Biblical Relationships Grace Fellowship Church June 12, 2009 Pastor Teacher, Jim Rickard

Part 6 Sexual Relations inside the Marriage 1 Cor 7:1-5; Prov 5:15-19

A. God’s Design

Hebrews 13:5, “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”

1 Peter 3:7 KJV, “Likewise, you husbands, dwell (have sex) with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

Gen 2:24, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”

1) God ordained sex for the completion of two bodies by designing them to become one flesh. This is accomplished in sex.

2) God designed sex so that each spouse would lack something whereby the other spouse would have control over his or her body. Therefore, He designed sex for recreation and procreation.

a) As recreation, sex provides the invisible walls around the marriage, expressing the unity, privacy, intimacy, and thoughtfulness in personal love.

b) As procreation, sex provides the means of perpetuation of the human race and the establishment of the family.

3) God invented sex for privacy and intimacy, and the expression of unity; providing separation from all others in life.

B. Sexual Relationship - An expression of a monopoly belonging to a husband and a wife.

1) In the function of sex in marriage there are two authorities:

1) In the function of sex in marriage there are two authorities: a) The wife has authority over the husband's body,

1) In the function of sex in marriage there are two authorities: a) The wife has authority over the husband's body, b) The husband has authority over the wife's body.

2) When two authorities coalesce in sex, there is equal authority, which is no authority. That means both take a vacation from their responsibilities.

3) In sex, virtue makes demands on the husband: thoughtfulness, tenderness, patience, self-control.

a) He must realize it is not the demand syndrome forcing her into something uncomfortable, and that self- gratification is an arrogant intrusion upon the meaning of sex.

b) He cannot subject her to abuse and mistreatment, and expect her to respond to his advances when he is ready to make love.

4) Likewise in virtue, the wife must have abandonment and initiation. She gives of her soul and body. 1 Cor 7:4-5

5) When there is denial of sex, the couple is vulnerable to any category of sin related to the trend of their Old Sin Natures.

6) In recreation, both get a vacation from their respective responsibilities inside the marriage. With intimacy, respect for the privacy of the other person is created.

7) In marriage, neither male nor female body is complete without the other, and sex portrays their interdependence.

8) Sex in marriage is God's invention and grace design, so that the structure and authority of marriage can take a brief holiday for recreation and refreshment. Prov 5:1-2, 15-19

Vs. 15, “From your own cistern and well” = your own wife in comparison to vs and

Vs. 16, “Springs” = fountains or gushing waters = the male sex drive, bubbling up and down becoming very turbulent, also indicating the woman’s extreme, beautiful, glorious passion.

Vs. 17, Prohibition of fornication. Tampering with God’s design only brings destruction. Prov 6:32

Only your Right Man or Woman is programmed to satisfy you physically and to quench the thirst of your soul at the same time, resulting in a happiness.

Vs. 18, Your sex life will be blessed only when you take pleasure in the RIGHT MAN or WOMAN.

Vs. 19, Speaking of symmetry and satisfaction of both female and male while being intoxicated with each other.

“Being exhilarated” There is no such thing as perversion in anything that you both agree on.

Conclusion: Sex demands virtue, tenderness, love, understanding, thoughtfulness, and tolerance.

On the man’s part wisdom, knowledge, communication, and self-control. On the Woman’s part submissiveness, abandonment, and joyful response.

When either party is not satisfied, there is inevitable frustration that can produce a great array of problems from your OSN.

When sex is part of virtue, it is a wonderful expression of privacy, intimacy, rapport and happiness inside the marriage.

Grace Fellowship Church Friday, June 12, 2009 Tape # 09F-006 Biblical Relationships, Part 6 Sexual Relations Inside the Marriage 1 Cor 7:1-5; Prov 5:15-19; Gen 2:24; Heb 13:5; 1 Peter 3:1-7 James H. Rickard Bible Ministries 2009