Marriage, Communication, Lying & Cheating Unit 5 Marriage, Communication, Lying & Cheating

5 Types of Marriages Total: 10 years or more -Both partners have high self-esteem and contribute equally to the relationship Vital: Less than 10 years Conflict Habituated: A relationship characterized by fighting Passive Congenial: A relationship in which the 2 people stay together for convenience Devitalized: Was once strong but is no longer so

Marriage Statistics 50% of all marriages stay together and 50% do not The order of marriage success is 1,3,2 The three most common reasons for divorce are: children, sexual issues (affairs), money

Domestic Violence 60% of all couples experience some form of domestic abuse. DV is 50% female to male and 50% male to female 95% of DV serious damage is male to female Woman are more likely to be injured or killed by a boyfriend, husband or ex than anyone else in life. Cycle of Violence: Honeymoon, Tension, Abuse, Regret

Negative Communication Styles Placator: Makes the person feel better at all costs, even above their own self-worth Blamer: Puts responsibility on other person Distractor: Cannot stay focused on conversation at hand Moralizer: Brings religion into every conversation Sarcasm: Puts others down by ridiculing Know-it-All: Shows off knowledge to make others feel inferior

Healthy Communication Leveler: Open, honest communication sharing real feelings and not hiding from partner Healthy communication is the #1 factor in keeping relationships strong and people staying together.

Parenting Styles Authoritarian (Autocratic): Dictator, Do as I say, Inflexible; Likely to raise angrier, rebellious, or overcontrolled children Permissive (Laissez Faire): Allows kids to get away with everything; Allows kids to walk all over them. Kids are more often out of control Authoritative (Democratic): Best of parenting styles. Has firm but fair ways about them.

3 Stages of Morality Preconventional (5-10): Avoidance of consequence and gaining of rewards Conventional (11-15): Follows the law and peers Postconventional (16 - ): Follows one’s own morals and benefits society

Lying & Cheating Children first learn to lie at age 2 – 3. 70% of these children lie well, but can’t hide emotion By age 5, 95% of children lie well but still can’t hide emotion By age 8, 99% of children lie well and can hide emotion 100% of children who cheated on a test, lied about it 40% of young adults lied on a resume to get a job 40% of students cheat on a regular basis 60% of students cheat when a prize is offered Men lie for personal gain whereas woman lie to help people feel better.

Why Students Cheat Pressure to succeed Fear of failure Lack of morality Lack of thought of consequence Desire for immediate gratification

Compulsive Lying Compulsive Liar: Lies and knows they are lying. Pathological Liar: Lies and believes their own lies.

Lying Essay Discuss the importance of good character, genuineness and honesty. Include how and why lying can get people into trouble as well as any relevant statistics on lying. Finally, include how lying and/or honesty can factor into good family relationships, good marriages, and good parenting.

Essay Discuss the importance of good parenting and family life. Include in the essay the importance of honesty and integrity. Talk about how good parenting styles play a role in raising healthy children.