1. WHAT IS YOUR STARTING POINT? KNOW YOURSELF

2. UNIQUE Rabbi Soloveitchik My generations Rav Dessler

3. NATURE VS. NURTURE That’s just who I am That’s how I was raised Choice My voice Avraham Rosh Chodesh Nikudat habichira/point of choice

4. NATURE Genes Temperament Learning ability Health Creativity What would you add to this list?

5. NURTURE Birth time/year Birth place/country Family of origin Socio-economic status Coping mechanisms What would you add to this list?

6. CHALLENGES Internal 1.Brain chemistry 2.Attitude 3.Health External 1.Single parenthood 2.Angry or oppositional relatives 3.Financial woes What would you add to this list?

7. MIDDOT Hacarat HaTov (recognition) Thankfulness (appreciation) Chesed Zareizut/Alacrity Seder/organization Anger (ease of getting, depth, length, appeasement) Sadness Simchat HaChaim Samayach b’chelko Hatmada/stick-to-itiveness/zitzfleish

8. CHOICES School/education Health (nutrition/drugs/exercise/sleep) Financial (earn, spend, save, give) Body use (shmira, nezek) Relationships (give, take, kind, harsh) Marriage (faithful, growing, supportive) What would you add to this list?

9. ASSETS Enjoyable temperament 1.Happy 2.Easy-going 3.Seeks and remembers good Loving and supportive family Financially comfortable Pleasant community what would you add to this list?

10. DESIRES Thin Beautiful Rich Healthy Organized Focused Learned Strong Marriage Peaceful home Increased emunah

11. DREAMS Thin/Beautiful => look like ______ Healthy => lean, strong, drug free, alert (well slept) Organized => surfaces clear, calendar kept, no overdrafts Focused => clear goals, clear steps to achieve them, daily inspiration Learned => know Shas, poskim, Rambam, Zohar Strong Marriage => loving feelings, support each other Increased emunah => Feel Hashem’s presence in my life Dream Big!!! Goals are dreams with a deadline --- Diana Scharf Hunt

12. GOALS AND DREAMS Goals are something you act upon. Dreams are something you just think about. Goals have deadlines. Dreams are just dreamy. Dreams are free. Goals have a cost. Goals produce results. Dreams don’t. Dreams are imaginary. Goals are based in reality. Goals have a finish line. Dreams never have to end. Dreams can inspire you. Goals can change your life. Goals must have focus. Dreams don’t. Goals require hard work. Dreams just require your imagination. Dreams stretch your imagination. Goals stretch you.

13. STATEMENT OF UNIQUENESS I am a ____ year old man/woman created in the image of Hashem. I have a unique nature, nurture, history, and set of dreams and goals. B’ezrat Hashem, I can use (am using/will use/plan to use) my special self to create a singular relationship with Hashem. Through that, I can shine (am shining/will shine) my light, and the light of Hashem, into my life, my family, my community and the whole world.

14. LIFE BALANCE Looking at the various areas of our life Make Our Dreams into Goals Make sure our goals are reasonable 1.Make sure we are not overreaching 2.Make sure we are not under reaching