© John Mallison 26.1 Active Listening ‘Seek first to understand’ Sensitive, empathetic, concentrated listening to discover what people are really trying.

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© John Mallison 26.1 Active Listening ‘Seek first to understand’ Sensitive, empathetic, concentrated listening to discover what people are really trying to communicate is essential in a mentoring relationship. Indeed it is one of the most important aspects of good mentoring.

© John Mallison 26.2 Listening in dialogue is listening more to meanings than to words… In true listening, we reach behind the words, see through them, to find the person who is being revealed. Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person as revealed verbally and nonverbally. There is the semantic problem, of course. The words bear a different connotation for you than they do for me. Consequently, I can never tell you what you said, but only what I heard. I will have to rephrase what you have said, and check it out with you to make sure that what left your mind and heart arrived in my mind and heart intact and without distortion. John Powell, theologian

© John Mallison 26.3 Silence of Love This silence of love is not indifference; it is not merely poverty of something to say. It is a positive form of self-communication. Just as silence is needed to hear a watch ticking, so silence is the medium through which heartbeats are heard.

© John Mallison 26.4 Lord, grant me the grace of silence that I may refrain from hasty or prolonged speech.

© John Mallison 26.5 How To Listen Actively ‘ User Friendly’ Environments –Noise can hinder –Switch off your mobile phone or pager –Lighting –Seating arrangements –Space Use Appropriate Body Language –Posture –Make appropriate body movements

© John Mallison 26.6 Give Feedback - Paraphrase - Perception check - Behaviour description - Summarise Let The Other Person Lead - Invitations to talk - Avoid overtalk - Restrict story-telling Other Skills - Use ‘I’ messages - Indicate you are with them, using ‘little words’ and ‘non-words’ - Infrequent questions - Responsive silence How to Listen Actively cont... Reflect feelings Accept the feelings being expressed Describe your own feelings

© John Mallison 26.7 Active Listening The Importance Of Listening True Listening Paraphrasing Perception check Behaviour description Summarise Reflected feelings Accept the feelings being expressed Describe your own feelings

© John Mallison 26.8 Feelings People Experienced When They Were Heard Accepted Valued Encouraged Motivated to be open Supported Significant The relationship deepened Active Listening cont...

© John Mallison 26.9 (Tone, Emphasis, Inflection) (Facial Expression, Body Language) Verbal & Non-Verbal Communication

© John Mallison Reverse roles when first speaker satisfied he/she has been heard ListenerSpeaker I understood you to say…

© John Mallison Let anyone with ears to hear… Listen! Mark 4:9 (NRSV) Listen to advice and accept instruction, That you may gain wisdom. Prov 19:20 (RSV) Hear that your soul may live. Is 55:3 (RSV)

© John Mallison ‘Let everyone be: Quick to hear - slow to speak’ James 1:19