The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Life Skills 7 th grade

What can this book do for me? DO YOU: –W–W–W–Want to have more friends? –W–W–W–Want to quit fighting with family/friends? –W–W–W–Want more freedom at home? –W–W–W–Want more money? –W–W–W–Want better grades? –W–W–W–Want to perform better at sports? –W–W–W–Want to look better, feel better?

THEN THE 7 HABITS IS RIGHT FOR YOU!!

What are Habits? Habits are things we do repeatedly We are hardly aware we are doing them Our habits CAN MAKE US, OR BREAK US

In your notes… List some of your good habits Exercise regularly Exercise regularly List some of your bad habits Blaming others

Paradigm (pair-a-dime) The way you see something, your point of view, or belief Negative self paradigms can put limits on us Positive self paradigms can bring out the best in us

Paradigms (continued) Try to see another point of view, it can make a difference in your attitude towards others. Confidence needs to come from within, not from without.

** PRINCIPLES ** Are these GOOD Principles? Friend-centered Stuff-centered Boyfriend or girlfriend-centered School-Centered Parent-centered THE CENTER THAT WORKS IS….

****** PRINCIPLE- CENTER!!!!!******* H o n e s t y Hard work Love Loyalty Responsibility Respect

PRINCIPLES Putting Principles First is the To becoming a person of character Remember that breaking principles will always catch up with you

Personal Bank Account (PBA) Symptoms of a poor PBA: Cave in to peer pressure easily Act arrogant to help hide your own securities Symptoms of a healthy PBA: You are goal-driven You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure

HOW DO I BUILD UP MY PBA? Keep promises to yourself Keep promises to yourself Do small acts of kindness Do small acts of kindness Don’t expect yourself to be perfect Don’t expect yourself to be perfect Be honest Be honest Tap into your talents Tap into your talents

HABIT #1: BE PROACTIVE There are two types of people: There are two types of people: Proactive Reactive Proactive ReactivePROACTIVE  Proactive people make choices based on values based on values  They think before they act  Examples…….

***Are you a REACTIVE person?*** Do you….. Do you….. Make choices based on impulse? Make choices based on impulse? Blame others? Blame others? Blow up on your parents? Blow up on your parents? Your friends? Your friends? Give in to peer pressure? Give in to peer pressure?

PROACTIVE TOOLS Tool #1: Self-Awareness: have your own TV. show Tool #1: Self-Awareness: have your own TV. show Tool #2: Conscience: Jiminy Cricket Tool #2: Conscience: Jiminy Cricket Tool #3: Willpower: The power to choose Tool #3: Willpower: The power to choose

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind   Why is it important? – –The path you choose now can effect you for-ev-er…. – –If you don’t decide your own future, someone else will do it for you – –“It is better to have no friends for a short time than to have the wrong friends for a long time”

 Make up your own definition: –You have 2 minutes…. If you want to accomplish this goal, it must be specific; example: Good Goal: This summer, I will become a better basketball player by attending three camps, and running at least 3 times a week, and lifting weights 3 times a week Bad Goal: I want to be good at basketball..,..

Habit 3-Put 1 st things 1 st !! What is it?: Managing your time so that your important things come 1 st, not last What is it?: Managing your time so that your important things come 1 st, not last We need WILL POWER We need WILL POWER –Say yes to important things (ex. Study for test) WE need WON’T POWER WE need WON’T POWER –Say no to less important things and to peer pressure (ex. Hanging out with friends)

HOW CAN WE PLAN AHEAD? Please write down 3 steps that can help you plan your week. STEP 1:Identify Big Rocks STEP 2:Block out time for Big Rocks STEP 3: Schedule everything else

Relationship Bank Account Do you want to be successful? Do you want to make lots of money? Do you want to be happy? Do you want lots of friends? WE ALL NEED TO GET ALONG…

YOUR RBA IS LIKE A CHECKING ACCOUNT Make deposits, relationship goes Take withdrawals, relationship goes Examples of deposits: Keep promises to parents

Habit #4: Think WIN-WIN!! There are 4 attitudes towards life: There are 4 attitudes towards life: 1. Win-Lose 2. Lose-Win 3. Lose-Lose 4. WIN-WIN

Habit #4 Continued. The Tumor Twins (page 155) Competing Competing Good b/c drives you to do your best…BUT Good b/c drives you to do your best…BUT There is a DARK SIDE There is a DARK SIDE Comparing Comparing Comparing yourself to others is BAD NEWS.. Don’t get caught up in the game.. How you dress, look, etc.

Would You… –Like to get along with your parents/friends better? –Make more friends?

The 5 POOR LISTENING SKILLS ARE: S P A C E D O U T PRETEND LISTENING Selective listening Word Listening Self-centered Listening (judging)

Make Eye Contact Use Body Language Give Feedback LET’S PRACTICE GOOD AND BAD LISTENING…..

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create a better solution than either could do alone Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create a better solution than either could do alone

So…what exactly is synergy? (page 182) - Celebrating differences -Teamwork -Being open-minded -Thinking you’re always right -Being prejudice, -Working independently

There are 4 parts to keep sharp TTTThe Body TTTThe Brain TTTThe Heart TTTThe Soul