to make a conquest. They need to connect their shallow soul to the soul of another person, and they use the vulnerable guy to accomplish this. When the vulnerable guy starts an interaction with another person after being bullied, the soul of the man bully or the woman bully will attach itself to that other person. That is why it appears that the vulnerable guy is in a relationship. But the relationship is not between the vulnerable guy and the other person. It is between the bully and the other person.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 45 The man bully or the woman bully will now start to feel emotionally satisfied and the people who had been laughing at them for their insecurity will now start to respect the bully once again. The vulnerable guy will notice that the new person who he started an interaction with might act friendly towards him for a short period of time thinking that he has started a relationship with them, but after a while they will turn cold towards him when they realize that he has done something that activated their emotions and then did not follow through and develop the relationship further.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 46 Deep in the vulnerable guy’s mind he might believe that someday the man bully or the woman bully might want to become friends with him. He knows that his interactions with the bully have been positive for the bully. He has seen how the bully gets transformed from a somewhat shallow person into a person with a certain amount of confidence after the bully has an interaction with him and for this reason he might imagine that the bully might like him. But that is not really true.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 47 The bully will eventually “use up” the spiritual energy that they received from the person who the vulnerable guy had relayed their emotions to. And in “using up” that spiritual energy they also “used up” the energy that the vulnerable guy had put into the bully’s relationship with that person. For this reason, in most situations there is no potential for additional spiritual energy exchanges between the man bully or woman bully and the vulnerable guy once the bully has used up that energy.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 48 But if the bully and the vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation where they are forced to continue interacting with each other, the bully may end up bullying the vulnerable guy several times over a period of months or years. In this type of situation the energy exchanges between them might eventually become fairly strong, but it will be negative type of energy that is being exchanged that cannot develop into a positive relationship.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 49 The bully in the previous example did damage to the vulnerable guy, but it was a different type of damage than the damage done earlier in his life by the people who tried to convince other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. But eventually the vulnerable guy will realize that the bully is also indifferent towards him.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 50 Not only will the vulnerable guy see that the bully is indifferent towards him, but other people will also see that the bully is indifferent towards the vulnerable guy. At this point the bully might start to become afraid that other people will realize that he has only been using the vulnerable guy to relay the bully’s emotions to other people.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 51 The bully might at this point start to criticize the vulnerable guy so that people don’t think that he is indifferent towards him. Now the vulnerable guy will be in a similar situation to what he experienced earlier in his life. The bully has some power over the vulnerable guy and the bully does not want other people to see how little he cares about him.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 52 In addition to criticizing the vulnerable guy, the bully will also feel the need to block any attempts that the vulnerable guy makes to develop relationships with other people. The vulnerable guy might think that the bully is just being mean, but the bully knows that if the vulnerable guy develops genuine relationships, he will realize that the bully is actually indifferent towards him.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 53 It won’t be too hard for the bully to convince other people that he might care about the vulnerable guy because a lot of spiritual energy has been exchanged between the bully and the vulnerable guy. When the vulnerable guy was relaying the bully’s emotions to other people, the bully and the vulnerable guy could sense each others emotions.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 54 But once the bully had used up the spiritual energy that they got from the person who the vulnerable guy was relaying the bully’s emotions to the exchanges of spiritual energy stopped. Another thing to consider is that the bully might have also come from a family that gave only a limited role to one of their family members.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 55 If that was the case then the vulnerable guy would not only be sensing the bully’s spiritual energy from the time when he was relaying the bully’s emotions to other people, but he might also be picking up energy from the bully similar to energy exchanges that he has had with the members of his family. If so, the bully would seem very familiar to the vulnerable guy.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 56 The vulnerable guy’s original false paradise was set up early in his life. The bully set up his second false paradise when he felt the need to convince other people that he was not really indifferent to the vulnerable guy. It is possible that the vulnerable guy might someday be forced to live in a third false paradise or even in a fourth false paradise.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 57 Now that the vulnerable guy is living in the second false paradise, he will once again start to be misunderstood by other people. Some of the people who like the bully might try to start a relationship with the vulnerable guy thinking that he has the same cultural values as the bully. But the relationship will end when they realize that he does not have those cultural values.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 58 The biggest problem that the vulnerable guy faces at this point is that now that he is living in a false paradise created by the bully, it will be easier for the bully to force him to relay the bully’s emotions to other people. In the past the bully would take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that was unfair. When the bully did this some of the bully’s emotions would be forced onto the vulnerable guy.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 59 After the vulnerable guy picked up the bully’s emotions he would relay those emotions to other people. But some of the people observing the situation would be critical of the bully because they felt that the vulnerable guy did not like what was happening. Now the bully will feel face less criticism than they did in the past when they do this because it will appear that the vulnerable guy has the same cultural values as the bully.

The Philosophy of Exotischism Losing Your False Paradise 60 Instead of asking if it is better to reign in Hell or serve in Paradise, the vulnerable guy should maybe ask if it is better to start developing relationships with people who do not dominate you, or if it better to continue having sometimes intense, but negative, exchanges of spiritual energy with people who are only using you to make their own lives a little bit easier. Copyright 2013 Don Bergquist