Habit 1 Be Proactive

Habit 1 BE PROACTIVE I am the force. Take responsibility for your life. Being proactive is more than taking initiative. It is accepting responsibility for our own behavior (past, present, and future) and making choices based on principles and values rather than on moods or circumstances. Proactive people are agents of change and choose not to be victims, to be reactive, or to blame others. They take an Inside-Outside Approach to creating changes. Habit 1 BE PROACTIVE What does this teen look like? What does the defective teen look like? The defective teen: Reactive- Blaming problems on others, not taking responsibility for life or actions, act without thinking, impulsive, no self control 2

Reactive vs. Proactive Proactive: The adjective proactive can describe a person who gets things done. If you are proactive, you make things happen, instead of waiting for them to happen to you. Reactive: To be reactive is to be ready to react or respond to something else — as opposed to be ready to act on one's own. A person who's reactive does things only in response to others.

proactive People vs Reactive People Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their actions Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens (resiliency) Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t Reactive People: Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they later regret Whine and Complain Wait for things to happen to them Change only when they have to

Video Carry your own weather https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0AsYQNfk8Uk

2 Volunteers 1 Reactive, 1 Proactive

Read pg 49-50

Proactive and Reactive Responses You over hear your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. She doesn’t know your overheard the conversation. Just five minutes ago the same friend was sweet talking you face to face. You feel hurt and betrayed. Give 4 reactive responses and 4 proactive responses.

Video Being proactive https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daymk2TWu1o

Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxNSNQayDxk

Situation and Response: On your Worksheet Match the situation and response. Put a P if it is Proactive and an R if it is Reactive

Read pg 51- Listen to your language

What language are you using? Reactive or Proactive? I’ll try I have to I’ll do it Let’s look at all of our options There’s gotta be a way I can’t You ruined my day I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me There’s nothing I can do That’s just the way I am I can do better than that *Reactive language takes the power away from you

Read pg 54-56 -Control

Control Circle of no Control Circle of Control Choices Attitude Rude comments Embarrassing Parents Color of skin

Stone video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75VZRXzUqAQ