“Ur outfit is ugly…Just kiddin”-The Bully, the Bullied & the Bystander The Ethical Responsibilities of the School Counselor Donna Clark Love Bullying Prevention Trainer

BULLY” THE WORD “ BULLY” COMES FROM THE SCANDINAVIAN WORD, MOBBING. Dan Olweus, Bullying At School

“BULLYING” defined: A student is being bullied or victimized when he A student is being bullied or victimized when he or she is being exposed, repeatedly, and over time, repeatedly, and over time, to negative actions on the to negative actions on the part of one or more part of one or more students. students.

Bullying is an Imbalance of Power Bullying requires an imbalance of power between perpetrator and victim which may be manifested through physical might, intelligence, verbal, or social skills. Corbis Dan Olweus, Bullying At School

Intention to Harm, Disturb, or Intimidate Imbalance of Power Happens Often & Repeatedly Is Sufficiently Severe, Pervasive, & Persistent Is It Bullying? No Bullying ©Donna Clark Love

New Bullying Law definition now includes following components Expression through electronic means; Exploits an imbalance of power; Interferes with a student's education or substantially disrupts the operation of a school; Is sufficiently severe, persistent, AND pervasive enough…

Texas Bully Law House Bill 1942 – By law, we must have… An established procedure for reporting & investigating a bullying incident & determining whether the incident occurred Available counseling options for victim, witness and student A procedure for providing notice of an incident to a parent of both the victim and bully

Texas Bully Law House Bill 1942 – By law, we must have… Curriculum that addresses awareness, prevention, & intervention of bullying Policy which prohibits disciplinary measures for victims who use reasonable self-defense Reporting procedures must be posted on the district’s Internet website

The Legal Standard of Liability Schools can be charged with “deliberate indifference” in cases. The school is held responsible for “knowing" or “should have known” of the bullying conduct/incidents and was deliberately indifferent to the pattern of conduct.

Effective BP Frameworks have these (5) characteristics in common: Whole … Permission to … Consistent & Enforced Consequences… Support Activities/Interventions for … Bullying Prevention seen not as…

ASCA Ethical Standards for School Counselors A.1.- Is responsible for… A.3.- Works jointly with the counselee… A.6.- Screens prospective group members… C.1.- Treats colleagues with…

Eye Rolling Starting Rumors Gesturing Staring / Leering Writing Graffiti Threatening Name Calling Taunting / Ridiculing Digital Bullying Damaging Property Sexual Harassment Stalking Intimidation / Extortion Spitting / Pushing Shoving / Punching Hitting / Kicking Flashing a weapon Stabbing someone Shooting someone with a gun Johnson Institute

Counseling Options for Students who Bully Teach Difference between Aggression & Assertion Warn & Check- Classroom Interventions Create Opportunities for Positive power Teach Impulse Control Rituals of Respect Challenge Normative Beliefs Safety Plan Weekly Contracts/Tier of Consequences

Counseling Options for Students who are Victimized Challenge Normative Behaviors Encourage Involvement in Non-Competitive Recreation Small Friendship Groups on Specific Social Skills Real-Life Scenarios Cognitive Solution- Focused Approaches Confront CFOV- Distorted Thinking Design Safety Plan & Check-In System

Counseling Options for Bystanders Rituals of Respect Create Pledges/Championing a Cause Teach Group Peer Interventions Reward Outstanding Bystander Interventions or RAK Read BP Books that promote standing up for others

How Can a Bystander Intervene? Support a victim in private Alert an adult that a bullying situation is occurring Offer support to victim in presence of bully Join forces to protect a victim; teaming up with others ©Donna Clark Love

Stop the Bullying : On-The-Spot 1. Immediately… 2. Stand between Escort Do not ask Find out details Support...

What is Cyber Bullying? Cyber Bullying involves the use of information and communication technologies to deliberately harm or injure an individual or group.

Top (4) Cyber Bullying Infractions  Using images…  Stealing…  Sending…  Creating….

Cyber-Community Lingo  Chat room  Bulletin boards  Flame  Cyber-citizen  Cyber- space  Blogring  Twitter  Leet Speak  Sexting

Text Messaging & Instant Messaging Abbreviations: Commonly Used by Our Kids LOL IHU LOPSOD BFF URH MoS DIKU OLL “8” BRB URF BWL F2F PG11 TDTM PM G2B PAL CTN S  IPN BU  A/S/LURU GNOC TA CRS LMINRL LMAO 53X MYOB RUMORF © Donna Clark Love

Leet ( Leetspeak) A……4 /-1 B……8 13 C……( [ D….. I) [) E……3 F……I=

Cyber Pals Jasmine ( 5 th grader) and Nicole- Child Diabetes Darrell ( 3 rd grader) and ?- Comic Book Collector

Digital Bullying –Counseling Students Inform students to: Tell an adult you trust—parent, older sibling, teacher, etc if you receive inappropriate messages or postings. If you are being bullied, get offline immediately. Block unwanted or abusive s or instant messages. Never reply to harassing messages. If bullying includes physical threats, report to police, also. Save any harassing messages and forward to your parents, your Internet Service Provider and make a report to school. © D. Clark Love

Bullying Prevention Pledge We will not bully other students. We will try to help students who are bullied. We will make it a point to include ALL students who are easily left out. When we know someone is being bullied, we will stand up, or report it. D. Clark/M. Carpenter

Top Ten Efforts To Prevent Bullying School Wide 1. **Provide awareness training for students, teachers, administrators, parents, and other school staff.** 2. Select members for the BP task force, including students. 3. Select an on-site task force leader. D. Clark Love

Top Ten Efforts To Prevent Bullying School Wide 4. Assess your school’s needs and goals. 5. Develop an anti-bullying policy that includes digital bullying guidelines & consequences. 6. Implement uniform classroom rules to prevent bullying with consistent consequences. 7. Identify resources for bullies, victims, and families.

D. Clark Love Top Ten Efforts To Prevent Bullying School Wide 8. Provide increased supervising in areas where bullying tends to occur. 9. Integrate anti-bullying themes and activities into curriculum; make it part of the culture. 10. Involve parents and community.

Bullying is NOT accepted at our School! We will see that it comes to an end.

“You’ll look up and down streets. Look ‘em over with care. About some you will say, “ I don’t choose to go there.’ With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet, you’re too smart to go down any not-so-good streets.” Dr. Suess, “ Oh, the Places You’ll Go!”

Here, you are safe. Here, I will take care of you. Here, I will not hurt you. Here, you may not hurt yourself. Here, you will not be hurt. Here, you will be helped. Here, I will help you. Here, you will help. Here, you will be a friend. Here you will have friends. Here, I will be your friend. Mary N. Wonderlick Here………….

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