Internet Safety guide for parents PC Lesley Wakelin

Solutions and Strategies Contents I. Staying Safe Online II. Social Networking Sexting III. Cyberbullying IV. Solutions and Strategies V.

What are the risks they face? Staying safe online Children online What are the risks they face? Social networks Videos and pictures Gaming Inappropriate websites Cyberbullying These are what most children do online nowadays, each has its own potential to be harmful to children.

Guarding their Information NEVER SHARE: Staying safe online Guarding their Information NEVER SHARE: Date of birth Address Phone number School City Sports teams Parent’s workplace Passwords They must be told how important it is NEV ER TO SHARE any of this information with someone they don’t know online. Stress dealing with problems before they are problems, getting ahead of the game. All items listed could be used by a stranger wishing to find a child.

Limit Time Online Unplug and play Take time for family Staying safe online Limit Time Online Unplug and play Take time for family Face-to-face time with friends No substitute for real exercise and sports Encourage you children to spend time away from their computer/tablet/phone or game.

Make sure they understand the dangers Staying safe online Friend or Foe? Make sure they understand the dangers Seeing is not believing Never schedule offline meeting with “online only” friends They must tell you if anyone tries to meet with them offline 15-year-old girl on Facebook Recent examples: Man in UK created 8 different fake Facebook profiles to groom “up to 1,000 kids”; NAMBLA pages found on Facebook; in sextortion cases kids are tricked into revealing themselves in some way, and then the person uses the digital content to blackmail them into other things; in other cases the kids are tricked into doing things for other reasons, such as believing someone hacked into their Facebook profile or can get them into trouble somehow.

Communicate Talk to your kids about the internet. Staying safe online Communicate Talk to your kids about the internet. Make sure they understand they can talk to you if they are not happy. It’s always okay to ask questions Stay away from “adults only” sections of the Internet Much of the harm done to children could have been prevented if the kids just told a parent or authority figure

Staying safe online Webcam Safety If possible, deactivate or remove the webcam when you are not using it. Explain to them never take part in random chat. Only chat with family and friends Never do anything on a webcam they wouldn’t want you to see, Think before uploading video responses Video chat is often used by people to blackmail kids into doing something they are not comfortable with. Why it is best to only video chat with family and close friends. Stress kids should not do anything that makes them uncomfortable, even for a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Staying safe online Time and a Place Turn off their geolocation on social networks, phones and games. Never check in at school, church, or any place you visit regularly Check their privacy settings, it can never be too high. Geolocation apps often broadcast a child’s location to a potentially wide network of people, depending on how careful the child has been with their privacy settings

Be “Scam Smart” Don’t open strange emails Beware “free” downloads Staying safe online Be “Scam Smart” Don’t open strange emails Beware “free” downloads Don’t use P2P Don’t be a pirate This should be familiar to kids, but stress that piracy can result in lawsuits which could get them into a lot of trouble.

Keep It in the Family Explained to them: Staying safe online Keep It in the Family Explained to them: Don’t share family photos without permission Ask before uploading You can make a joke here about the photo ending up on awkwardfamilyphotos.com, lighten mood

Privacy? On the Web? Many children don’t understand: Staying safe online Privacy? On the Web? Many children don’t understand: All media is permanent All information is available If you don’t want people to know about it, don’t do it, and especially don’t do it online Glass house symbol for everything you do being visible: being on the Internet is like living in a glass house

Solutions and Strategies Contents I. Staying Safe Online II. Social Networking Sexting III. Cyberbullying IV. Solutions and Strategies V.

Choose Your Friends Social networking Things to explain to your kids: Only friend people you know well Don’t get into contest for who has the most friends Keep your group of friends small and get more out of Facebook Smaller group of friends means more relevant info to your life

Can you name these Logos: Social networking Social networking? Can you name these Logos: Pinterest Twitter Vine Google+ Facebook SnapChat WhatsApp Kik Tumblr YouTube LinkedIn Secret These are just a few of so many others. Ask these questions and see how many they can name. Also how many they use. Notice there are two icons for Twitter and the second should not be confused with Tumblr. Twitter Instagram Xing Whisper

Protect Your Info Social networking Things to explain to your kids: Don’t post phone numbers Don’t post address Avoid status updates with time and place references Don’t use Places Set all privacy settings to “Friends Only” Friends only makes sure that only their approved friends can see their photos and updates.

Facebook and Twitter No age limit Twitter = 13 + Facebook = Social networking Facebook and Twitter These are the most common But what are the age limits for use? Twitter = Facebook = No age limit 13 + Does anyone know that are restrictions for use of Facebook or Twitter?

Facebook Concerns for Parents Social networking Facebook Concerns for Parents Who is on Facebook (do you know them?) Do you know who your children are talking to? Pictures and videos. Who can see them, are your children tagged, could someone identify them and where the picture was taken? Do you know what to do if someone was bullying your child on Facebook? You might never know who your children are talking to. Make sure you know them. Just because your child’s security settings are high, their friends might not be. Anyone could see the photo of your child if it is on someone else’s wall. Facebook takes bullying very seriously and they should be contacted first.

A picture is worth… Social networking Your children should understand To ask permission to post photos of friends That they can un-tag pictures Avoid photos that reveal locations like home and school Report harmful photos

Solutions and Strategies Contents I. Staying Safe Online II. Social Networking Sexting III. Cyberbullying IV. Solutions and Strategies V.

SEXTING What Is It? Sexting is sending nude or semi-nude photos or videos by phone or social network. Often teens will send explicit images to their partner or friend for “their eyes only”.

How common Is It? SEXTING Channel 4 and the NSPCC carried out an investigation in 2012 asking 200 kids across 9 English counties One 15 year old girls said: “I get asked for naked pictures…at least two or three times a week”. If you want to show the full 11 min video it can be found here: http://www.channel4.com/news/generation-sex-explicit-pics-the-norm-for-teens

What are the dangers? SEXTING It is not harmless It’s illegal No control of images and how they are shared Vulnerable to blackmail, bullying and harm It is not harmless: Young people may see 'sexting' as harmless activity but there are risks. Taking, sharing or receiving an image, even voluntarily, can have a long-lasting negative impact. It’s illegal: It may be common but 'sexting' is illegal. By sending an explicit image, a young person is producing and distributing child abuse images and risks being prosecuted, even if the picture is taken and shared with their permission. No control: It's easy to send a photo or message but the sender has no control about how it's passed on. When images are stored or shared online they become public. They can be deleted on social media or may only last a few seconds on apps like Snapchat, but images can still be saved or copied by others. These images may never be completely removed and could be found in the future, for example when applying for jobs or university. Vulnerable: An offender may threaten to share the pictures unless they are given money, the child may be bullied if images are shared, they child may attract attention of sex offenders who might have seen the image online, and the children may suffer emotional distress.

What can you do? SEXTING Talk to your kids Explain the risks Reassure them you will be supportive and understanding If they can’t talk to you; they MUST TALK TO SOMEONE.

What if your child has been affected by sexting? Try to remain calm and supportive. Reassure your child that they are not alone. Listen and offer support – DO NOT criticise them. Don’t shout or make your child feel like it is their fault. Don't ask questions like "why have you done it", they will feel already feel embarrassed and guilty. Ask your child what they want to happen. Agree a set of actions to address the issue, such as reporting the abuse or getting additional counselling. If you have a trusted friend it may be helpful to discuss this with them. Consider calling the NSPCC helpline. Tell your child they can phone ChildLine for additional support. This list was taken from the NSPCC website

Prevention? SEXTING Talk to your kids Set up parental checks of their phone and computers. Visit your network website for more information Regular checks of their phone or computers.

Solutions and Strategies Contents I. Staying Safe Online II. Social Networking Sexting III. Cyberbullying IV. Solutions and Strategies V.

What Is Cyberbullying? Cyberbullying Bullying through electronic means Normally through social media and test message. This is against school rules and against the law

Response Cyberbullying Don’t react: responding to the bully only makes it worse Report the bullying to parents, teachers, and site admin Don’t participate Encourage others to stand up Photo is of a parent responding directly to cyberbullies, which only makes the problem worse. Use the phrase “Don’t feed the trolls”

Solutions and Strategies Contents I. Staying Safe Online II. Social Networking Sexting III. Cyberbullying IV. Solutions and Strategies V.

Teamwork Strategies Help your kids Help each other Communicate Cooperate Know when to unplug Help: educate your children about the Internet; Help each other to find and stop cyberbullying; Communicate: tell if something bothers you Cooperate: with monitoring efforts of parents

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