2.  Conflict is a normal part of daily life.  While we cannot avoid conflict there are methods we can learn in order to handle conflict in a constructive manner.  Health care workers need to develop the skills to handle many different situations before they escalate.

3.  Conflict is common when there is a lack of good communication.  Many problems can be avoided by active listening.  In active listening, you don’t judge the other person.  Instead, you try to understand the speaker’s experience, feelings, and point of view.

4.  Make sure the speaker really knows you’re listening.  Pay attention and use eye contact if possible.  Clarify anything you are not sure you understand by restating what you heard.

5.  Avoidance – steering clear of conflict.  Confrontation – a tough, aggressive, in-your- face approach to conflict.  Problem Solving—working to find solutions to conflict.

6.  If avoidance is your style, you see conflict as a threat.  It scares you and makes you uncomfortable.  So you might go along with what other people want to do, without saying what you want.  You might let others treat you rudely or unfairly, without speaking up.  It may be hard for you to express your feelings or stand up for your values.

7.  Sometimes avoidance is smart – like staying away from a corner where a tough gang hangs out.  But if you always try to avoid conflict, you may feel angry and resentful about what you put up with.  And when you don’t say what you think and feel, you shut other people out.  That can make you feel lonely.

8.  If confrontation is your style, you see conflict as a battle, and you want to win.  You tend to jump on anybody who disagrees with you or criticizes you.  You argue, you try to dominate, you threaten, and you may get abusive—either physically, by fighting, or verbally, by insults or sarcasm.

9.  Sometimes confrontation is necessary—for instance, if someone attacks you physically.  But if you make a habit of being confrontational, you’ll get into a lot of fights and a lot of trouble.  Other people may avoid you.  You may miss a lot of chances to learn about others and about yourself, because you don’t talk about what you—or others—really think and feel.

10.  If problem solving is your style, you’re not threatened by conflict, and you don’t fear it—you see it as a natural part of life.  You’re a good listener, you freely state your own feelings and opinions, and you’re willing to compromise.  You enjoy the give-and-take that happens when people work out problems together.  You believe that when conflict occurs, it’s possible for everyone to win.

11.  If you’re a problem solver, you probably get along with many different people.  You don’t waste your energy fighting, and you don’t get hung up on feelings of resentment.  You know yourself pretty well, and you enjoy getting to know others.  Problem solving takes skills.  Having these skills makes you feel confident.

12.  Gather Information –assess the situation and obtain facts  Identify the problem or issue-what is the cause of the stress  List possible solutions-find all the ways to eliminate the stress  Make a plan-evaluate the possible solutions and choose one  Act on your solution—use the solution  Evaluate the results—did it work  Make changes if needed