Anger Management (Dealing with People Positively)

BoredomLack of skills to complete a specific task Perceptions of injustice Not being listened to Failure to understand an instruction Extracts from DfES publications 2005: Creating conditions for learning: Unit 20: Classroom Management Having personal possessions taken or destroyed Being shouted atTirednessBeing bullied Short term triggers of poor behaviour:

Being angry isn’t a problem in itself. It’s how you deal with it.

Quiz How did you score? Can you use this with others?

ANGRY BEHAVIOUR Non verbal: Aggressive Forms: slamming doors, leaning forward and glaring, pounding a fist, throwing something, hands on hips, pointing/jabbing finger. Verbal: Aggressive forms: attacking back, denying, raising voice tone, interrupting, dominating, repeating, swearing and name-calling, arguing, justifying, and rationalizing.

How often? Anger at homePoor Good Excellent Monday12345 Tuesday12345 Wednesday12345 Thursday12345 Friday12345 Saturday12345 Sunday12345

Measuring Anger Write down ten things and/or people and/or situations that have made you angry. They do not have to be in any particular order. 1.………………………………6.……………………………… 2.………………………………7 3.………………………………8.……………………………… 4.………………………………9.……………………………… 5.………………………………10.………………………………

What was the switch?

Creating a positive ethos and climate

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Important issues to consider when expressing anger: Do:  Wait until you are calm  Value the other person’s point of view (even when you disagree)  Express your feelings clearly  Offer a solution

Don’t  Blame the other person  Devalue the other person  Become confrontational  Exaggerate what has happened

Remember: Separate : The behaviour which has upset us The effect on our own behaviour The feelings it has created in us The solution you would like