2 Learning Essential Questions What skills are needed to be a parent and how are they acquired?What are some effective methods of guiding the behaviors of young children?How can a parent evaluate substitute care?
3 Unit Vocabulary Accreditation Conscience Deprivation Guidance License NurturingSelf DisciplineSubsidized Child Care
5 Discuss with your partner: Is parenting something that come naturally or is it learned.Share with the class
6 Parenting Requires Understanding of a child’s needs Requires good judgmentwhen to help, when to back offavoid pushing a childchange skills as child agesReasonable expectationsstages they go throughnatural behaviors (say no, temper tantrum)respect the difference among children
7 Parenting Styles Authoritarian Parent centered Child has no say Children obey parentsDisciplineSometime physical“what I say goes”Very inflexibleall-about-motherhood.com
8 Parenting Styles Democratic 50/50 relationship Discussion on rules Discussion on punishmentChild gets to explainChild has freedom with a set of rulesparenting-healthy-children.com
9 Parenting Styles Permissive Child centered No real rules Child learns from mistakesNo disciplineConsequences of poor behavior is enough disciplineall-about-motherhood.com
10 Parenting StylesNow it is your turn. You named famous families the other day. Take those cards and not decide what style of parenting they use. Tape the card on the board next to parenting style.When everyone is done, we will discuss if everyone agrees where they are.
11 Parenting Styles Most important thing to remember: Very few parents use one style all the time. Most parents are a combination of styles.Sometimes they change styles because of situations or people involved.All styles have advantages and disadvantages.
12 Tasks of Parenting MEETING CHILD’S NEEDS Food, clothing and shelter AS YOU ARE WRITING THESE, LEAVE SPACE TO ADD INFOMEETING CHILD’S NEEDSFood, clothing and shelterSafety and healthTeaching them a languageIntellectual growthTeach them to get along with othersProvide opportunities to love and show love
13 1. Meeting Child’s Needs The first one is pretty easy. For numbers 2-6, each group of two will come up with at least 2 examples of how parents can provide for this need.When you are done, everyone will share their ideas with the class.
14 2. NurturingThis is giving opportunities for encouragement (loving) and enrichment (learning). As a parent, you need to show love, support and concern for your child.Parents must remove barriers that prevent children from experiences and learning (examples)
15 2. NurturingSome children suffer from deprivation. What is deprivation? it has nothing to do with poverty it has nothing to do with income It has everything to do with giving a child experiences and not missing the “windows of p\opportunity”.
16 2. NurturingHow can parents help to develop thinking skills in their child?Let child do things themselves (no help)Give hints, don’t tellPraise their successes (all good)Give them too much information (details)
20 2. NurturingSome parents may have trouble showing affection to their child. Why?Some parents do not like to show affection towards boys. WhySome parents may be over-protective of their children. Is this good or bad?
21 3. Communicating Positively Remember, communication means you are a good listener who shows respect for their child as well as talking to your child.
22 3.Communicating Positively Tips for good communicationKid wordsClearBe positive and polite (not please)PraiseTalk not commandInterests
24 3. Communicating Positively Time for practice. How would you say this is a positive way? Remember that please and thank you do not make it positive.
25 3. Communicating Positively Don’t throw the ball?
26 3. Communicating Positively Keep your hands off the glass vase. You will break it!
27 3. Communicating Positively Don’t spillyour milk! Mommy will be very mad at you.
28 3. Communicating Positively How many times have I told you not to leave your toys laying all over the house. Someone is going to step on one of them and get hurt.
29 3. Communicating Positively Stop pulling the cat’s tail. You will infuriate her and she will injure your severely?
30 3. Communicating Positively Don’t eat those cookies before dinner! It will ruin your appetite.
31 3. Communicating Positively Do not open the door and go outside and play in the street. It can be extremely dangerous and hazardous to your health and well being.
32 Think about….A time when you did not behave properly? Briefly explain what happened Tell us how people around reacted Tell us how an adult reacted (parent) Was that effective in stopping the behavior
33 Some Examples(car seat)(change dress)(grocery store)(guitar hero)
34 Guidance Define? process of controlling actions of child Goal? giving advicehelp understand behavior & consequencesGoal?have child act in a developmentallyappropriate manner/socially acceptableself disciplineHow?use firmness and understanding to teachbehavior control
35 Remembering that guidance is the big picture… Why do children need guidancethroughout their life?Help learn to get along with othersLearn to handle feelings in an acceptable wayDevelop positive feelings about themselvesLearn moral development (conscience)
37 Discipline Define? small part of guidance control behavior Goal? obedience?acceptable behaviorHow?age appropriatepunishment
38 Punishment Define? penalty/consequence for misbehavior small part of disciplineGoal?control behaviorHow?individual decisionself esteem of the child is essential
39 What is the most important word for a parent to remember? Consistency What does it mean? Everyone doing the same thing, the same way, every time!
40 Why is consistency so important? Children learn to trust the adults in their life. Without consistency: lose trust --- lose confidence --- become confused --- become insecure --- child will not listen (behave)
41 Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior Tell child exactly what is expected.Examples:Toys awayDishes away
42 Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior Set a good example.Children imitate adults.Child learn by being shown.Examples:LanguageActions
43 Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior Praise appropriate behaviorPositive reinforcementWorks for most childrenBehavior and not childjuliecantrell.wordpress.com
44 Praising Behaviors Be specific/clear Notice behavior when happens Recognize small stepsHelp them be proud of themselvesEncourage in problem areasmomsndads.compregnancyihub.com
45 Offering ChoicesChildren do not have good problem solving skills. Encourage them to make their own decisions. Be sure to offer no more than 2 good choices.
46 Setting Limits for Children Why do parents need to set limits?Physical restrictionsRules of behaviorWhat should limits achieve?Keep children from hurting themselvesKeep children from hurting othersKeep children from hurting property
47 Setting Limits for Children Limits should be few.Limits should be reasonable.Limits should be clear.Limits should be repeated oftenmentalhelp.net
48 Setting Limits for Children As a parent, ask yourself: Does this still allow child to learn, explore and grow? Is it fair and age appropriate? Is it for the good of the child or adult?
49 Now that you know…You and your partners will be given a situation. As the parent, you need to set 3 GOOD, AGE APPROPRIATE, well worded limits for your child.Think about the rules for setting limits.Be ready to share your limits with the class.You have 3 minutes.