HOW DO I STAND IN YOUR SHOES? ABC CHAMPION YEAR LESSON #6 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Notice, Name and Understand the Feelings of Others 2| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Getting Started Remind students of last month’s book: Through My Eyes Or Ruby Bridges Last month, we imagined what it would be like to see the world “Through My Eyes”, the eyes of Ruby Bridges. We named the emotions Ruby felt as a little girl, and imagined what it would be like to feel the same way. We imagined ways we could be UPstanders when we see and hear unfairness. 3| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Getting Started: For ABC Readers Developing empathy requires us to become aware of, understand and acknowledge the feelings of others. The first step to identifying understanding the feelings of others is to be able to identify and understand our own feelings. 1. It is important to be able to identify that “I feel _________.” 4| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing the Book Option 1: Feelings Charades 5| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing the Book Option 3: If you really knew me… Ask the students to go around the circle and share something “most people do not know about me.” Examples: my hobby, favorite activity, food, place to travel, books, something you made, a special talent, etc. As students share, the ABC Reader can role model showing empathy by: noticing, naming and stating your understanding of their sharing. –I notice that you are excited about learning to juggle. It must feel great to learn something hard like that! Ask students to take over as the “empathy role model” as you move around the circle. –Allow students to “pass” first time around. Follow-up by asking if anyone else would like to share as you complete the circle. 6| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing and Reading the Book Look at the title: How Do I Stand In Your Shoes? Ask students: What does the title mean? Have you heard this expression before? Notice the emotions that Miranda and her classmates experience in the story. At first, Miranda does not notice, name or understand the feelings of the other characters. Look for words, facial expressions, body language and other emotional clues that Miranda misses. 7| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Introducing and Reading the Book Upper grade students may enjoy this video written, performed and filmed by a group of 8 th grade students. To see the video of Empathy Can Change the World go to this URL: 8| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Discussing the Book Tell me about Miranda. What were some things she did well? What were some things that made it difficult to be in her class? Name some of the feelings and emotions in the story. At first, Miranda had little patience, was frustrated, and angry at her classmates. How did Miranda learn about empathy? How did Miranda learn to stand in someone else’s shoes? Who are caring adults in Miranda’s life? 9| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Discussing the Book Extending the conversation… What is empathy? Why is it important for us to be able to stand in someone else’s shoes? What can people at school do or say to express empathy and understanding for others? For deeper discussion… What makes it easy to show empathy for someone? What makes it hard to show empathy for someone? How can empathy make our school feel safer and more caring? What can one person, you, do? 10| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Digital Citizenship Discussion: Miranda had trouble noticing, naming and understanding the emotions of others. What makes figuring out emotions online challenging? Mean and hurtful online messages need to be stopped. –Put-downs, rumors, gossip, name-calling… How can you show understanding and caring online? 11| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For youth Taking the lesson from the classroom to the playground School Wide Friendship Plan Notice, name and understand feelings em·pa·thy ˈ emp ə THē/noun the ability to understand and share the feelings of another 12| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Empathy Skill Building: For youth Taking the lesson from the classroom to the playground Debrief: Picture in your mind a person at your school who you know needs support. Perhaps this activity has inspired you to show them empathy. Keep that person in mind today. You are the UPstander they have been hoping to meet. 13| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE Will YOU try it, today?

Empathy Skill Building: For adults Will YOU try it, today? Use the empathy building steps of: 1.Stop 2.Breathe 3.Listen 4.Respond 14| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Activity Ideas See Reading Guide, pages 5-8 See Outline, pages | How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Activity Ideas: The Listening Game Materials: None Directions: Say to students, “Sometimes our friends and family feel that their buckets are low and need us to listen when we are busy. In order to show empathy, we need to stop, listen and understand what they are saying. Look for a quiet place to do this. The following activity will help you practice listening only.” 1.Sit facing each other in chairs with your knees almost touching. 2.Decide who will be “the talker” and who will be “the listener”. 3.“The talker” will talk for 1 minute. 4.Here is the topic: Talk about a time you had a problem. What did you do? How did you solve it? Or Talk about something you love to do. 5.“The listener” is not allowed to talk, question, or respond with words. He/she must listen closely for 30 seconds. Stop, breathe, listen. 6.When 1 minute is up, “the listener” shares for 30 seconds what they heard. (Again, this is without interruption.) 7.Next, switch roles! “The listener” becomes “the talker” and “the talker” becomes “the listener”. Debrief: How did you feel doing this activity-as the listener and as the talker? How can the listening game help you understand and try to stand in their shoes? Challenge: In everyday conversations, use the steps of: stop, breathe, listen and respond to help us stand in someone else’s shoes. 16| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Ask students to share how they Notice their own feelings and the feelings of others. Ask students to Name some of the feelings the group noticed today. Have them close their eyes and think about standing in someone else’s shoes. Understand that we can share the same feelings. Commit to sharing an act of caring with someone today. Share your plan with a partner. 3-Minute Huddle: ABC Reader 17| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Next Steps: Communication Parent Letter- Strengthen the Home and School connection by sending the parent letter, every month. Staff Letter and Resources- Strengthen your relationship with the teacher by offering ABC Resources and the staff letter, every month. 18| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Next Steps: School Wide Extension Idea Positive Footprints To see the video “Leaving a positve footprint” visit the following URL. 19| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

School Wide Extension Ideas: Bonus! Steps to a Real Apology: 1.Do an Empathy Check. Notice that your words or actions have hurt someone. 2.Be Responsible. Use an “I” statement. “Oops! I spilled your drink!” 3. Acknowledge the impact. “I’m sorry. I got your shirt all wet! You must be cold.” 4. Deal with the consequences. “Let me get some napkins to dry you off. Would you like to wear my sweatshirt for the day?” 5. Commit to change. “Next time, I will be more careful.” 20| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE

Closing Comments Reading Schedule Sign-in Reporting Procedure Planning Support Next Meeting Date School-wide Calendar and Asset Building opportunities More… 21| How Do I Stand In Your Shoes?| ©2014 PROJECT CORNERSTONE