‘Everyone has a right to feel safe: speak up about the unspeakable!’ How to keep safe, and ask for help if you are worried about child abuse Information for children and young people Information has been compiled from various websites including NSPCC, Childline, NICE, Barnado’s, UNICEF, Calderdale Safeguarding Children’s Board

What is child abuse? Child abuse is any action by adult or another child that causes significant harm to a child or young person Did you know?... According to NSPCC over 51,000 children in England were identified as needing protection from abuse in 2017 Can anybody tell me what types of abuse there are?

Types of abuse Did you know there are 4 main types of abuse? Can anybody tell me what they are called? Physical Neglect Sexual Emotional/Psychological Other types of abuse you may have heard of include… Trafficking Grooming Parental substance misuse Domestic Abuse Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) Online Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE) Forced Marriage or Honour Based Violence Bullying Each one of these will fall under the 4 main types of abuse

Emotional/Psychological Physical when a grown up hurts a child on purpose, for example: hitting, shaking, burning and suffocating Sexual When somebody forces or persuades a child into taking part in sexual activities. This could be sexual intercourse, touching, taking photos, making them watch sexual content. Neglect when a parent or carer is not looking after a child properly. For example: not giving them enough food and drink, no heating, nowhere safe to sleep Emotional/Psychological When someone is horrible to a child. For example: being ignored on purpose, called names and getting unfairly blamed for lots of things. Can anybody name

Online Any type of abuse that happens online, by mobile, through gaming sites and social media. Grooming When someone builds a relationship with a child and then tricks them or pressures them into doing something sexual or criminal. This can happen online as well. Trafficking A child has been trafficked if he or she has been moved within a country, or across borders, whether by force or not, with the purpose of exploiting the child. This could be for child sexual exploitation, benefit fraud, forced marriage, domestic servitude (cleaning, child care, factory work etc.), criminal activity such as pickpocketing, begging, transporting drugs etc. Bullying/cyber bullying When somebody hurts someone else – such as name calling, hitting, pushing, spreading rumours, threatening. Cyber bullying is bullying that happens online e.g. social media. Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) FGM is when somebody removes part or all of the female external genitals. This is illegal in the UK, and is dangerous.

Forced Marriage and Honour Based Violence Forced Marriage is when a child (or an adult) is forced into getting married against their will. This is different to an arranged marriage. Honour Based Violence is a form of domestic abuse, and is when someone is punished for bringing ‘shame’ on their family. This can be physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, or controlling behaviour. Domestic Abuse When either a family member or somebody in a relationship with a family member physically hurts, threatens, says horrible things to or controls another family member. Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE) When somebody tricks a child into thinking they are in a relationship with them. They may give a child gifts, money or affection for performing sexual activities or letting others perform sexual activities on them. Parental Substance Misuse When parents or carers are under the influence of drugs or alcohol and are unable to care for their child properly or are unable to keep them safe.

Group Task Get into groups Look at the warning signs Can you match the warning sign with the type of abuse it goes with? 10 minutes Some may overlap – so you might find that more than 1 matches the warning sign

If someone asks you to send a sexual picture to them online If a female family member has had an operation to her private parts when on ‘holiday’ Someone is horrible to you and is calling you names on Facebook If an older person takes someone to a place they do not know in their car to meet other people, against their will Warning Signs If you hear shouting at home, or you see your mum or dad with bruises to their face Your friend comes to school with dirty clothes, smells and is hungry or thirsty Your mum keep telling you that you are useless and she wishes she never had you, and she wishes you were more like your brother or sister Can you tell me which abuse each warning sign matches to? Someone offering you money or a gift if you perform sexual things either on them, or on others.

Abuse can happen anywhere! Where can abuse occur? At home On the street In a hospital Online At a party On the bus or train At School Abuse can happen anywhere!

What does safeguarding mean? Safeguarding means promoting the rights and welfare of all children and young people but also protecting the most vulnerable from abuse and neglect and keeping them safe.

Who do you tell if you are worried? The first thing to do is to tell somebody that you trust and feel safe with! This might be …. Your parents or carer Another family member Your Doctor A teacher Sports coach A friend Your neighbour A friends parent Religious leader A school nurse But remember DO NOT TELL THE PERSON WHO IS ABUSING YOU! This could put you in danger

What will happen after you tell somebody They will then contact people who can help! But what if I wanted them to keep it a secret? Its important to remember that they need to keep you safe, so they will have to contact people like…

Who could be involved? The Police - This may because you are in danger Social Services - They could look at putting a plan together to protect you Your Doctor – if you need a medical examination But don’t worry, they are here to help you!

It’s ok to ask if you don’t understand something! Professionals who are helping you should… Take into account your opinion Tell you when they have to share information about you and your situation, Tell you what information they will share and who they will share the information with. Give you a choice of different therapies and support. Ask permission if they need to touch you (for example, to examine you) and explain what they are going to do. Help your parents and carers. Tell you how to contact them, including out of hours, and check how you want them to contact you. Share any reports and plans with you. Work with other organisations to make sure you don’t need to keep re-telling your story to different professionals. Write down, in your words, what you have talked about and get you to sign it – if you disagree with what they say, this should be written down too. It’s ok to ask if you don’t understand something!

How you might feel Remember that what happened was not your fault!

Useful information and websites www.nspcc.org.uk www.kidscape.org.uk/advice www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre www.childline.org.uk www.calderdale-safeguarding.co.uk