I am your constant companion I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do, you might as well turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I am easily managed - you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great individuals and, poor me, of all failures as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures. I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for profit or run me for ruin – it makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you. Who am I? Riddle

I am the driver of my life, not the passenger!!! HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE - 50% of things we do by habit - if you don’t control your habits, they will control you. I am the driver of my life, not the passenger!!!

Proactive vs. Reactive Responsible Blaming (victim virus) Values Impulses Think before act,say,do Just act,say,do Calm, cool, control Panic, frustration Bottle of water Can of soda pop Solutions Excuses Win Lose Power & control Driver Passenger Act & don`t wait (initiative) Wait & don`t act

Listen to your words! That`s just the way I am…! Maybe I`ll try…! I can do better than that! I`ll do it! It`s not possible…! I cannot! Let`s look at all our options! I choose to do that… There`s nothing I can do! Ugh, I have to…! I`m not going to let your bad mood influence me! You ruined my day…! There`s got to be a way!

The victim virus: everyone/everything is against me, I can do nothing, nobody likes me, they should… Mark Twain: « Don`t go around saying the world should give you a living. The world should give you nothing. It was there first!!! »

Circle of control: Circle of no control: ourselves, our attitudes, choices, responses, words, perspectives, habits, etc. Circle of no control: color of skin, weather, past mistakes, prices, parents, rude comments, location of birth, who wins the NBA finals, etc.

Quotes ``It`s not what happens to you in life, it`s what you do about it.`` W. Mitchell www.wmitchell.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7LsdgRnarw&feature=related

A change agent = no matter the bad habits that were passed on to you, break the chain and be the 1st to pass on good habits! Use the ‘pause button’ = when people and situations stress&influence you too much, stop, think and remember you are the only one who can choose your actions….

POWER TOOL BOX (included at birth!!!) Self-awareness – see yourself from inside and from outside Conscience – inner voice that tells you what’s right or wrong. Imagination – take courage to dream and follow your dreams Willpower – power to control your choices and actions.

Homework: Prepare on separate papers: Page 5: Top Ten Happiness Page 6: Your Paradigms (about yourself, others and the world) (300 words). All the other missing pages (1-6)

Homework: Things that I can control… Things that I cannot control… Things that control me… 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 - Personal info, detailed, explicit, specific, not general…

How To Change The World When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I decided to change only my country. But it, too seemed, immovable. Later on in life, in one desperate attempt, I decided to only change my family, those closest to me. But they would not listen to me. And now as I lie on my death bed, I suddenly realize if I had only changed myself first, then by example, I would have changed my family. With their inspiration and encouragement, I would have been able to better my country, and who knows, I may have changed the world. Anglican Bishop

There are two seas in Palestine There are two seas in Palestine. The Sea of Galilee is fresh, and fish are in it. Splashes of green adorn its banks. Trees spread their branches over it and stretch out their thirsty roots to sip of its healing waters. …The River Jordan makes this sea with sparkling water from the hills. So it laughs in the sunshine. And men build their houses near to it, and birds their nests; and every kind of life is happier because it is there. The River Jordan flows on south into another sea, the Dead Sea. Here is no splash of fish, no fluttering leaf, no song of birds, no children’s laughter. Travelers choose another route, unless on urgent business. The air hangs heavy above its water, and neither man nor beast nor fowl will drink from it. What makes this huge difference in these neighbor seas? Not the River Jordan. It empties the same good water into both. Not the soil in which they lie; not in the country round about. This is the difference. The Sea of Galilee receives, but does not keep the Jordan. For every drop that flows into it, another drop flows out. The giving and receiving go on in equal measure. The other sea is shrewder, hoarding its income jealously. It will not be tempted into any generous impulse. Every drop it gets, it keeps. The Sea of Galilee gives and lives. This other sea gives nothing. It is named the Dead. There are two seas in Palestine. There are two kinds of people in this world.

Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson https://www. youtube. com/watch Man in the Mirror – Michael Jackson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQm4XXEgZoY Instructions: Watch the video, complete the missing words and list the famous people included in the video.